October 2012 Weddings

Venting time... am I terrible for thinking this?

Ok, here's the scoop. Let me start this off by saying I love my sister, she is my best friend and my maid of honor.

 That being said she is pregnant with her second child and I only just found out she was four months preggo 5 days ago via a letter she sent even though we live 15 minutes away from each other. AND she is due 2 weeks before our wedding AND she planned to on getting pregnant.......not only that BUT she has no job and lives with her 2 year old daughter and her boyfriend in my parents house. 

Like I said I love my sister but WTF was she thinking????
I really want to be excited about being an aunt again but this is just too much drama and poor deciscion making to handle right now.


Am I a bad person for feeling this way??

Re: Venting time... am I terrible for thinking this?

  • I wouldn't say anything about the fact that it is close to the wedding. Baby's trump weddings, and you shouldn't expect someone to plan their children around your wedding. With that being said, I probably wouldn't say anything. I understand you're concerned for your sister considering her situation, but if you say something, it will just come off as judgmental.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_venting-time-am-i-terrible-for-thinking-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8e616eaf-072f-4dd4-9fd2-5fb7db5089a8Post:230cf79d-698a-401e-862d-72521266415a">Re: Venting time... am I terrible for thinking this?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wouldn't say anything about the fact that it is close to the wedding.<strong> Baby's trump weddings</strong>, and you shouldn't expect someone to plan their children around your wedding. With that being said, I probably wouldn't say anything. I understand you're concerned for your sister considering her situation, but if you say something, it will just come off as judgmental.
    Posted by BrittneyRN[/QUOTE]

    <div>This exactly, Not saying you are a horrible person I am sure you are a wonderful sister and a wonderful aunt but kids are born to all sorts of families in all sorts of situations if everyone waited til everything was perfect and planned around everyones weddings their would be a heck of a alot less children in the world.</div>
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_venting-time-am-i-terrible-for-thinking-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8e616eaf-072f-4dd4-9fd2-5fb7db5089a8Post:08c7b8c5-3cc4-42fc-83d2-440517612486">Venting time... am I terrible for thinking this?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok, here's the scoop. Let me start this off by saying I love my sister, she is my best friend and my maid of honor.  That being said she is pregnant with her second child and I only just found out she was four months preggo 5 days ago via a letter she sent even though we live 15 minutes away from each other. AND she is due 2 weeks before our wedding AND she planned to on getting pregnant.......not only that BUT she has no job and lives with her 2 year old daughter and her boyfriend in my parents house.  Like I said I love my sister but WTF was she thinking???? I really want to be excited about being an aunt again but this is just too much drama and poor deciscion making to handle right now. Am I a bad person for feeling this way??
    Posted by Ana139[/QUOTE]

    Nope. I'd feel the same way. My sis has made plenty of bad decisions. I just try to be there for her and support her. Not easy, I know!
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  • Ana139Ana139 member
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    Yeah I plan on being supportive I think I was more hurt she didn't tell me sooner more than anything. and I just worry because my poor mom ends up paying for everything for them. 
  • Yea, I thought it was weird she didn't tell you sooner and wrote a letter instead of just telling you. Maybe she was worried you would be upset because her due date is so close to your wedding.

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