Invite Etiquette

mandi921vh · December 2010

FI and I are planning to have no children at our wedding (except our siblings children which consists of my sister's son (ring barer) and her step-son). Most of my family lives on Cape Cod, MA where the wedding will take place.

My cousin *Jane lives in Vancouver with her husband and two daughters 8 and 16 and they are planning on coming to our wedding (5/5/12). The thing is if they are traveling that far to visit family it makes sense to bring the kids. They visit the cape once every 4 or 5 years but we communicate weekly through facebook/email.

Would we now have to invite children of other wedding guests? Or at least other family members' children? Or is it okay to only include my Canadian cousin's children because they are family AND from out of town/another country?

strlzfan11 · December 2010

If the older daughter is 16, couldn't she watch the 8 year old at the hotel or at a family member's house during the festivities? Wouldn't there be other cousins they could spend time with then?

kebmtm071605 · December 2010

Isn't the 16 y.o. old enough to babysit the 8 y.o. at the hotel or something?

Simply Fated · December 2010

Once you start picking and choosing whose kids can come, you open the door to all sorts of drama. Make the cut-off points clear cut. People will get annoyed if they see some kids there when they were told they couldn't bring their own, so be prepared for that if you decide to let some people bring kids and not others.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-etiquette-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:be0301ac-b413-4edc-a472-62520c6fcc4cPost:b768ce2f-b1b8-41dc-b836-aac717e5de24">Re: Invite Etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]Once you start picking and choosing whose kids can come, you open the door to all sorts of drama. Make the cut-off points clear cut. People will get annoyed if they see some kids there when they were told they couldn't bring their own, so be prepared for that if you decide to let some people bring kids and not others.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

Ditto, Simply.

Calypso1977 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-etiquette-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:be0301ac-b413-4edc-a472-62520c6fcc4cPost:96674d3f-0da3-4021-b4e0-5dfe6fda2d59">Re: Invite Etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]If the older daughter is 16, couldn't she watch the 8 year old at the hotel or at a family member's house during the festivities? Wouldn't there be other cousins they could spend time with then?
Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

this.
if you arent inviting any children, and the purpose of their visit is to see family while also attendig your wedding, they can EASILY leave teh 2 kids at a relatives house for the day, how also have kids who arent attending, and they can either pool and use a local babysitter that is known to the family or the 16 year old can watch them.

The Mel and Todd Show · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-etiquette-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:be0301ac-b413-4edc-a472-62520c6fcc4cPost:fca3d4b9-c967-4d40-b347-1b6f67484993">Re: Invite Etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invite Etiquette : What are you talking about?
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

It looks like the KnotGods put her response in the wrong thread.

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