i miss my FI!!!

amongthelilies25 · February 2011

i miss my fi! needed to say it!

kellya01 · February 2011

Yeah, I was missing mine REALLY bad. He dropped by for about 3 hours. 1 hour of it I had to be gone at choir practice, but I got to see him for a little while, so that was nice! I won't get to see him again until probably Saturday or Sunday. We try to get in about 3 visits a week but that gets hard sometimes on his busy work schedule and my evening / volunteer activities. And I just took Mondays from him, with the Zumba class with the other ladies at church. He doesn't mind and we are just counting the days until July 16 finally comes!

I do have to remind myself to not focus too much on the future... about 2 weeks ago I found myself obsessing and dreaming about the future with him and I had to pray for God to keep my eyes on Him and keep me mentally engaged in the "present" so that I can enjoy this season of getting to know FI better, becoming closer, etc.

amongthelilies25 · February 2011

ya! i understand that battle of living in the dream and staying grounded in the now. i have not seen my FI since Christmas - before that i hadn't seen or talked to him since August. And i won't see or talk to him until May when he is out of school.

its REALLLLLY hard. by far the hardest thing i have ever done up to date. I know that it is a season and it will be over soon and i really need to keep my focus on God and really get all i need to get out of this season...but it doesnt make me miss him less.

i just gotta keep my eyes focused on my Lord and know that vision gives pain a purpose and trust God.

joyfulbride424 · February 2011

WOW! That is so hard!! I thought it was bad for me - I haven't seen my FI since Christmas but we talk everyday, that feels like a dream compared to what you are going through

I will say a prayer for you and FI. Hang in there!

kellya01 · February 2011

Wow, I didn't realize you hadn't seen him since Christmas! You are a patient woman. I wish I could be half as patient as that! You're an inspiration to me...

My Dad looked at me the other night, and said "y'all need to get Skype"! We have the same cell phone company so it's free for us to talk on cell phone, but even still, it is a nice way to see each other even if you can't hold each others' hands or anything else.

I'll certainly keep you in my list of Knotties to pray for... that you and your FI can have the patience to make it through this time of being apart! I would imagine you're probably counting down the days before that special day in May too!!

fpaemp2011 · February 2011

I'm with ya, lilies.

My roommate's FI is in the Marines and got a 4 day pass to surprise her last night at our front door with roses and a box of chocolates. Makes me wonder just a tiny bit if I could make the 17 hour trip to Kansas (and the 18 hour trip back) in a weekend. Just a tiny little bit.

GJones27 · February 2011

I definitely understand the feeling. I once went seven months without seeing my fiance when he was living in Brazil still. My advice: put together a care pakage (especially for Valentine's approaching!) Whenever I missed my FI, I would just write a letter or do a new project for him, and it helped. Or work on something fun with the wedding for distraction. Hang in there!

iamjoesgurl · February 2011

Before we were married (as most of you know) we were long distance so it was hard but we were able to talk every day, email often and text often. That helped. But I tried to remind myself that someday I would look back on those days and be thankful for my independence. Not that being married is bad - it's awesome - but it is nice sometimes when we have some space. DH is going away for the weekend and I'll miss him but when he comes back on Monday, it will be even more special to see him. You know how they say that absence makes the heart grow fonder? It's true. That is, if it is possible for my heart to grow fonder of him.

Lilies - why can't you talk to FI? That must be so hard!

AshNoel8 · February 2011

Wow, that is tough. Before you know it, you will be married and with him everyday for the rest of your lives. I will say a prayer that you find peace these next several months.

amongthelilies25 · February 2011

thanks for all the prayers! i appreciate it!

joesgirl: we are kind of in a unique situation. my FI is an a leadership/ministry school (kind of like master's commission..if anyone knows what that is) at an Assembly of God church in So Cal. There is a VERY strict "no emotional dating" policy at the school for the first year. When he first got to school (we had been dating for about 7 months when he first got there) we thought the policy was for no dating the people in the school or in the church (which made sense to me) or maybe even no starting a NEW relationship so that its not a distraction. My FI and i thought it wouldnt apply to us..since we had been dating for a half of year already and we were 8 hours apart. BUT...we got an awakening and found out that he was to take the first year and not date AT ALL and focus just on God. The issue: we already knew we were going to get married..and i even lived with his family. There really wasnt a way to NOT be emotionally attached to me. BUT we submitted ourselves to the authority that was placed in our lives and followed the rules like everyone else in the program. which meant ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT at all! no phones calls. no emails. no texts. nothing. everything was put on hold. He wrote me ONE letter to reassure his feelings for me and that nothing has changed....he still wanted to come home and marry me. Christmas break came and although we did get to see and talk to eachother..we still had strict boundaries. we are not a "couple" and can't act like one. so.....side hugs, no holding hands, and absolutely no kissing. we couldnt be alone...and i had to stay at a friend's house while he was home. (since i moved in with his family when he went to school)

Although the situation frustrates me at times and makes me sad....and at times i even dont understand it fully.....it is undeniable that my FI has been completely transformed by God at this school. (: i am VERY proud of him. and it is going to make it THAT much better when he is home.

so encouragement is appreciated. and ladies that get to see their FI everyday, or even talk everyday...PLEASE dont take it for granted! treasure each moment. from loving dates to simple watching TV to cute little texts through out the day. treasure it. (:

happy planning!

and yes..i am counting down to my wedding AND when i can see him again. its in my Sig. (:

kellya01 · February 2011

Wow, amongthelillies! You will have QUITE a testimony to share when God brings the time for you and your FI to marry. Wow. I can understand the desire the school has for your FI to not be dating and to focus on the Lord while he's there. We did a thing when I was in high school to commit to "no dating" for 1 year. That included casual dates, being alone with a guy even if we're among a group, and certainly no emotional relationships with a guy (etc) so that during that 1-year commitment, we could focus on our walk with Christ and become stronger Christians with THAT being our only focus.

At the time I was fully committed to it, and after it was over, I felt a bit of a release from the commitment, but even after it was over, I didn't seriously date anyone because I knew that my focus needed to be on what God was putting in my life, not on trying to FIND something else. Eventually God brought about change in my life, a new job, a new living location, and showed me the Godly man that He had saved for me. I am COMPLETELY blessed in all of it, even though at the time I didn't realize it. I could have wasted my time dating so many guys (and was asked out quite a bit) but I'm REALLY glad that I let God take reign!

That isn't quite your story by a long shot but you reminded me of it. After your wedding in another 6 months, you'll have your then-husband for the rest of your lives, and God can work in BOTH of your lives together! This time of being apart can't be easy by any stretch of the imagination, but I know that God is our comfort and our strength. I'll keep you in my prayers!!! :-)

amongthelilies25 · February 2011

Kelly! oh!!! you have a beautiful testimony! and i know me and my FI will too.

it is VERY hard at times but our passion keeps us going. We knew that vision gives pain a purpose...and we are feeling that pain..but the we see the promise..and it gives that pain a reason. like working out....you know the results so its worth the pain. that is how it is with my FI and i. its hard....and i miss him but the outcome is worth it! (:

thanks for sharing your heart and the encouragement!

iamjoesgurl · February 2011

I'm with Kelly - WOW!! I can't even begin to imagine what that would be like. It must be so difficult and I know that I would be counting down the days to see him too if I was you. It's under 3 months - YAY!!

iamjoesgurl · February 2011

BTW - how was your interview?

fpaemp2011 · February 2011

Lilies- Have you heard "Dancing in the Minefields" by Andrew Peterson? What you said in your last post brought the chorus of that song to mind.

YouTube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Gs3fg_WsEg

amongthelilies25 · February 2011

joesgirl: ya!!! less then 3 months! i am sooooo excited!!! (: i cannot wait!

the interview went well.....i think. lol. she said she would let me know at the beginning of this week...but its tuesday and no call. so i'm not sure. BUT...my FI got a for sure job when he comes home! It is hard work but he will be working with a family friend (who we go to church with) doing asphalt. It pays really well too...and its a GREAT work environment. (: So Praise God for that!!! it really is an answer to prayer! (:

emily - i just listened to that song! it is GORGEOUS!!! (:

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