Advice needed, rehearsal dinner issue

Re: Advice needed, rehearsal dinner issue

• rblucy

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  Do guests expect a "formal" rehearsal dinner?  If I was going to a rehearsal dinner, I'd likely just wear a sun dress.  If you've informed them it is formal, I would go with the Hudson Room.  If you did not specify attire, I'd go with the Breakfast Room with the extra space. 

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• chrisnjay2010

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  you are the bride so your dress can be as fancy as you choose.  I agree with pp- what did you tell your guests or did you not specify as to dress code for the rehearsal? 
  
  also do you want people up and mingling at the rehearsal? how tight will it really be?  I would probably go for the extra space if it were me.  Plus since you planning on rehearsing there, you dont want to be moving tables and such.

  

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• mrsredmoose

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  Thanks, ladies!  When guests asked about what to wear, I told them either dress pants or a sundress; nothing super formal.  I just feel silly dressing up in a super casual spot in a dress that I'd wear to a black tie wedding. Maybe the breakfast room is the best option since I do want them to be able to mingle- guests are flying in from Minnesota, Florida and Texas and there is a lot of catching up to do.  Plus, we are having 7 children and it's usually best to give them a little room.  It's just that the room is, well, ugly; it feels like sitting in a McDonalds.  Again, not the end of the world.  It just annoys me that we're paying a high price as it is and this is not the first problem we've had with this vendor.
  
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• chrisnjay2010

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_advice-needed-rehearsal-dinner-issue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:113Discussion:c78ec93d-3541-4836-852e-7c3339c5b5cbPost:4f2df64c-ec9f-4302-ba30-99396b1840f7">Re: Advice needed, rehearsal dinner issue</a>:
  [QUOTE]Thanks, ladies!  When guests asked about what to wear, I told them either dress pants or a sundress; nothing super formal.  I just feel silly dressing up in a super casual spot in a dress that I'd wear to a black tie wedding. Maybe the breakfast room is the best option since I do want them to be able to mingle- guests are flying in from Minnesota, Florida and Texas and there is a lot of catching up to do.  Plus, we are having 7 children and it's usually best to give them a little room.  It's just that the room is, well, ugly; it feels like sitting in a McDonalds.  <strong>Again, not the end of the world.  It just annoys me that we're paying a high price as it is and this is not the first problem we've had with this vendor.</strong> I
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  that stinks, maybe you they can do something about the price for this inconvience especially since its only 8 days away

  

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• SandDD member

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  I would definitely talk to them about the price.  You shouldn't have to pay for something that you're not getting!  8 days isn't exactly great notice. 
  
  Would you mind sharing other issues you had with them, if you don't mind? I'm considering using them for our hotel block. 

  
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• mrsredmoose

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_advice-needed-rehearsal-dinner-issue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:113Discussion:c78ec93d-3541-4836-852e-7c3339c5b5cbPost:175428b3-ef8a-4826-a183-ccea3a911df5">Re: Advice needed, rehearsal dinner issue</a>:
  [QUOTE]I would definitely talk to them about the price.  You shouldn't have to pay for something that you're not getting!  8 days isn't exactly great notice.  Would you mind sharing other issues you had with them, if you don't mind? I'm considering using them for our hotel block. 
  Posted by SandDD[/QUOTE]
  
  YGPM.  I want to give them a chance to resolve the issues before posting as I am in a pretty POed mood right now.

  

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• TerriandJoe

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  Ditto all pp's
  
  You can dress in a ballgown if you want - you are the bride! Even at the rehearsal!
  
  Because they first booked you in the ballroom, you should definitely try to negotiate the price. You want the evening before your wedding to be special, a nice meal, not a "happy meal"
  
  But between the two rooms, go for the one with a bit more space, especially since you need to rehearse and want guests to mingle and catch up. Also, if the weather is warm, it might get too hot in the smaller room.
  
  Good luck! Hope it works out for you!
  
  

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• reddamask member

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  I would go for the space, but make sure the location is aware of what they are costing you. If they dont immediately offer some compensation, make a big stink about the dress to your venue. Point out that you spent X dollars, and that they are giving you next to no notice. Mention you are and will sharing your experiences on several wedding boards, and you would like all your reviews to be possitive. They should give you some compensation on the cost, and/or some kind of extra for the problem.
  
  Also, do you have the exact room in your contract? If so your position is stronger
  

  

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• mrsredmoose

  

  August 2010 edited December 2011

  Update:  Fi and I met with Lauren twice yesterday.  She was very helpful.  We had to nix the Hudson Room b/c it was too small for a disharmonious family and several strollers.
  
   I was being a snob about the breakfast room.  It could have made a nice spot once the coffee dispensers and toasters were removed, but it was right across from check in and that's where my guests will be eating breakfast for 2 days. So, we decided to stay with the loud ballroom for now and come back later in the evening when a band was actually playing.
  
  We ending up moving an extra partition away from the ballroom so there is some more of a buffer from the bands music.  It's still a bit on the small side, but I believe there will be enough room to keep certain family members comfortable.  And, I can still wear the dress I planned on wearing.
  
  I really do appreciate the heads up about the noise from Lauren.  No one would have been happy with that volume of music competing with their dinner.  I'm just crossing my fingers that my new room stays quiet b/c the sample band we heard was a jazz band and "a very loud rock band") will be playing the night of our RD. Lauren did promise that she will keep the dance floor and band away from a specific area to keep a buffer and they will open the partitions after our dinner for more room for the band.  I though that was a fair comprise.  I don't care how loud they want to play as long as it's not from 7:30 to 9:30pm.
  
  BTW, we had the ballroom stipulated in our contract, but they said that it is subject to change in the event that something comes up (meaning more revenue wins)
  
  Thanks for all of your help ladies!
  

  

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