Anyone else feeling the stress?

anniemac1581 · February 2012

Starting to stress with the clock ticking and I never thought I would be the type to worry during wedding planning..thinking I'll take it in stride, umm, yea right. Totally feeling overwhelmed with all the detail type stuff...waiting to see what final numbers are, ...anyone else out there that can sympathize or at least tell me to chill the ---- out!!!

rlavach · February 2012

I totally sympathize. I had an anxiety attack, complete with hyperventilating & crying, last week when I opened my DIY To-Do list that I've been neglecting for the past few months thinking I had more time. Well, I don't have more time and now I have even less then I originally anticipated.

I did delete a few things that weren't absolutely necessary. The list is still daunting. Ugh!

AmandaSC1988 · February 2012

I was for a little bit. the Printer kept eating invites...the post office didn't have wedding stamps...I wanted BLACK ribbon instead of WHITE.

Until I took a step back and realized... Hey... NO one is going to care if I have a cake or a butterfly on my envelope. I think that is the important part to remember. Think back to the last wedding you went to (and weren't engaged...)did you remember what type of font they used on the progams...or what time of shoes the BMs wore? Chances are you don't. So if it is something minor and you don't want to do it. Try not to worry about it. You shouldn't be stressing over little things, stress isn't healthy.

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cgyvhu · February 2012

I'm more stressed about my PhD dissertation and job stuff than the wedding right now.

I have a "F*** it list." It's a list of things that would be cool to do for the wedding (certain DIY, fancy escort cards, programs, etc), but if time gets tight I can just say "f** it!" and scrap it. So I focus on doing the important things and not the little DIY details at this point.

I suggest making an F*** it list for some details/DIY. And I like Amanda's point about the big picture.

blgrout · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_anyone-else-feeling-stress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:df826e23-5f4f-4290-8ee3-cf10e92bfcfdPost:2a8c58f3-093a-4f8b-b0e7-0838730a8662">Re: Anyone else feeling the stress?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm more stressed about my PhD dissertation and job stuff than the wedding right now. I have a "F*** it list." It's a list of things that would be cool to do for the wedding (certain DIY, fancy escort cards, programs, etc), but if time gets tight I can just say "f** it!" and scrap it. So I focus on doing the important things and not the little DIY details at this point. I suggest making an F*** it list for some details/DIY. And I like Amanda's point about the big picture.
Posted by mdphd[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I need one of these. Ha ha. I had a stress out/meltdown moment yesterday. The to-do list is never ending between my job and the wedding. :) I had to break down my master to-do list into manageable chunks and I feel better now. Other than the fact that I evidently have a list making problem.</div>

rlavach · February 2012

Oh, and just wanted to add that I just received news this weekend that I'd have a surprise $4500 bill coming in the next few months. I had absolutely no way of knowing. If I did, I would've planned my wedding quite differently. Because of that, my FI and I are scrambling to see how much overtime we can both work (on top of the fact that I already work full time and run my own part-time business) to raise the money. Oh man, this is going to be interesting.

lynchaa · February 2012

Yes I completely sympathize. You honestly don't know how much there is to do & think about until you're in it! I am so stressed out and it's getting hard to stay motivated to do the things I need to do. Something went wrong the other day and I just laid down and cried! It will all be over soon so I'm trying to tell myself to enjoy the ride

karenmruff · February 2012

I think I'm doing ok one minute, and then the next minute I am crying over 'make-it-yourself' pizza crust that won't behave. I kid you not. It was embarrassing. :-) We'll get through this!

faerylvr27 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm more stressed about my PhD dissertation and job stuff than the wedding right now.<strong> I have a "F*** it list." </strong>It's a list of things that would be cool to do for the wedding (certain DIY, fancy escort cards, programs, etc), but if time gets tight I can just say "f** it!" and scrap it. So I focus on doing the important things and not the little DIY details at this point. I suggest making an F*** it list for some details/DIY. And I like Amanda's point about the big picture.
Posted by mdphd[/QUOTE]

WHAT. a great idea! I think I will make one of those too! Actually, I did have one thing on there. I was going to buy a case of flip flops for all the ladies, but they were no less than $100, and I'd rather put that towards another expense. It would have been a nice gesture to provide for my female guests, but I am already providing round trip shuttle service to/from the hotel, as well as 2 babysitters for the kids table, so I'm tapped out!

inhisname2010 · February 2012

YES!!!! Everytime I look at the checklist on the knot it stresses me out...the wedding is in 10 WEEKS!!!! AHHHH!!!! But on the flip side...I don;t have much left but I don't want to procrastinate on it either. I have:

Seating cards
Favors
Rehearsal Dinner
Finalize venue stuff like linens, meals, etc which have to wait until I get a better idea of counts
Keep working out so I can fit into my dress...lol. 4 more inches!!!
And of course paying on and saving for things...

I think that's it...but everythime I say that I remember something else

Lokking forward to the honeymoon....RELAXATION!!!

anniemac1581 · February 2012

I feel better ladies.. on top of the wedding stress..I moved to where my FI is in September to FINALLY end the long distance thing- so in past 6 months started new job, getting used to a new community even further from my family and friends and planning a wedding... ive had heart palipiations im assuming from stress- i feel like a weak person but i think its added up. make sense? or am i nuts???

cdbishop · February 2012

I know there are things that need to be done, but i am not stressing too much. I have the big things done, and the little things are just added to the day. I am going to enjoy my no matter what even if one little decor item doesn't get done. No one else will know except me

starree444 · February 2012

I can't even begin to list the things i`m stressed about. Everyday someone asks me something that i haven't even thought about yet... I have about 2 months left and it doesn't seem to be enough time!

Did I mention that the store hasn't even recieved my dress yet?

Oy.

quiggels219 · February 2012

Um yes I am super stressed over all the details. I am also planning from far away which makes the details worse because I feel like I can't work on some larger diy things until home, which is always quick weekend trips. I do have my mom and moh in my home town to help but I still stress out. I have trouble concentrating at work sometime and end up making lists in a file to look like I'm working - I'm so excited for the wedding to be here soon but I wish I would have taken the week before off to have more time home for the last minute things!

tinstarsunshine · February 2012

i dont blame you at all. I was all excited about gettign the favors in and then had a horrble realization that i now have to label and package all 300 bottles of olive oil and balsamic vinegar...needless to say i then panicked on how to transport all the bottles since they didnt all fit in my BM's car when she dropped them off. That was just one of this weekend's fun spazz-fests. I don;t even sleep anymore I'm so stressed.

rlavach · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_anyone-else-feeling-stress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:df826e23-5f4f-4290-8ee3-cf10e92bfcfdPost:51bfae4c-8193-4a68-b107-ad8471526278">Re: Anyone else feeling the stress?</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel better ladies.. on top of the wedding stress..I moved to where my FI is in September to FINALLY end the long distance thing- so in past 6 months started new job, getting used to a new community even further from my family and friends and planning a wedding... <strong>ive had heart palipiations im assuming from stress</strong>- i feel like a weak person but i think its added up. make sense? or am i nuts???
Posted by anniemac1581[/QUOTE]
Yep, me too. Mine are worse because I have a heart murmur. Nothing life threatening, I don't even know it's there, unless I have palpitations. They feel wicked strange, rather than the normal thumping most get. <div>
</div><div>This weekend I had to control myself from having a meltdown at the Lowes. My FI told me it would cost $100-125 to repaint our new apartment. When we got there, turns out although he paints as part of his job, he's never actually bought the paint and it was $200 in paint alone. Once you added all of the trappings, it was $250. He was running around the store grabbing all of the things we needed & I literally was flipping out. He was running, my mom was running. I had to go to a corner & breath, or else I'd start balling. </div><div>
</div><div>I regrouped, but man, that shouldn't be happening 2.5 months before the wedding! This should be a happy time...right?? o.O</div>

mybestfriend4eva · February 2012

I think we are all starting to get and feel stressed which is perfectly normal at this stage. Its all about the little details now and it seems like every time you check something off the list you are then adding 5 more things LOL. Just breathe and remember all the little details are just that details. The only thing that truly matters on this day is marrying the man of your dreams. This is what I tell myself whe I start stressing.

meganb1977 · February 2012

Yeah I wasn't really worried about anything until this past weekend when fiance had a break from his course he's been taking on weekends and we actually could worry about some of the wedding stuff while he had a chance to give his input. Now I feel like I'm in a crunch to get the invitations all addressed and do it nicely!

I do like the idea of an f--- it list :-)

I can only imagine that if you've moved to a new town and started a new job, or even just been working on setting things up in a new place, that is even more stress! It's a lot of change all at once so you ladies are more than entitled to cut yourselves a whole lot of slack.

rardito · February 2012

The main thing that's stressed out is my bank account

Epiphany1031 · February 2012

SO stressed out, however I'm finding that the more things I do, the better I feel. Except for now it's just monopolizing my life, lol!! I even took off work today to do wedding stuff. Oh my...

emilyandjoeygetmarried · February 2012

agree with pp's totally doing a f*** it list. I'm so stressed that I am 4 days late...hoping its stress. I actually just went and got a test cause the last thing i need is to be stressing about having a little one on the way too. ughhhhh.

I've been so behind, can't deal...where are my friends margarita and chardonnay?

*edit* typing it out gave me the guts to go test...negative. thank god. so its the stress instead. ugh.

Sp2012 · February 2012

Yes I am with you ladies!

Now at 1 day less than 2 months, we're getting our RSVPs in, and I"m trying to figure out what the easiest things is to do are so I don't have to fly a bunch of stuff over to Hawaii. But doing a DW does mean I am simply not worrying too much about some of the little details - the more detail the more work! We'll arrive 4 days prior to the wedding so have time to do some stuff, but I also want it to be fun time!

jewelry - need to shop for
ringbearer outfits - need to buy online
place cards - will have to print out here & take over there
favors - we'll buy pre-package favor cookies there
programs - I gotta shop for some paper for these, will print @ home @ take over
kids activities bag during reception - probably put something together over there.

good luck ladies!

em01092 · February 2012

I FINALLY finished my BM hangers yesterday. WOOOOO.

Also, I totally just made an F it list. Thanks for that tip!

em01092 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]The main thing that's stressed out is my bank account
Posted by rardito[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh and this too.</div>

Delaney85 · February 2012

I am stressed because we moved 3 weeks ago due to a 2 week notice transfer for my fiance, I quit my job as he had an offer we could not refuse, I left my mom, wedding planner, wedding party and am now 4 hours away from all of my resources. luckily my mom is a professional event planner and has just taken this wedding as we are getting settled and kept it all going. I am a bit of a control freak and now feel totally out of control, and it stresses me out, my Fi put it all in to prospective and said I did not propose to you to make you stressed out. So we are just going to enjoy this time. We had an amazing talk yesterday and it was what I needed to put things in to prospective. Just so many changes at once has been a little overwhelming

Oh and I do not know how to post pictures, I really want to post our engagement photos. or other photos in the future, boooo.

em01092 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I am stressed because we moved 3 weeks ago due to a 2 week notice transfer for my fiance, I quit my job as he had an offer we could not refuse, I left my mom, wedding planner, wedding party and am now 4 hours away from all of my resources. luckily my is a professional event planner and has just taken this wedding as we are getting settled and kept it all going. I am a bit of a control freak and now feel totally out of control, and it stresses me out, my Fi put it all in to prospective and said I did not propose to you to make you stressed out. So we are just going to enjoy this time. We had an amazing talk yesterday and it was what I needed to put things in to prospective. Just so many changes at once has been a little overwhelming <strong>Oh and I do not know how to post pictures, I really want to post our engagement photos. or other photos in the future, boooo.</strong>
Posted by Delaney85[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Sorry to hear about your situation. That has to be rough!</div><div>
</div><div>As for pics, at the bottom of the posting window you should see a grey bar that has the bold, itallics, all those icons. The one of the picture of the tree (next to the check mark)? Click it, and a window to select photos from your computer should pop up. Then just find the file, select, and hit save!

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rlavach · February 2012

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[QUOTE]agree with pp's totally doing a f*** it list. <strong>I'm so stressed that I am 4 days late...hoping its stress.</strong> I actually just went and got a test cause the last thing i need is to be stressing about having a little one on the way too. ughhhhh. I've been so behind, can't deal...where are my friends margarita and chardonnay? *edit* typing it out gave me the guts to go test...negative. thank god. so its the stress instead. ugh.
Posted by emilyandjoeygetmarried[/QUOTE]
I was messed up last month too! I was 2 days early and then it lasted 12 days. Rough! My gyno said it has to be stress because nothing else is wrong. <div>
</div><div>When you get together with margarita & chardonnay, don't forget to invite me! ;)</div>

dawle77 · February 2012

I totally love the idea of an "F*** It List" cause I need it now lol Our house has been put on the market and now we're dealing with showings and open houses and the wedding and it's all stressing me out now. I barely slept last night. As soon as I have a minute to make the list, I will lol

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