We are having a huge confusion over the RSVP date, which of course affects when I have to order them, approve them, mail them, etc.. Our wedding planner said the RSVP date should be 30 days before the wedding but our venue wants a final number at the 30day mark (which seems super early to me since I have no idea what I have planned for tomorrow, much less next month, but fine..) I assume then that I would want to have all of the responses back at least a week before our final count is due just to have some time to chase stragglers. So is this rude/unusual to have an RSVP date 5wks before the wedding? And for any recent brides, did you do an RSVP date this far out and ifnd that you had a bunch of no-shows? I don't want a half empty reception because people RSVP'd yes too early, that's no fun - HELP!!