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Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?

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Hi Girls!
So far, in the past 3 years I've had a huge increase in friends and family getting married. NONE of them did the bouquet or the garter toss. 
I know it has a cheesey aspect to it, but I remember it being so traditional!

I am debating whether or not to toss the bouquet.

Are any of you going to throw the bouquet/garter?
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  • akulajiakulaji
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    edited December 2011
    nope.  I do think it's still pretty common, but we're choosing not to do it.  I think it also depends on the age of the crowd.  Do you have a lot of single people attending?  or are they older and married?  I think if you have a good crowd of people that would participate, it's fine.  If you literally have 2 or 3 single girls and a few guys, I think it may actually make them feel awkward and singled out.  If I was trying to decide whether to do one or not, I'd definitely take that into consideration.
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  • AngelaN611AngelaN611 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're not doing it.  We don't have too many single friends and we want as much time for dancing as possible, so we decided against it.  Plus, I think it is kind of cheesy -- maybe it just reminds me of awkard moments at family weddings!  Haha!
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  • money savermoney saver
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    edited December 2011
    hmmm thats a good question i also agree with akulaji, it depends on ur crowd i would think if there are many kids involved it would be cute and fun but my crowd is older and married with older kids but some of them are single so its a tough call,  I also did hear that a lot of people are not doing the tossing of the bouquet tradition, but then again it's up to us to decide. oh, i also saw a wedding where the bride had 3 little bouquets incorporated into one so instead of throwing one bouquet she actually threw three and it was a nice surprise for the people catching it. so instead of completely not doing it, maybe throwing a little twist to it will make it more bareable. i think thats what i"ll do myself.... hope i helped,, let us know what u decide
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  • jmestylejmestyle member
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    edited December 2011
    It is still very common.
    I was originally going to only toss the bouquet but we just went to a wedding this past weekend and they did the garter toss and it made me think "this is so fun, maybe we should do it"
    I know, I'm a total hypocrite because I bitched about how cheesy it was not to long ago!!

    Normally, whatever girl catches the bouquet, the guys set it up so that her partner catches the garter so it isn't so akward for them.
    I also liked how the bride and groom stood there while the guy was putting it on her and it was up to the bride and groom when to tell the guy to stop.
    It was fun and I got kinda upset when I realized that I will never again be one of the single girls up there ready to catch the bouquet (or run from it!)
    and ironically, the stupid bouquet fell right next to me!
    I didn't pick it up though, I let the single ladies dive for it

    I also want an excuse to hear Beyonce's Single Ladies song and then Who Let the Dogs Out
    lol!
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  • beach11beach11
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    edited December 2011
    We are not doing it for most of the reasons that akulaji mentioned.  we only have a handful of friends that are single and don't think it is fair to single them out.  Plus IMO it is humiliating to the bride & groom.
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  • SuMmErKuTiESuMmErKuTiE member
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    Every wedding  I've been to has had one, and we went to 3 last year, and 4 this year, so we're definitely doing them because of this. We know it'll be fun, and our friends and family will miss it if we don't. 

    I think it all depends on your circle, don't have one if you only have a few single friends left don't single them out with this tradition, but if you have a big crowd go for it! 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:40b149a0-0c45-420a-b3ac-e696e328ffd2">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]nope.  I do think it's still pretty common, but we're choosing not to do it.  I think it also depends on the age of the crowd.  Do you have a lot of single people attending?  or are they older and married?  I think if you have a good crowd of people that would participate, it's fine.  If you literally have 2 or 3 single girls and a few guys, I think it may actually make them feel awkward and singled out.  If I was trying to decide whether to do one or not, I'd definitely take that into consideration.
    Posted by akulaji[/QUOTE]

    <div>Haha.. this is what happens when I don't read the responses before I post! Carrie put it in better words than I did of whether or not you should have one.. aside from the fact of whether or not you and your FI even want to have them :0)</div>
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  • akulajiakulaji
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:7944d867-6a83-4306-8e7d-5b72319f8502">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular? : Haha.. this is what happens when I don't read the responses before I post! Carrie put it in better words than I did of whether or not you should have one.. aside from the fact of whether or not you and your FI even want to have them :0)
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    LOL!  Kate, we're always on the same wavelength!!! :-)
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  • kls114kls114 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are definitely doing this! I guess I can agree with it depending upon the crowd and how many single people are in attendance.

    All the weddings that I have been to lately & in the past have done them!

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  • Whippet8Whippet8 member
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    edited December 2011
    we only did the bouquet toss because we had a lot of single girls...I think there were almost 20 out there...but DH felt uncomfortable doing the garter toss.
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  • jenandcrisjenandcris member
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    Asian weddings that FI and I have been to don't do garter/bouquet tosses... but aaaall the Hispanic ones we've been to have. I wouldn't mind doing a bouquet toss, but I'd feel uncomfortable with FI's head up my dress for the garter! He has no opinion on the matter... so we're not doing it. We're also NOT doing a Dollar Dance because I will not dance for money.

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  • ZoeTheDogZoeTheDog
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:13ec38a8-a29e-4796-9a5e-c0bce02227ff">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Asian weddings that FI and I have been to don't do garter/bouquet tosses... but aaaall the Hispanic ones we've been to have. I wouldn't mind doing a bouquet toss, but I'd feel uncomfortable with FI's head up my dress for the garter! He has no opinion on the matter... so we're not doing it. <strong>We're also NOT doing a Dollar Dance because I will not dance for money.</strong>
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    Why not?!!?!  It's soooooo cool!  (insert sarcasm font here)
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  • MaryKatie3MaryKatie3
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:e8c31059-3bef-40f1-ba6a-255c7b735f2d">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]we only did the bouquet toss because we had a lot of single girls...I think there were almost 20 out there...but DH felt uncomfortable doing the garter toss.
    Posted by melko4886[/QUOTE]

    We did the same!  Did a bouquet toss, and it was a very cute throw away bouquet:)  And DH was too embarassed to do garter and I kind of agreed, as I had seen it be trashy in the past.  It depends on your guests  I think!
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  • KellyJayDKellyJayD
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    edited December 2011
    I decided I am going to do both and I can't wait to play single ladies LOL
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:737ddae3-a114-44ea-b6b1-c5aa88d3ff63">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular? : Why not?!!?!  It's soooooo cool!  (insert sarcasm font here)
    Posted by ZoeTheDog[/QUOTE]

    !! I never knew Dollar Dances existed before I went to FI's families' weddings. It just goes on... and on... and on... Maybe it's a clash between our cultures... He'll just have come over to my side. Bwahahaa!! I don't know if they're common in our area of the country.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:b073040a-372d-4d7c-8529-1458d20087b8">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular? : !! I never knew Dollar Dances existed before I went to FI's families' weddings. It just goes on... and on... and on... Maybe it's a clash between our cultures... He'll just have come over to my side. Bwahahaa!! I don't know if they're common in our area of the country.
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    Oh god...where is he FROM??????
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  • Sterna1Sterna1
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    edited December 2011
    We didn't do either, mainly because I think there were two or three single people in total at the wedding.  If it will play well with your crowd and you have enough single people go for it!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:37f27b93-1a91-4de4-bfbd-0d2cc89f27de">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I decided I am going to do both and I can't wait to play single ladies LOL
    Posted by KellyJayD[/QUOTE]

    Me too! I also know that everyone plays that song during their bouquet toss but I don't care it fits perfectly! :0)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:b073040a-372d-4d7c-8529-1458d20087b8">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular? : !! I never knew Dollar Dances existed before I went to FI's families' weddings. It just goes on... and on... and on... Maybe it's a clash between our cultures... He'll just have come over to my side. Bwahahaa!! I don't know if they're common in our area of the country.
    Posted by jenandcris[/QUOTE]

    I never knew about dollar dances either until we went to a wedding for FI's co-worker/friend last year. It was a Greek wedding and their dollar dance went on and on and ON... seriously it was at least half an hour to 45 minutes long.
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  • wrdgirlwrdgirl member
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    I'm only doing the bouquet toss because my FI thinks it's funny LOL 
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    <p>In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular? : Oh god...where is he FROM??????
    Posted by ZoeTheDog[/QUOTE]</p><p>FI was born in Puerto Rico, but raised in Boston. There's a large population of Hispanics there!!</p><p>

    In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular? : I never knew about dollar dances either until we went to a wedding for FI's co-worker/friend last year. It was a Greek wedding and their dollar dance went on and on and ON... seriously it was at least half an hour to 45 minutes long.
    Posted by SuMmErKuTiE[/QUOTE]</p><p>
    That's what FSIL's wedding was like- but it lasted for almost <strong>1.5 hrs</strong>! At one point, the B&G <em>forced</em> their BP (FI was a GM) to join them in the dance so they could get more $$!!</p>
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  • starshollowstarshollow
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    edited December 2011
    I did the bouqet and garter.  We were one of the first in our crowd to get married, so we had lots of singles to get up for it!
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  • Vikki2payVikki2pay member
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    We did both!!

    I can't imagine my wedding without it.  It was a lot of fun and we had about 15/20 single girl and guys get up so it wasn't akward.
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  • KellyJayDKellyJayD
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    edited December 2011
    Well now that you girls mention it and I think about it. I don't think we can do it there will be 2 single girls and I don't think any single guys LMAO oh well
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bouquetgarter-toss-still-popular?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:0976dcad-f640-4cb5-9589-017443e9a840Post:65d2fe42-a910-4e40-a71f-f503ff27f07d">Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bouquet/Garter Toss... Still Popular? : I never knew about dollar dances either until we went to a wedding for FI's co-worker/friend last year. <strong>It was a Greek wedding and their dollar dance went on and on and ON... seriously it was at least half an hour to 45 minutes long.
    </strong>Posted by SuMmErKuTiE[/QUOTE]

    Yes! My SIL's wedding was like this! My first Greek wedding! You know I had to jump in on that dance though--but it was kinda long! I bounced off to the bar after the first 15!! LOL <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-foot-in-mouth.gif" border="0" alt="Foot in mouth" title="Foot in mouth" />
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