Out of the Ordinary

[Deleted User] · May 2012

What's the most nontraditional thing you are doing? Or is there anything traditional that you are putting your own spin on?

achiduck · May 2012

We're doing a first look. We're also not doing a garter toss.. I guess that qualifies as "non-traditional" since traditional weddings usually have it.

brainybrunette · May 2012

FI and I are staying together the night before

We're doing a first look

My mom's walking me down the aisle

Wedding's not in a church (first in my immediate family to not have a wedding in the church)

We're writing our own ceremony

Father daughter dance is with my uncle

No bouquet or garter toss

ivedonethisb4 · May 2012

We're sticking mostly with the traditional route. My mom will be the one to walk me down the aisle though. We aren't doing any seating arrangements with a guestlist of over 200. I guess that's non traditional...

fjw2012 · May 2012

We're also doing a first look, we're not getting married in a church, and our reception is masquerade themed which I guess is a bit non traditional.

minionlover · May 2012

I think that our most non-traditional thing that we are doing is having a Thursday wedding. We are also:

- having a destination wedding
- getting married on the beach
- no garter or bouquet toss
- no DJ
- no veil
- no parent dances
- I am walking by myself down the aisle
- no rehersal dinner
- we are spending the night before the wedding together

I am pretty sure that I could go on...

cbear215 · May 2012

I guess our music is sort of non-traditional. We also are not getting married in a church, FI's cousins are marrying us (they can obtain a civil license to do so for one day in MA), and because of that, we are writing our own ceremony. We are also skipping the bouquet/garter toss.

SomethingBeautiful08 · May 2012

This is fun to think about. We are a very traditional couple and most of our wedding will reflect that, but defining "non-traditional" as out of the ordinary for most weddings we've got a few items on the list.
~ Minimal wedding party, just my sister (MOH) and his brother (BM)
~ No full meal, just apps & cake at the reception
~ No dancing... partly a church rule, partly that FI is not into it
~ No bouquet / garter toss... well probably, FI not into it, but that isn't final yet
~ I might perform (flute) at my own reception.. I'm still working on that little surprise (hopefully)
~ The whole event is no where near my home town, so in some ways, FMILs are hosting it more then my parents.

ricasunga · May 2012

We are not doing anything traditional at all. My wedding is in Hawaii and the "after party" in San Francisco

hllokttygirl · May 2012

My traditional list might be shorter but here goes Spending the night together before the wedding First look Music non traditional. (think Muppets music for processional and horror movie music for grand entrance) Handfasting ceremony No garter/bouquet toss Best woman Hitting the arcade in full wedding attire after the wedding

music11 · May 2012

Honestly, I think most of the "non-traditional" things we are doing have become traditional, or at least not super noteworthy. But here goes:

-Blue shoes

-Wedding (hopefully) outside, at our reception venue. No church

-No bouquet or garter toss

BrittneyRN · May 2012

I'm not wearing a veil because I hate them. Uneven wedding party. No flower girl.

[Deleted User] · May 2012

Ours are ringbearer bowl engraved with a quote instead of a pillow saw it on Etsy, short dance with karaoke for the rest of the reception and no garter toss. And music usually differs depending on the wedding but we're doing 90's music during dinner instead of love songs like I hear at most weddings. The only music FI and I both actually like.

kimm260 · May 2012

Our nontraditionals are

a judge is performing the ceremony (maybe the only different non tradition)

escort card display board

and no garter or bouquet toss, which seems to be becoming more 'traditional'

getintheboxx · May 2012

-Only having a Jr. Bridesmaid, Flower Girl, and Ring Bearer
-Staying the night together the night before
-No Bouquet or Garter Toss
-I'm walking myself down the aisle
-No bridal party dance
-No father/daughter or mother/son dance
-No Bridal Shower
-No Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties

DeannaCW · May 2012

We're actually very traditional, so this is a lil tough to think of!

We're doing bouquet toss and some sort of toss for the guys, but it won't be the garter. Not sure exactly what yet, but probably the shoulder plaid from FI's kilt.

Don't know if we're doing father/daughter mother/son dance. If we do they'll be at the same time, but not sure if we will due to some of FMIL's disabilities.

-Blue shoes
-silk flower centerpieces
-not wearing pearl necklace
-Married in Protestant church, the first to do so in his family (all others were Catholic)
-possibly an uneven wedding party, though not sure yet depending how many GMs can fly out (from England)
-Recessional will be to Muppets music
-Processional will be to recorded bagpipe music and a Celticized version of Canon in D (semitraditional, but sounds so different)

islandmonkey8 · May 2012

Our good friend is marrying us and for the ceremony we will be asking our guests to each bring 6 inches of ribbon or string and starting in the back on each side tie each piece together, ending at our parents. Then we will tie the two sides together showing that both families, not just FI and I are becoming one. (FI and I REALLY love this idea)

A lot of other stuff we're doing is traditional - but it works for us.

annieravensfan528 · May 2012

-No garter or bouquet toss. I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and NO ONE wanted to participate in either event. I felt embarrassed for the couple.
-No bridal march. We have a guitarist and he's gonna play In My Life for me to walk down the aisle.
-No flower girls/ring bearer. This is mainly because our families are small and almost all the kids are grown.
-We're getting married outside our venue which is an old barn. I wanted to get married at a church but because our wedding is on a Friday evening, we figured it would be more convient to just have the ceremony ands reception at the same place.
-I'm wearing a birdcage veil.

aphrael · May 2012

let's see..
French law (where I now live)stipulates that you cannot legally marry in a religious ceremony until after a civil marriage has taken place at your local mayor's office..so I'm doing civil in France and religious in Illinois.

I told my BM's to wear whatever dress they want, but I'd like navy blue.

I have bright teal shoes.

Most (if any) of his family will make the trip to the States, so we won't have Bride's side and Groom's side at the church

I don't want a runner (my mom is getting concerned)

no bouquet toss, no garter toss (but an anniversary dance instead)

no showers, bachelorette parties or anything before

instead of table numbers, we're going to name the tables after towns in France that have meaning to us (also keeps my divorced parents from caring who sits at a higher numbered table)

no guestbook, but i do have vintage mini paris postcards folks can write well wishes on

went with a photojournalist instead of a traditional photographer

there will probably be more..but that's what we've planned..i however, will look very traditional and so do the invites...it's just the way it worked out

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