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Shower Dilemma
I hope someone can help me out! It has come to that time for my wedding shower to be plannned, and I have ran across a couple sticky situations. My parents are paying for my whole wedding, which they have always told me they would do since I was a little girl. My family, however, is quite small so the majority of the guests are from my Fiance's Moms, Dads, Step-Moms, and Step-Dad's side. Just recently, my family and I were out to dinner with my in-laws and my fiance. My FMIL was adament on planning a joint shower, and throwing out ideas here and there. The thing is, I don't think she intends on paying anything. My parents, however have told me that if she doesn't chip in for her side, then we might have to do our own shower. My parents feel like they have payed enough for my fiance's side, since they are paying for all their guests to come to the wedding. How do I go about asking my FMIL about paying for her shower guests. I think the best way is to have my fiance ask her if she plans on contributing to pay for her guests. Even if she does pay for her own guests, and her side comes, my fiance's other sides will be pissed that they weren't invited. My parents can't pay for everything, so no matter what I do someone will be mad at me. I think it would just be best to have separate showers. I think telling this to my FMIL will make her upset, but I think it will make things easier.
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[QUOTE]I hope someone can help me out! It has come to that time for my wedding shower to be plannned, and I have ran across a couple sticky situations. My parents are paying for my whole wedding, which they have always told me they would do since I was a little girl. My family, however, is quite small so the majority of the guests are from my Fiance's Moms, Dads, Step-Moms, and Step-Dad's side. Just recently, my family and I were out to dinner with my in-laws and my fiance. My FMIL was adament on planning a joint shower, and throwing out ideas here and there. The thing is, I don't think she intends on paying anything. My parents, however have told me that if she doesn't chip in for her side, then we might have to do our own shower. My parents feel like they have payed enough for my fiance's side, since they are paying for all their guests to come to the wedding. How do I go about asking my FMIL about paying for her shower guests. I think the best way is to have my fiance ask her if she plans on contributing to pay for her guests. Even if she does pay for her own guests, and her side comes, my fiance's other sides will be pissed that they weren't invited. My parents can't pay for everything, so no matter what I do someone will be mad at me. I think it would just be best to have separate showers. I think telling this to my FMIL will make her upset, but I think it will make things easier.
Posted by Laura3086[/QUOTE]
I'd stay out of this one!
Your FMIL may throw a shower for you but she can't dictate that your parents pay for any part of it.
Your side of the family may also throw a shower for you but they can't dictate that anyone else has to pay.
Shower Host(s) may also be your bridal party, an aunt, your BFF, but no one is obligated to contribute unless they choose.
Got it?
hth
If your mom wants to cohost a shower with your fmil, she should ask her what her budget is, before any plans are made. Then she will know for sure whether the MOG is planning to contribute.
Posted by Laura3086[/QUOTE]
Absolutely not necessary.
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