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Guest inviting more

KannesandersKannesanders
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in October 2012 Weddings

Has anyone else had this problem? I put on the invite Mr. and Mrs. Smith. And then they rsvp for 6 not 2 because they are bringing their kids. My wedding is Oct. 13th, and is right around the corner.
I also just recieved an email wondering if she could bring her two kids even though the invite only said 2....
How did you deal with problems like this.

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  • catwinecatwine member
    500 Comments Third Anniversary
    We had my fiance's great aunt invite herself and her son to drive her.  we hadn't even sent the invites yet but she assumed she was invited.  oh, and she told this to my fiance grandma, not us. argh!
    we decided to invite the aunt (i didn't want to) but not her son.

    i suggest you call Mr and Mrs Smith and tell them you only have room for them, not thei kids.  or send them an e-mail if you don't like confrontation!
    and reply the same to that other e-mail.
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  • ktelizabeth86ktelizabeth86
    500 Comments
    Two people from FI's side have done this. It's annoying.
    172 Invited. image
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  • ccarrion77ccarrion77
    100 Comments
    Had my very single uncle reply back with a plus one for whoever he can get to drive him to the wedding. Mind you he's perfectly capable of doing so himself, he just wants to get drunk. How about no...
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  • semay23semay23
    100 Comments
    Call/email (call is preferred) and politely explain that the invitation was for Mr. and Mrs. Smith and that you will be unable to accomodate little Jane and Johnny, and that you hope to see them there. And if they say "well we won't come unless our children can come too," then call their bluff and tell them that they will be missed! 
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  • ericaandtom2012ericaandtom2012 member
    500 Comments Second Anniversary
    I would definitely call, an email is too easy to delete or forget to respond to.  You'd be more likely to have them show up with their kids than if you just called them.

    I'm sorry people are being rude and adding their children when they clearly were not invited.
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  • jlk13jlk13
    100 Comments

    Even though they are the one's being rude....

    if you have room for the kids, let it slide. you'll look like the gracious new addition to the family.

    if you don't have room or are having a no kids wedding, have your mom (if the relative is on your side) or his mom (if the relative is on his side) call and explain. we blamed it on the capacity. i've had friends blame it on 'having a small wedding' or 'only kids of family' invited. either way it's awkward but they're the etiquette offenders, not you.
    sorry you're having to deal with this!

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  • jlk13jlk13
    100 Comments
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_guest-inviting-more?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:c48f3c5b-c39b-475d-8261-e62f3a4aaf94Post:901591a4-a0de-46d0-ba3c-a2241e76f137">Re: Guest inviting more</a>:
    [QUOTE]Call/email (call is preferred) and politely explain that the invitation was for Mr. and Mrs. Smith and that you will be unable to accomodate little Jane and Johnny, and that you hope to see them there. And if they say "well we won't come unless our children can come too," then call their bluff and tell them that they will be missed! 
    Posted by semay23[/QUOTE]

    Well said!!
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  • AEPerpeteAEPerpete member
    100 Comments
    It's happened to me too recently. I learned I have to practice saying no more, because it doesnt come naturally to me.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker image 95 Invited
    image 70 Are ready to party!
    image 10 Will be missing out!
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  • gwenayfergwenayfer member
    10 Comments First Anniversary
    I just got an RSVP like that today! It's my cousin so obviously I can't call my Aunt and Uncle and be like "no, she can't come." But I thought it was kind of annoying.
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