April 2012 Weddings

check! and small RSVP vent

FI and I picked out wedding rings this weekend.  I actually picked mine last week, but we went and  picked it up, and picked out his ring.  I love that he wants to wear it now (in fact, he wore it around the house last night!).  :)

I got an RSVP card back from my FI's cousin, and we had invited her and her son and daughter that still live with her (they live about 6 hours away, so they're making a special trip up for the wedding)...NBD.  Except she RSVPed for 9!  She wrote the following note on the back of the card:
"I hope you don't mind, I told V and D (her daugher and SIL) that they could come to and bring the kids.  They'll also be babysitting 2 other kids for a couple weeks, so they'll be bringing them too.  Can't wait to see you!"

Oy.  So, FI or I will have to have a totally awkward chat with her about this, because we really don't have room for all the kiddos.  We had 2 people RSVP regrets, so there's room for her daughter and H, but I don't want all those kids there (not sure how old the other kids are, but V's kids are almost 2 and 8 months).  Our venue can only hold a max of 120, and if everyone on our guest list shows, we'll be at 108, so there's not a lot of wiggle room (that being said, I am sure that at least a few more people will not come).

Wow, this is long.  Sorry about that!  I guess I can just be happy about everyone's excitement over the wedding, right?  


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Re: check! and small RSVP vent

  • Yeah I know it feels awkward but remember you're not not breaching etiquette to tell her gently but firmly that you cannot accommodate the uninvited guests.  Once you get it over with you'll feel better.
    Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.
  • I don't understand people! I just got one of our firsts RSVP's back and someone already wrote in a date for themself. So frustrating.
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  • I really don't understand people, I would never write in someone that wasn't invited.  I agree with PP, you just have to call and talk to her about it.  

    Besides that great check on the rings. 
  • People are crazy. Just be polite and apologize for any inconvience. It was SO wrong of her to just invite others like that, so do NOT feel bad. You could have your FI do this if you think it'd go over better. I would because I don't know hardly any of his family, but maybe you do. 

    I honestly would just say the invitation was for her and her household only. Even though you have the room for her SIL and daughter now, what are you going to do when someone else does the same thing? What if they find out this cousin got to bring extras and they didn't? That could be awkward. 
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  • I called her and talked to her about it and explained that we just don't have the room, and there aren't going to be lots of kids there anyways (which is true, besides the 3 in our WP, there won't be any little kids).  She said that was fine, but she wasn't sure if they could make it due to the "hardship" that they would face in trying to find a babysitter.  So she was a little irritated, and it was kind of awkward, but it's over now.   

    Like my FI has said from the day we got engaged "Weddings make people a little weird".  :)
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  • Well, glad you got that awkward phone call over with---gee, can't believe the nerve of some people!!  Then to be "irritated" yet!!  Sheesh!   You did the right thing.
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