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52% Acceptance Rate - VENT!

evalynn68evalynn68
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in August 2012 Weddings
Ok - if you are supposed to plan for 100 % attendance - even if you know you are NOT going to have 100 % - why don't people send back their RSVPs earlier if they know they can't come.

Yes, SAVE THE DATES went out in January 2012.

Our venue can really hold 80 people comfortably..... we had to cut, cut, cut our list...... 
We began with inviting about 94......we got some "rejections" in immediately so continued to invite because it was early enough.

Ultimately - we have 67 people coming (2 might not be able to show because of work/travel but won't know until the week before - he works for MLS and travels ALL THE TIME)..... out of 127 that we ended up inviting.

The ones that frost me..... my step brother& his wife, my step sister and her husband..... hello..... can be we polite!  How about people from CALIFORNIA that JUST had their wedding less than a year ago - don't they remember "how it is"....

I could have invited some of the local people down in FLA (old friends) instead.......... that we didn't invite because of numbers.  They would have probably appreciated it more!

Yikes! 

Is this normal????

Eva
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  • iriscarmendiaziriscarmendiaz
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    Yes it's normal. Lots of people simply don't give weddings that much thought otherwise. They may care about your wedding, but lots of people are just not considerate guests. Even when they "know how it is" they find a way to justify their behavior.

    I had a 23% acceptance rate, for a wedding that people knew about 10 full months in advance. People make me sick.
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  • wussicawussica
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    Sorry! We had more "nos" than we thought we would too. We'll probably have to order an extra appetizer or two to reach our food minimum. Even though most of the "nos" are from out of state, it still feels bad. And, the people who don'trespond to inquiries after the RSVP date has passed are driving me bonkers too!

    However, I initially really wanted a small wedding, with something like 75 guests. Now the wedding will be close to the size I initially hoped for.
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  • megan8290megan8290
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    Hey I totally feel you. I invited 137 and only have 75 accepted. Most of the people the declined lives 10 minutes away from the venue. I sent out the save the date last October and these people were suppose to be my close friends from high school that never really fell out of touch. Worst is, these are the people that never bothered RSVP on time or tell me what's going on. I called, e-mailed and even FB his sister and finally reached him on the phone on the 5th day of trying. 

    It really does hurt that people don't seem to see that a wedding isn't just another house party. It's a big deal. Every single one of my FI's friends are coming and they all live 3 hours away from the venue. 
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    Our venue told us to estimate about 70 percent acceptance rate. However, one friend I know had about a 55 or 60 percent acceptance rate with 200 people invited. Another friend had about an 85 or 90 percent acceptance rate with 500 people invited. So you just never know. Just focus on those that are able to come and help you celebrate and count yourself lucky you can save a little bit of money on dinner!
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  • evalynn68evalynn68
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    We are focusing on those who can come; however, unfortunately it won't save us money as the Kosher Caterer's minimum is 100 people (which we knew we were paying for).  Kosher Caterering is VERY expensive....... and this guy is WONDERFUL.   Such is life.  

    Can't wait to celebrate with the 70 who will be there!

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  • haleyrae7haleyrae7
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    My acceptance rate is currently 54% and I'm not complaining because it's cheaper catering then I thought I would be paying for.  I just am missing so many RSVPS - my guess would be 40 couples.  So that's my stressor right now since they were due July 1st.

    However, I like your positive outlook!  I can't wait to celebrate with the lucky ones who are coming!!

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  • megan8290megan8290
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    Do you think it's because of the economy and people feel "obligated" to get presents if they attend the wedding? I can care less about the present. I just want people to come!
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  • DeClue82DeClue82
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    I sent out 196 and only have 87 or so that have accepted so far... we are expecting 50% decline rate bc of the travel involved and were hoping for 100-110
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  • rungirl12rungirl12 member
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    Eva - Is it too late to invite those friends you mentioned from FLA since others are declining?  Just give them a tad bit later rsvp date...
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  • evalynn68evalynn68
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_52-acceptance-rate-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:2c562af1-dcdb-4aed-8400-24fff373677ePost:512e1739-2ecc-455d-ac46-28e9448f7c4f">Re: 52% Acceptance Rate - VENT!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Eva - Is it too late to invite those friends you mentioned from FLA since others are declining?  Just give them a tad bit later rsvp date...
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    </div><div>Our wedding is August 5th.... we really feel that it is just too late to invite anyone ------ it is less than a month away.  And since our invitations were printed professionally - in Hebrew and English - our RSVP cards - you know - we just feel that is tacky.</div><div>
    </div><div>Oh well !</div><div>
    </div><div>Eva</div><div>
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  • RichNicci4211122RichNicci4211122
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    Our acceptance rate is only about 57%, and there are alot of people that "said" they would be at the wedding after they got the STD.  We went them out last December to give people a heads up that it's a Friday wedding and not the traditional Saturday.  And I still have to track down about 45 people, but I am thinking that it's not going to be much better.  I just want the wedding to get here so that I can resume normal life.  Don't fret too much over it.  You will have a beautiful wedding and those who are coming will have a wonderful time and those who chose not to come are the ones that are missing out.
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  • elhoekengaelhoekenga member
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    We are currently at a 65% acceptance. Most of the people coming to ours are coworkers of my FI, my family declined for the most part. But honestly I just don't care at this point, as long as I get married to my best friend the day will be perfect!
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  • HandrbaileyHandrbailey member
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    We are in the same boat. I'm super irritated by it. You aren't alone!
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  • ChristineNBChristineNB
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    I am actually at a 93% acceptance rate.  This really surprised me since our wedding is a 4-5 hour drive for the majority of the guests.  However, we kept it small, only inviting 79 people
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