Do I really have to invite "Regina George"?

Re: Do I really have to invite "Regina George"?

• jojobrn member

  

  September 2010 edited September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_really-invite-regina-george?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:64e3ebd7-b90c-451a-9103-0a838b847557Post:e0eff430-430f-489d-b6a0-1fc15658fb9b">Do I really have to invite "Regina George"?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Our invites will be going out in a few weeks and we are only giving "& guest" to those with significant others. A couple of the guys in our WP are each casually seeing someone and I'm not sure how to approach that situation, especially since they are our "VIPs", in a sense. One groomsman in particular is currently back to fooling around with an ex of his who he had previously caught cheating on him. I knew her from before he had met her and realized she was conniving and two-faced even then. Now that my fiance has seen how she treated his friend, he can't stand her either. Being in her presence makes us both uncomfortable. I think this GM gets that we're not big fans of hers, but I'm afraid that wouldn't stop him from bringing her if we gave him "and guest". I don't want to cause a rift between my fiance and one of his best friends, but it is our wedding day and we should be surrounded with people we love and who love us just as much in return. Any advice on how to approach this?   (On a side note, we are also inviting another one of his exes, who he had kind of a dramatic love triangle with also involving this girl he is now fooling around with. He is on good terms with both of them, but the girls aren't with each other. )
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• TheDuckis member

  

  September 2010

  People with significant others don't get "and guests," they get their SO named on the invite. If GM isn't living with or engaged to this woman you have no obligation to invite her by name. You also have no obligation to give anyone not in a serious relationship a +1.
  
  However, keep in mind that this one person is not going to ruin your day. You're going to be so busy, and having so much fun that you'll barely notice she's there.
  

  
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• lexandfab member

  

  September 2010

  Unfortunately you can't really dictate someones plus 1. If you would like to give him one then you should because, let's be realistic, he will probably have more fun with a date. The other girl who is already invited will have to suck it up and be a good friend since it's yours and FI's day and not about her. If you are so concerned about what he will do with his plus one then I suggest talking to him in person about it. Surely someone who is such a close friend to FI can handle it. 

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• Butter Cookie member

  

  September 2010

  I'm beyond shocked you put "and guest" to people who have significant others.
  
  Could you not be bothered to learn the SO's name?
  
  
  

  

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• AshleyC48 member

  

  September 2010

  Its your day and you can do whatever you want!  Our wedding is in a few weeks and those who were in relationships had their significant other put on the invite.  Those who were single just had their name. We didn't have any complaints.  People understand that you don't want to fork out $50 for someone they probably wont see again.

  And if her being there is going to bother you don't invite her!   Only one of our groomsmen is bringing a date.  The rest are single and stated that they didn't want to bring anyone because they will be so busy anyway that the poor girl would be ignored.
  

  
  

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