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wedding date meltdown..

forever718forever718
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in New York-Hudson Valley
Ok, so my wedding is November 5, 2011 at the VIP country club. Lately I've been giving myself anxiety about this. I am nervous b/c I work full time and that semester will be my last semester at nursing school. I feel like I am going to be so stressed out. Also, my fiance is worried that the weather will be cold.

I called Mike from VIP, asking if I could change the date to July 16th, a saturday. This way, it would be in the summer and I would have nothing to worry about with school. Also, we would be able to go on a honeymoon right away. At first he told me the price was the same.. then later on said it would be $20 more per person. So now thats out!

But I was thinking should I call back and ask if there are ANY SATURDAYS in the summer available for the same price per person? Or should I just leave it alone? I feel like I am going to be a pain..but I'm driving myself crazy..
Is the weather going to be too cold? and with school..ughh idk what to do.
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  • probablykateprobablykate member
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    edited December 2011
    A lot of places give discounts for Nov and Dec weddings that they won't give other times of year, so it might be difficult.  But I think if it's really stressing you it wouldn't hurt to ask.  If it's not possible, then you can stop worrying about whether or not you should change it.  If it is possible, you know you have another option. 

    Why did you originally choose November?  I think a wintertime wedding could be really romantic and different, and I bet you got or can get a discount on other vendors too since that time of year isn't as popular. 

    I think it's definitely possible to swing it with school, especially since you have over a year to get all of the planning done.  I have a friend who is getting married next June and is working full-time and taking classes part-time (and she just started planning).  She wanted to time her marriage to graduation.  I'm sure it'll be a little tough at the end, but you have plenty of time to plan around it.  You could even talk to your professors and see if they can give you assignments early so you aren't trying to do homework the day before your wedding or something. 
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  • Riss91Riss91 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think winter weddings can be really beautiful! I think in this situation it seems like you either need to pay-up or keep the winter timing. Could you move it back into late Nov/early Dec so that your schooling doesn't conflict? I know that I was very organzied and still felt like I couldn't focus the 2-3 weeks before the wedding. If you are concerned about school, move the date back a few weeks.

    I wouldn't worry as much about the weather - you could have a spring/summer wedding and have it pour, it's never a sure thing! All you need is to find a decent indoor photo location, maybe a cute faux fur wrap or something to keep you warm - it could be really stylish!


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  • Bat937Bat937
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    edited December 2011
    I got married in January, it was rediculously cold out but it really didn't matter because 99.5% of the time, everyone is inside. 

    Unless you can afford the extra $ and still have the wedding you want and the guests you want, I would leave it.  Honestly 2 weeks before my wedding I had nothing to do.  I had done everything ahead of time.  Just set yourself up so that there are as few things to do as possible in Sept/Oct.  (Honestly most of that time is waiting for the damn rsvps to come in)
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  • sjsphishsjsphish
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    edited December 2011
    I got married at the VIP in November 2009 and it was chilly, but not feezing. Plus, I'd rather it be cold than hot and sweaty. Also, as PP said, we were inside most of the time. If it were me, I'd leave it. Just try to be organized so that there is very little to do those last few weeks before the wedding.
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  • kristinanddankristinanddan member
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    edited December 2011
    November 5 isn't winter, it's a fall wedding. It could be 80 (as it was in 2008) or, more likely, in the 50s. We were married on 11/6 last year and took photos outside for 2 hours. It was in the 50s. The colors on the trees were also gorgeous. It was chilly, but not cold. At your reception, no one will care about the temp outside anyway.

    I doubt you'll get a price break for any summer Saturday, as that's peak season. We picked the first Friday in November because it was only a few days after the last peak weekend, but so much cheaper.

    If you plan properly, there won't be anything to do immediately before your wedding except things like seating plans and vendor confirmations. It really isn't a big deal.
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  • bridaljoybridaljoy member
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    edited December 2011
    I was married in late December and it was cold to say the least.  We took some pics outside and we all just dealt with it.  You can never predict the weather.  nov 5 is late fall it could be warmer or it be very cold - you never know. 
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  • manda26manda26
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    edited December 2011
    Nov 5th is definitely Fall and not Winter.

    Any Saturday in the summer the prices I am sure are the same. Did you ask him what Friday night prices were in the summer? Or Sunday?

    You have over a year and if you stay organized it should be fine.
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  • Sonita12Sonita12
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    edited December 2011
    Sometimes Friday nights might be less expensive in the summer than a Saturday if you're willing to switch the day. It's tough because people might work on Friday and maybe miss your ceremony if it's earlier in the day, so I understand why someone might not want to, but I thought I'd throw that out there Smile
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  • ssagessage member
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    edited December 2011
    You have so much time to go!

    I was in a wedding of a best friend...she planned her wedding while in graduate school and the date was nestled within semesters but trust me, she didn't have much time...she did wonderfully.  The key is organization!

    And, it could be July and be cold.  You shouldn't worry about that.  The day of my wedding it POURED and was chilly, but not uncomfortable.  The next day was sunny and warm.  All the luckk of the draw!
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  • jeanna85jeanna85 member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't think any Saturdays would be the same price of a Friday. In addition, most venues have more expensive prices for May to October ("Wedding Season") so I would think a July Saturday would be even more expensive than a November Saturday, nevermind a November Friday.
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  • threepinkrosesthreepinkroses
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    edited December 2011
    What nursing school do you go to?

    I graduated from Sullivan in May of 09....great profession, and I'm sure you'll love it once you're out.

    As for planning and being in your last semester, I would keep the date, and remember that its only one day. Do your DIY projects over the summer when you're free and be sure to stay focused on your school work.

    Good luck!
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  • Kris0816Kris0816
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    edited December 2011
    Just make sure to plan and prepare as much as you can. Sit down with your FI and go over all your options, and just see what seems to work best for you guys. You want your wedding to be enjoyable and not causing you to stress out too much! Hope it all works out for you.
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  • forever718forever718
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    edited December 2011

    thank you all so much! well, i did call him and he told me Fri july 15th was available and the same price!  And that's the day we met so I thought this is meant to be! Immediately I call my fiance and my parents, they all yell at me! They basically both said to leave it alone, and they didn't want a friday night bc there's so much traffic fri night especially when most of my family comes from long island. I was sooo mad!

    I got over it! lol and I actually am happy it's in november still. Just hoping the weather isnt too bad, b/c i wish we could have the ceremony outside- but im not gettin my hopes up. Otherwise, my girls dresses are berry (from barijay) its like a reddish-wine color. And I think it will be perfect for the season! So, I just have to keep up with my schoolwork and hope all goes well!


    ** I go to Rockland Community College; and congrats! I hope im just as happy when i finish! =)

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  • TerriandJoeTerriandJoe
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry I'm late responding. But am glad that everything worked out for you! (November weddings are beautiful, fall weddings. And that's a beautiful color!)
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