I am specific about the color scheme of the bridal party. For my black tie evening winter wedding, bridesmaids are in cranberry red and I have asked both mothers to wear a floor length brown dress (described to them as chocolate color). My mother in law to be went ahead (without any discussion) and bought a sand colored knee length cocktail dress. When my DF tried to talk to her about it, she would not speak to him for 3 weeks and now is speaking to him but will not discuss the dress. What should I do? Ignore? Make a snide comment? Start all out war?