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Multiple "stepmoms"

My H and I are having  a cocktail hour/reception only as we previously had a private ceremony. The problem is that my FIL has never settled down and has fathered several children with several women. My F wants to invite all of his siblings/half siblings. Most of them are adults, however two are minors and will need to be accompanied by their respective mothers (one is out of state and the other is just plain nuerotic and will not let the child go anywhere without her even if he is with his father). Too make matters more confusing my H lost his mom when he was 9 so there is no real MIL. I am trying to figure out if i should be getting his two "stepmoms" corsages for the reception or don't get any for them as both have since seperated from his father. Both my mother and grandmother will have one and both of our fathers will have boutenieres. My H wont as he will be in military dress uniform and I will only have a tossing bouquet as we are not having the ceremony. Any advice would ne greatly appreciated.

Re: Multiple "stepmoms"

  • jerseydeviljerseydevil member
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    edited December 2011
    To me, it wouldn't be a huge deal and I would give them corsages especially since it seems your FI has stayed close with his step siblings. If they are special to him and he wants to honor them that is the perfect way to do it!
  • Catwoman708Catwoman708 member
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    edited December 2011

    Corsages should be for actual mothers or current stepmothers of the bride and groom.  So if your FIL is not currently married, it is not required to have one for past babymommas.

    But if your DF is especially fond of his ex stepmother(s) and wants them to have one, there is nothing wrong with it either.

  • lisab613lisab613 member
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    edited December 2011
    i'm with PPs, you could go either way. i don't think it would be seen as a huge slight if you didn't get them flowers, but it might be a nice gesture. i say let your FI decide, based on his relationship with them. it's very thoughtful of you to consider this, though.
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  • Speechie1970Speechie1970 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with all of the above! 
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  • kpwedkkkpwedkk member
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    edited December 2011
    If corsages don't cost a lot to you, then go for it :)  They must have some meaning in your FI's life, else he would not be so close to them!

    "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
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