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Feeling a little sad...

starree444starree444 member
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I know this doesn't really belong here, but this is the board where i post the most, so i'm going to post it here...

I'm feeling a little sad. Six months ago i moved across the country. Well lo and behold my bf proposed and now i'm planning a wedding. I just really wish my mom was here to help me in person. I love my FMIL but it's not the same. I'm going to two dress stores with her this week and all i can think about is that i would much rather be doing all of this with my mom. My mom feels the same, but there's nothing we can do about it. Neither of us are made of money, so we can't fly back and forth willy nilly like we would like to. It wouldn't be so bad if i could at least take pictures in real time and text them to her... But no bridal salons will allow it.

I'm basically feeling the same way about not having my best friend around.

I'm just doing my best to not cry about this sometimes.

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  • robinandtimmyrobinandtimmy
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    edited December 2011
    Are you looking at dresses in Las Vegas??  I was able to take pictures at most of the salons.  Davids Bridal and Bowties the sales girl took pictures for me.  

    I don't go on this board a lot if you need any help private message me if you can.  I understand how you feel.  I am lucky my mom is near me, however, my girls are all across the country so it's hard.  I am sure it is sooo much harder without having your mom.
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  • starree444starree444 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not looking in Vegas for my dress. I'm looking where i live right now.

    I just posted here because i feel like the girls on this board are the nicest.
    I just needed to get this out.

    Thanks :)

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  • rferryrferry
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    edited December 2011
    I also had to plan while far from my mom and sister ( maid of honor) I am sorry this is bumming you out. :( there were lots of texts and email and picture texts that I sent to help me feel like she was part of it! I have some great girl friends who went to dress fittings and doted on me, which was nice, but I still missed my mom! Anyway you two can plan a wedding weekend/ planning visit? I know money can be tight, while planning, but I had my mom out for a shower my friend threw and we all crammed into my one bedroom apt and had a great time getting caught up!!
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  • starree444starree444 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm hoping maybe my mom can come out... but i don't know.
    It sucks because we got engaged while she and my stepdad were here visiting, but there wasn't enough time to go look at dresses or start planning or anything like that.

    I think it's just hard all around because i'm in one place, she's in another, and i'm getting married in another. Hah!

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  • murphanzomurphanzo
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    edited December 2011
    I know exactly how you're feeling.  It's sad a really sad feeling when you're supposed to be planning the happiest day of your life and your mom and family aren't there.  You can't go rushing to your mom saying you just heard a trunk show was going on, show her a cute picture from a magazine, or go to bridal shows together.  It took me about a month to two to get a handle on it (it was a very sad few months).  Now, there are multiple daily phone calls and an insane amount of emails.  And I only went dress shopping to get ideas, not find "the one" until my mom could come with me.

    What I'm trying to say, is it'll get easier.  Don't dwell on the fact that she's not there physically, call/email/text.  And wait for her to go dress shopping when you're ready to find the perfect dress.

    Plus, you've got tons of Knotties here  Wink  these girls are super sweet and will help you through anything.
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  • starree444starree444 member
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    edited December 2011
    It is so true that the knotties at awesome! I would love to wait for my mom to be here to go shopping but my wedding is in 6 months so I have to order soon. I also should have mentioned that I talk to my mom about the wedding stuff many times a day. I emailed her a bazillion links to dresses too. I know it will get easier, but it still sucks sometimes. Luckily she is very supportive and I also have a great FMIL.

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  • mizutamababymizutamababy member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't worry!  When you get to Vegas you will be nothing but happy and you will make the lost time together up!

    I was in a similar situation... I planned the wedding overseas from Japan and my mother and best friend (MOH) and already married friends were all back in the U.S.  FI (now hubby) wasn't much help and I pretty much did the wedding on my own with decoration help from a good friend of mine.  I wish (and my MOH) wishes it could have been us doing it, but I'll say that it made me a lot closer to the friends I have over on this side of the pacific and that when we got to Vegas I made sure to make all that lost time up with my mother and MOH!

    I missed my best friend so much I actually cried when I saw her when we got off the shuttle bus from the airport.  I didn't even cry at the wedding but I sure did cry then!

    Even if you can't do it real time...  I did a lot of FB messaging of pics and things I was thinking about so my MOH/mom would feel more involved and I could get their sound opinions.  I know it isn't the same, but it did help me cope a lot with them not being there.
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  • starree444starree444 member
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    edited December 2011
    That's exactly how I'm doing it right now. Emails, Facebook and phone calls. It's been getting easier, and I ordered my STDs this past week so it's all becoming real. The one thing that is still getting to me is that my bfff hasn't committed to coming. She is also my MOH and only bm and my witness. She has issues with finishing school a month earlier and going on her honeymoon. It's a long story. I know it's a risk for a DW but we were never going to get married in my hometown. It was always going to be Vegas. Our families live on opposite sides of the country so it's only fair if everyone has to travel. I'm so glad everything worked out so well for you! I read your reviews (i think. There have been a lot lately) and it looks like you had the time of your life!

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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
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    edited December 2011
    AWW!  I went through the same thing during my planning.....I was/am in driving distance but it was still hard to always have the support that I really wanted during the planning. Ditto everyone....EMAIL, FB and TXT! They will be the best way to share everything :)
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  • starree444starree444 member
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    edited December 2011
    It will be the best way for sure.

    I just really wish i could take pictures for my mom!

    Also, the issue with my bfff makes it really difficult for me to talk wedding with her, because she sort of shuts down when i talk about it. I made a joke about making her wear some really ugly shoes for the wedding and she just never texted back. I get that she might not be able to be there, but i`m acting like she WILL be there. Maybe if i want it/believe it enough i will make it so.

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_feeling-little-sad-lonely?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:e2fa8ada-86d6-4a08-9535-4cfb309e4d7dPost:5530d9cd-eb85-46bd-885a-38f94884919b">Re: Feeling a little sad...</a>:
    [QUOTE]It will be the best way for sure. I just really wish i could take pictures for my mom! <strong>Also, the issue with my bfff makes it really difficult for me to talk wedding with her, because she sort of shuts down when i talk about it.</strong> I made a joke about making her wear some really ugly shoes for the wedding and she just never texted back. I get that she might not be able to be there, but i`m acting like she WILL be there. Maybe if i want it/believe it enough i will make it so.
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    So sorry about that :( But please remember...NO MATTER what! As long as you are there and your FI are there the rest is all icing on the cake<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /> I know it's hard to think that way but in the end it will save you from all of the stress/crying etc...
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  • starree444starree444 member
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    edited December 2011
    I know that's really all that matters but I just want her there so badly. I talked to her hubby about it and he's gonna do everything in his power to make sure they're there. I want him there too of course. I just wish I could just TALK to her about stuff. Sometimes I need opinions other than my mother's. She did see my STDs, so that was good.

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