Since my mother lives almost 7 hours away where i was born and raised. I keep her posted on everything wedding related so she doesn't feel left out. In her excitement she shares some information with people she comes in contact with.
She also knows that I/we have chosen to go against the potluck/everyone is invited style wedding and so when people ask her about being a guest she tells them they should talk to me. I recently told her its ok to say we are keeping it to close family and friends. Well some people feel that they ate close even though I haven't talked to them since I left there 3 years ago, and they have never met FI.
I told mom how much money we are paying per person and so she is more than willing to tell people what I asked because she is not contributing. I also told her about some decor and my unity cross. She was so excited about the unity cross that she told some people. They looked it up and seen how much it costs. The response to my mom was I could just have a unity candle like normal black people and use that money to invite some more people. They also feel like I should change my venue to accommodate the people who want to come.
Are they effing kidding me? Who's day is this ours or theirs? We are getting what we want not what people want us to have. And them the cousin who is getting married a couple of weeks after us just plain quit talking to me. What I don't get is her wedding is going to be unique to her, her FI and their budget, so who is comparing. I'm certainly not. But to some family I'm trying to outdo her. I'm so over this. Is it September yet? End vent
