Dumb questions

boogerbearoriginal · April 2010

Why do people ask me dumb questions? Like - are you nervous?

Should I be nervous - are you trying to imply that by getting married I'm making a mistake that I should be nervous about? If so, is it because of FI or just marriage in general?

I get that marriage is a big life-altering decision but you don't think I've thought this through?

I think I've officially gone off my rocker but seriously I'm annoyed by that question.

Anyone else get dumb questions asked of them?

Kelki · April 2010

How about "why are you getting married?" or "Do you know what the divorce rate is?"

My personal Favorite NWR stupid question is (because I am a twin): "If I hit you, will she feel it?"

And the answer is no, for anyone that's curious.

Gwenwhyfare · April 2010

I've come to the conclusion that people are just nosy. I don't think they're necessarily implying that you should be nervous about marriage. If you were nervous about marriage, why would be getting married? I was asked this several times Friday evening, by family members.

The question I'm asked all the time is how much more do we have to do. As if I don't have a handle on planning this thing. We have the big stuff done, now it's just the little things that need to fall into place.

thecatsfancy · April 2010

My personal favorites...which you will start being asked in ohhhh, 5 days or so:

How's married life? Does it feel any different?
I really want to tell them it's absolutely horrible and I can't stand being married. Oy.

cmkuno · April 2010

I keep getting asked by my side of the family why we're not getting married in my home town. Um, because I didn't want to! Do I need a good reason? Funny thing is, I feel like I have plenty of good reasons, but apparently none are good enough! Oh well.

blackberryaddict · April 2010

Future aunt in law keeps asking when our wedding date is - this by far is the most annoying question ever. We sent her a STD and an invitation.. She already RSVP'ed, so clearly she knows when it is. QUIT ASKING ME!! asd;flaksdf;laksdfjl

kristinandbill · April 2010

I got REALLY irritated with the stupid questions prior to our wedding. And I think it’s rude. I’m getting married because I think it’s a good idea. So PLEASE stop telling me not to go through with it. It’s not like these people have a serious concern and are really warning me. They’re rude strangers or acquaintances. For example, I had to go back to my car before I could pass through security when I went to get our marriage license. I asked the guard if there was someplace I could store my phone since I had parked so far away. He said I need the long walk, maybe I’ll change my mind about getting married on the way. SERIOUSLY? Go away.

Thank you. Vent over.

Sue-n-Kevin · April 2010

So far I haven't had any stupid questions regarding the wedding.

My experience is that if people ask if you are nervous about anything (wedding, pending baby, etc), it's whether you are nervous that everything will go well, not about the "event" itself.

shadow0304 · April 2010

I get asked almost daily, verbatim, "How's the wedding planning going?" I know people are just trying to be nice, but I'm sick of answering. Uh, big parts are done, details are not.

ejay · April 2010

I just got a good one from FI... he calls me to tell me that one of his friends doesnt want to spend the extra money on buying his girlfriend a plane ticket home for the wedding... so FI wants to know if I invited a "hot single lady" that I can seat the friend next to at the reception.

I simply said, "I'm going to hang up on you right now and pretend you didn't just ask me that...."

abbeylynne06 · April 2010

I'm just finishing up my student teaching, so I keep getting asked, things such as, "Do you have a job lined up?" (NO, which makes things real awkward). Or, to do one even better, "Are you nervous that you won't be able to find a job?" Um, yes, acutally I am, thanks for bringing that up. Nothing like light small talk, right?

I had one woman suggest that I move to South Dakota to find a teaching job. I told her I had to stay here, because Fi is finishing up his schooling here, and she goes, "Well, you're not married yet." Um, HELLO... fiance = getting married.

People.

cmkuno · April 2010

Ejay's story reminded me of a good one we got this weekend. One of FI's relatives called to say they can't make it to the wedding. However, they said that another relative (I don't remember who she is exactly, but quite distantly related to FI) would love to come, and basically asked if she could take their seat. What?!? It doesn't work like that!!! We have our own B list if you can't come! You can't RSVP no, but say we'd like to send another family representative in our place! Come on people, sheesh...

Luckily, FI had the good sense to politely get out of that one.

catstoy73 · April 2010

Dave's buddy always asked this as the wedding got closer, "Are you sure you want to go through this again? You have everything you need and why ruin a good thing?" He even said this in front of me. Dave politely told him, "Yes I do know what I am doing. I love Cathleen and what exactly would I be giving up? Nothing. I am very happy I get to spend the rest of my life with the woman I love." Dave made me tear up and I told his buddy that it's not Dave's problem he doesn't have a girlfriend, quit being jealous of him and get his own life.

My new favorite question (along with my answer) is, "Now that you have been married a while, when are you going to have kids?" My answer (depending on who they are), "When are you going to have kids/grandkids yourself?" or "When are you going to get married?" Just because I am married doesn't mean I am: a) going to have kids right away; b) I can have kids; and c) It's none of your business!

Bethbethbethbeth · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_dumb-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:7e78de1d-2be8-4eef-8a9c-73ebe7985a30Post:31f307e7-c2b7-4d06-a686-c4b9cee601b1">Re: Dumb questions</a>:
[QUOTE]How about "why are you getting married?" or "Do you know what the divorce rate is?" My personal Favorite NWR stupid question is (because I am a twin): "If I hit you, will she feel it?" And the answer is no, for anyone that's curious.
Posted by Kelki[/QUOTE]

<div>hah. I'm a twin too. I usually got the "Did you ever try to trick your teachers into thinking you were the other twin?"</div><div>
</div><div>um, no</div>

Francesvm · April 2010

I get asked when the grand babies are coming and I'm still over a year out from even being married!! I get the "why don't you just run down to the embassy and get married?" question too since my fiance is an expat in Japan and traveling back and forth would be a lot easier if I had a visa although I would have to be married to get one hence the embassy question...

ashn1225 · April 2010

My wedding is this Saturday and people keep asking me have you seen the weather? ( My ceremony is outside) Yes, I have seen the weather and yes I know they are calling for rain. Im glad they keep reminding me and making me worry about my back up plan.....

queenfm85 · April 2010

Speaking of people asking if "you're sure you want to do this" but mostly being friends or acquaintances...

My FI asked his 30yr old step-brother to be IN our wedding (was originally thinking of having his be his Best Man) and he told him.. "You're Crazy" for getting married. Granted we're young (24) but we've been together for 3 1/2 years and have lived together for 2/3 of that time. Ive gone to every family function that my FI has and always felt like part of the family. The guy has been in a relationship with his gf for over 8 years and still thinks marriage is a mistake?! I feel sorry for her.

But seriously... how RUDE!? I seriously feel like FI should retract his offer of being in the wedding. Why would we want someone there that isn't approving of our "blessed union"?

Maybe I'm crazy..

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