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Wedding Program Dilemma...

DeClue82DeClue82
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in August 2012 Weddings
My fiance is working on our wedding programs right now. We are planning to list our parents names on the program, but my parents are divorced. So what is the correct way to list this? Also, my mom will not be attending my wedding as I mentioned in a previous post (bc her husband is not invited...) She also never took her husbands last name, and still has my fathers... so how do I write this? I was going to leave her off since she wasn't going to be there, but my fiance said that is mean and makes me look like the person being rude. So options?

Steve DeClue accompanied by his wife Tara
Diane DeClue

Steve DeClue
Diane DeClue

What do I do? FI's parents are so easy...
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Re: Wedding Program Dilemma...

  • ohnoitskaroljoohnoitskaroljo
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    I agree, if she's not going to be there / hasn't helped with the wedding, then leave her off. Just put Steve & Tara DeClue :)
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  • DeClue82DeClue82
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    I'm afraid by just putting Steve and Tara DeClue it comes off as my step mom being my mother... I love her but I don't want there to be confusion... Also my aunt mothers sister will be there so I don't know if leaving her off is best...But no she hasn't contributed anything toward the wedding
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  • ohnoitskaroljoohnoitskaroljo
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    What if you added in a small font underneath the names "father of the bride, step-mother of the bride" ?
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    edited June 2012
    Honestly, if I were in your position, I would probably still include her. Unlike an invitation where only those hosting need to be listed, this is a program listing your parents, and she is still your parent whether she is there or not. I would probably do this: Steve and Tara Declue Father and Stepmother of the Bride Diane Declue Mother of the Bride Again, just my opinion, but I think it could cause more problems in the long run if she is left off. Edit: my phone makes the formatting look goofy, but I think you get the idea. Also, people who really know you will notice the absence of your mother whether she is in the program or not. If people talk about it, you will be too busy enjoying your day to notice or care.
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  • cshulercshuler member
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    I like libby2483 suggestion.. You can also try the following:

    Steve (Tara) DeClue
    Diane DeClue
    Parents of the Bride
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  • lb1212lb1212
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    I don't know the whole backstory, but do you need to add your stepfather's name?

    Steve and Tara DeClue
    Diane DeClue and Step Father's Name

    Otherwise
    Steve and Tara DeClue
    Diane DeClue

    I don't think you would need to identify that the 2nd name in the line is a step-parent.  Most people would figure out that Steve is your dad and Diane is your mom based on their names being listed first. 
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