The BEST/WORST wedding advice...

MissOwl · April 2011

What is the BEST wedding-related advice you've ever gotten?

The WORST?

Bonus points if it's funny

alinkchicka · April 2011

BEST- Put numbers on the back of your RSVP card that match up to the names on your guest list for the people who don't write in their name. I had probably 25 people not put thier name on the the card. That saved me being able to look up the number on the back with the number on the list.

I'll have to get back to you on the worst... I can't think of one right now!

TheBeckmeister · April 2011

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[QUOTE]BEST- Put numbers on the back of your RSVP card that match up to the names on your guest list for the people who don't write in their name. I had probably 25 people not put thier name on the the card. That saved me being able to look up the number on the back with the number on the list. I'll have to get back to you on the worst... I can't think of one right now!
Posted by alinkchicka[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>That's the BEST idea ever. I'll be sure to do that when we send out our invites!</div><div>
</div><div>Owl, I'm trying to think of any wedding advice that I was given, and I'm not coming up with anything :-/</div>

BCsGal · April 2011

I agree with the rsvp number thing - we did that and it was such a simple, easy thing to do that prevented a lot of headaches later on!
I would also advise brides to make a wedding-only email account. It keeps everything organized and keeps junk emails in check. You keep your private, personal email account just that - private!
I will have to think a little more for some more ideas; off the top of my head I can't think of any bad wedding advice...

gcbuckeye2 · April 2011

The best advice I got (and didnt follow!!!) was to wait until closer to the wedding to choose the bridal party. I really wish I would have done that because it is surprising how much your friends change over the year.

I haven't really got any bad advice that I can think of!

MissOwl · April 2011

these are all such good tips.
sorry to hear about your bp gcbuckeye2. very good to know...

KellyRVT · April 2011

Wait until 6 months before the wedding to choose your bridal party- I didn't do this

Wait until 6 months before the wedding to send out your Save The Dates. It's AMAZING how many changes you might want to make after narrowing down your final guest count. There are a few people I would rather have not invited once the numbers and estimates started coming back. Once you send the STD though there's no turning back.

nnoble4 · April 2011

I agree with some of the best wedding advice.
- RSVP #s on the back is awesome. We did this. We just sent out our invites, so no idea if people will forget their names, though, I'm sure they will!
- Wedding E-mail is also amazing. You get so much junk, sometimes you want to look at it, others you don't. So it's nice that it doesn't mess with your actual e-mail.

As for the BP, I did and didn't do this. FI picked his GM from the start, but it was his brother, his cousin, and his best friend since middle or high school. I picked two of my BMs from the start, my sister and my best friend since elementary school. Those type of people are likely not going to change in a few months or year's time. Though, I have heard the horror stories, so I think it is a great idea.

Worst wedding advice....hmmm. I can't think of any. Probably because I look at the person like they're crazy and forget whatever they said! haha.

MissOwl · April 2011

potentially worst: my mom and i talk weddings all the time and she said that i can pick and choose which second cousins to invite.

is that rude or normal? i feel like it would be weird to invite 3 second cousins (who are more like aunts) and not invite their brothers and sisters (who i am not close to), but mom says it doesn't matter.

what do you think?

kleem15 · April 2011

MissOwl... i had the same thing happen to me! My FI cousins are older and have kids his age! My MIL told me it was up to us wether or not we wanted to invite them. I am inviting my cousins so I felt it was only fair to invite his. Especially since one of his cousins daughters is getting married and we have be invited to her wedding! Although I didnt invite my mothers half-brother and half-sister because I have only met them each once or twice!

kleem15 · April 2011

On another note... I WISH that I would NOT have chosen my bridal party already. My FI has 8 GM and i choose 7 BM... i just recently asked my 8th BM, but now i feel like i shouldnt have chosen a few or waited to make my decision since they would have been invited anyway!

buckeyesweetz · April 2011

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[QUOTE]potentially worst: my mom and i talk weddings all the time and she said that i can pick and choose which second cousins to invite. is that rude or normal? i feel like it would be weird to invite 3 second cousins (who are more like aunts) and not invite their brothers and sisters (who i am not close to), but mom says it doesn't matter. what do you think?
Posted by MissOwl[/QUOTE]

I feel like you would sort of need to keep it within social groups. As in.... My dad doesn't really keep in touch with his cousins on his mom's side of the family at all besides sending christmas cards etc. We haven't seen them in years. On the other hand, we see his cousins on his dad's side of the family regularly - AT LEAST once a year at christmas. We invited those cousins of his that we see from his dads side, but not the ones we never see on his moms, etc. I think it would be odd if you see all of your second cousins regularly but picked through who to invite.

I was also a stickler about only inviting people that I see and talk to on at least a somewhat regular basis though so just my opinion :)

buckeyesweetz · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_ohio-columbus_bestworst-wedding-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:112Discussion:a291b7c6-06a8-4bdc-87a0-bf068d7222cePost:f98505fe-6571-4c56-94e5-fb5d6fa69e41">Re: The BEST/WORST wedding advice...</a>:
[QUOTE]BEST- Put numbers on the back of your RSVP card that match up to the names on your guest list for the people who don't write in their name. I had probably 25 people not put thier name on the the card. That saved me being able to look up the number on the back with the number on the list. I'll have to get back to you on the worst... I can't think of one right now!
Posted by alinkchicka[/QUOTE]

It didn't occur to me to do this. So far we've gotten back a little over half of our invites and so far all have had names and have been very clear stating who is coming. This is a really good idea though! I'm sure that I'm now jinxing myself right now and the rest of the RSVPs will come back nameless..... <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

MissOwl · April 2011

thanks for the spinoff advice. i probably should have made it it's own thread. maybe when i plan my guest list for realz i'll bring it up with more detail.

thanks for playing ladies.

keep the thread going if you like

alinkchicka · April 2011

Ohh I did the wedding email address too! That was a great idea. I have been engaged almost 2 and a half years so I subscribed to so many websites in advance to see what kind coupons or deals they offered over a year to know what deals were the best for when I was ready to order.

As far a second cousins goes I invited all the second cousins on my dads side but that was all. We did not invite any second cousins from my moms side or his family. I think It is ok to pick one side and invite all the second cousins but I don't think that you should really choose some second cousins from the same family and leave out others. But I don't know I just wouldn't want them to talk to each other and find out they were not invited but their brother or cousin was invited.

P.S. Just got another RSVP card today without a name lol!

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