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Just Engaged and Proposals
aa1293
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I know the ring is coming soon but I don't want to wait!!!
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and have already discussed our future and wedding plans. It's only been in the last few weeks that we have been seriously discussing our engagement. He tells me he knows when he is going to do it and how and that it will be soon but I don't think I can wait! I am ready to start planning for REAL and not just pretend planning. I am graduating college in about 3 weeks and I hope he does it by then! How does everyone who knows the ring is coming soon not go crazy and hold out for him to do it the way he wants to propose???
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Re: I know the ring is coming soon but I don't want to wait!!!
Patience. I know it's exciting, but he'll propose when he's good and ready.
[QUOTE]<strong>Ew. Please don't be 'that girl' who harasses the crap out of her man. </strong> My roommate in college did this - every damn day "When's my ring coming? I can't wait till we're engaged." Yeah they're divorced already and we're 27. <strong>Patience. I know it's exciting, but he'll propose when he's good and ready.</strong>
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]
<div>Ditto this. I know a LOT of girls who did this, and they wound up spoiling the engagement for their guys. Just be calm. He wants it to be special, and so do you. So just let him do it his way in his time. Don't get too ancy and PLEASE don't pester him about it. It'll come without you mentioning it to him, promise. :)</div>
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[QUOTE]So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and have already discussed our future and wedding plans. It's only been in the last few weeks that we have been seriously discussing our engagement. He tells me he knows when he is going to do it and how and that it will be soon but I don't think I can wait! I am ready to start planning for REAL and not just pretend planning. I am graduating college in about 3 weeks and I hope he does it by then! How does everyone who knows the ring is coming soon not go crazy and hold out for him to do it the way he wants to propose???
Posted by aa1293[/QUOTE]
Enjoy the anticipation. It will never happen again.
Try focusing on the marriage part, NOT the wedding.
[QUOTE]Ew. Please don't be 'that girl' who harasses the crap out of her man. My roommate in college did this - every damn day "When's my ring coming? I can't wait till we're engaged." Yeah they're divorced already and we're 27. Patience. I know it's exciting, but he'll propose when he's good and ready.
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]
It was SO SO SO hard for me not to do this. Especially when my sister got engaged like a month before we did. I had to set boundaries for myself - I convinced myself that every time I talked about wanting the ring it would push it back a week. We had an agreement to get engaged by our 2 year anniversary so it was nice to have an end date but omg he still suprised me ! It made it that much more special. ps - I was so tempted but I found that fake planning made things worse. Nesting felt better.
I am in the same position! I know he has the ring and he said he knew I would like to have the summer to plan (I am in medical school) so I feel as if it can happen any moment now.
Waiting is very very hard but he knows I am all about surprises so I am sure he wants to plan it out just right. My soon-to-be roommate and great friend just got engaged this past weekend! It does make it harder but at least I get to focus on her for a while
I am very excited to have met such an awesome person and I can't believe how much he loves me. I just try to focus on that and it doesn't hurt that medschool demands lots of attention also.
It was very helpful reading everyone's post and advice. Thanks everyone and hang in there aa1293
are you two planning a special vacation? maybe you two will get engaged then. appreciate the time you have together, and your relationship. hopefully this is going to be your last and only engagement, so just relax and dont think about it.
If a guy is that hung up on surprising his girlfriend, it has to actually be a surprise. And if, like us, you've been together half a decade and talked about what you want for your wedding and gone looking at rings together and you know he's asked your dad, then it's not a surprise anymore, it's just nervewracking. Because we do get insecure; we start to wonder if he changed his mind, or if he's not really sure. Once you take those beginning steps, you owe it to your girlfriend to follow through in a timely manner.
After about two years, it's not really a huge surprise anymore. No girl could honestly say, "We'd been dating for three years, I never saw it coming, it was such a huge surprise!" because we're not going to spend three years on someone we haven't seriously considered marrying. Not when our biological nonsense comes with an expiration date.
If you want to surprise your girlfriend with a proposal, you can't let her know it's coming. No talking about weddings or looking at rings. And if you spoil the surprise early and then regret it, I don't think we should be held responsible for it.
Hang in there the time will come...and when it does you will be so happy.. you won't even remember the wait