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Walking Myself Down the Isle?

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I'm trying to get how people feel about a bride walking herself down the isle. My family is complicated and I think this would solve a lot of issues and make things easier on me. Also I feel like I've done a lot on my own and been able to stand on my own two feet so this kind of feels appropriate.

But can people give me some feedback because I know it's not traditional and I've never been to a wedding where the bride wasn't escorted by her father or someone.

Thank you!

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    cutie4420cutie4420
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    its your wedding, you can do whatever you want :)

    Ive been to a ton of weddings, some have just Dad, just Mom, Mom and Dad, and Ive seen 2 brides walk alone.

    I dont know your situation, but I would talk to my Mom and Dad (if they are in your life) just to avoid anyones feelings getting hurt.
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    trix1223trix1223 member
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    It's aisle, not isle (which is a land mass surrounded by water).

    You can walk down yourself if you'd like.  My friend's son did this:

    He was at the front of the venue as the bridesmaids came down.  Then his bride stepped to the top of the aisle. Groom then walked back to where she was, and together they came down the aisle together.

    It gave them the "aha" moment of a first look, but I liked the symbolism of the two of them walking together to the minister to get married.

    Would something like that work for you?
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    SarahRuthGSarahRuthG
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    I'm walking myself. I'm not close with my father and I don't feel like I need anyone to walk down the aisle.

    We are having all the guys already standing, my girls will walk alone, then I will walk alone. I reasoning is that we are all strong independent woman and we will make it just fine on our own, When people turn their noses up at the idea that's how I explain it. I have yet to have someone have anything to say after that.

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    golden1215golden1215 member
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    I think its totally fine.  I am walking myself down the aisle, not because I am mad at my dad or anything, but I'm a grown woman with a family and he isnt helping for the wedding- so the whole "giving the bride away" didnt feel right to me.  


    My MoH did the same thing, walked herself. 

    Do what makes you feel comfortable.

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    kirstenrkirstenr
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    I wouldn't see it as odd.  I personally wouldn't do it, but not because of aesthetics or anything, just because I would feel super awkward walking all by myself, because I'm ridiculously shy.  But if you feel it represents you as an independent person and makes you feel proud and happy, etc, I would say go for it.

    I also like Trix's story. That sounds very nice and I would love to see that.
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    mysticlmysticl member
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    I'm walking myself, my father died when I was a teenager  so if he was alive I would have him with me.  I really don't want anyone "taking his place".  I'm not really into the whole "who gives this woman" part either.  I'm 35, have been on my own for a long time and my FI is moving into MY house.  Doesn't make sense to ask someone to walk with me just for the sake of a tradition that doesn't really fit my situation. 
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    dittmerbullard2010dittmerbullard2010 member
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    I haven't decided for sure, but I am thinking about walking myself. I don't like the idea of someone giving me away.
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    trix1223trix1223 member
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    The fact that someone escorts you down the aisle doesn't have to mean that they're "giving you away".  It can be nothing more than an escort.

    At DD's wedding, each BM was escorted down the aisle by a GM during the processional.  The BMs weren't being "given away" by the GM.

    I was escorted to my seat by my son.  He wasn't giving me away.

    You CAN have someone escort you down the aisle, and then just skip the part about "Who gives this woman.....?"
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    Cole&EricCole&Eric member
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    I have one question......

    If you are all "Independent" "Strong" "I can do it on my own, I don't need a man to walk me down the aisle" type of women, Then why are you getting married??? If you are the one wearing the pants, then maybe you should stand at the front and let him walk....lol....Or maybe you should just admit defeat in your "women power" and just for once make him believe that you want him and need him!! I'm not saying to roll over and lose control, but geeez let the man show he can still open a jar once in a while.....


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    mysticlmysticl member
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    Cole, I'm getting married because I love my FI and want to spend the rest of my life with him.  I do want and need him.  Him, not just "a man". 

    I think the issue that some people have with being "given away" is that it is a tradition that dates back to when a daughter was born she was her father's (not her mother's) property and on her wedding day he turned her over to her new owner, her husband.  And by property I mean in the same category as the house, horses, and chickens.  The only time a woman could really be in charge of herself was if she wasn't married and had no male relatives.
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    Cole&EricCole&Eric member
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    You can have anyone walk you down, you dont have to be given away.


    I am having my father walk me down but is not giving me away, I am his only daughter so I think it's only right to have him involved!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_walking-myself-down-isle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:043ed921-3d61-451a-a06d-c24459fbc568Post:c8b77059-f09f-4da7-8f0f-e8f48fded7c0">Re: Walking Myself Down the Isle?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have one question...... If you are all "Independent" "Strong" "I can do it on my own, I don't need a man to walk me down the aisle" type of women, Then why are you getting married??? If you are the one wearing the pants, then maybe you should stand at the front and let him walk....lol....Or maybe you should just admit defeat in your "women power" and just for once make him believe that you want him and need him!! I'm not saying to roll over and lose control, but geeez let the man show he can still open a jar once in a while..... "I love the Knotties"
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    Nope, I don't NEED my Fi to take care of me or support me. i'm CHOOSING to have our equal partnership legally recognized.

    I'm 95% sure I'm walking alone... which fits my personality. Plus, my dad is rather shy!
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    mysticlmysticl member
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    Cole, my reason for not having my Dad walk me down the aisle is that he is dead.  I would give anything for him to walk with me down that alse.  My point is that I don't see that "tradition" of someone walking or giving the bride away to be so important or appropriate to my situation that I would get "anyone" to do it. 
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    dittmerbullard2010dittmerbullard2010 member
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    I see your point. I still want to walk by myself I think. It's a short aisle and my dad and I have some issues that we haven't completely worked out. I don't know if I will regret not having him walk me down the aisle though. I don't know.
    Amanda and Eric Gettin' married 10/10/10
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    Lisa8888Lisa8888
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    I don't think it would be odd. I have seen it before.
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    rekrjs21rekrjs21
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    My family situation is messed up two. My parents divorsed when I was 3 and I lived with my stepdad and mom and only visited my dad and stepmom once a week. And I am close with both of them, but they basically hate each other, sooo I am probabily going to ask my mom to walk me down the aisle. We are super close and she has always been the one that was really there for me.  But I may also just walk all by myself too! not sure yet, I still have almost a year to figure it out though!
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