Army Brides, date planning help needed

Re: Army Brides, date planning help needed

• iluvmytxrgr member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I wouldn't do it.  I would suggest you either do it before he leaves or picking a date after he gets to his first duty station.  There are way to many what ifs to deal with planning a few days after graduation.  I broke both of my legs in Basic.  I had 30 days of con leave, 8 weeks of rehab and 3 weeks of sitting around before going to another training unit. I graduated nearly 5 months later than I was supposed to. 
  There was a unit who was supposed to graduate 3 weeks before us.  Because of crazy storms, they weren't able to do their FTX (feild training excercise) on time.  Because they have to do it in order to graduate, their graduation was pushed back to the week before ours.  There are all sorts of things that can delay his graduation. 
  Also, if he is going to a unit that will deploy quickly after training, he won't get the 2 weeks of leave right after grad. 
  Also, leave doesn't work like at a civilian job.  He is given 30 days every year.  He is expected to take leave at some point.  Once he gets to his new duty station, all he has to do is talk to his NCO and see when a good time to take leave would be.  Tell then he's looking to get married and needs to plan a date.  They will look at the training schedule and tell him when the best times will be. 

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• amycannova member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Thank you!

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• Zimsgirl

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I would wait a few days. I wouldn't feel bad about him taking leave because they earn a certain amount each month so he can keep earning it

  
  
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• SamiJoeB

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  First of all, and no snarkiness is intended, I would reccomend you getting a new SN. One that isn't your first and last name. Google yourself and see what all comes up..
  Then, I would reccomend that you read up on OPSEC and PERSEC.. These things are super important both to yourself, and your FI, as well as all of our SO's currently serving.
  
  As for the wedding date, don't Don't DON'T try to plan a wedding for right after he graduates boot camp.  It'll be way too stressful, not to mention the possibility of a delay in him graduating, or even him deploying soon after AIT.  Let him get settled in at his first command/duty station and then worry about setting a date.  My advice would be to try to plan for a holiday wedding (Christmas, Labor Day, 4th of July) because it will probably be easier for him to get leave.  Him getting stationed overseas isn't the worst thing in the world.  My H was stationed in Japan last year, and while the distance is really hard, our relationship is stronger because of it.
  
  Good Luck!! Let us know how everything goes!!
  

  

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• kruoff89

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree, it's too hectic to try and plan it right after his training. If it isn't too rushed I'd do it before he goes, or as someone else suggested on a holiday weekend.
  
  My fiance is in the Navy and will be leaving for 6 months of training the first week of March. We decided to have our wedding before he leaves, so we're doing it over President's Day weekend in mid. February. I never really imagined myself having a winter wedding, but it's all for the best
  
  Something my mother keeps reminding me of is that, "you can never make everyone happy, you have to do what's right for you." having the date before he leaves, or over a holiday weekend may mean that not everyone can attend, but this is about the two of you, and what works best for you!

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