babies at the wedding ceremony

3children · January 2010

Should babies be allowed in the chapel/church during the ceremony? I don't want to hear crying or fussing babies while my fiance and I are saying our vows and feel our guests who want to bring their babies can bring them to the reception after.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2010

If a guest is allowed to bring their baby to the reception, they should be able to bring them to the ceremony. Have an usher escort them outside if a baby starts fussing.

What are they going to do, leave the babies in a pile by the door, next to their shoes?

lyndausvi · January 2010

If they are allowed at the reception, then just let them come to the ceremony.

What are the parents to do, get a babysitter for an hour?

agk0125 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_babies-wedding-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:18636208-4dc9-4489-9e5b-6cc9eaa09049Post:98800815-3ec9-4605-8a3a-3c10b62d0d01">Re: babies at the wedding ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]What are they going to do, leave the babies in a pile by the door, next to their shoes?
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

HA.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2010

You could always not invite any kids, but be prepared to have people decline if they have small infants and you won't let them come, since it seems you are concerned about the very small ones.

laurenclaire1386 · January 2010

Wait, no one's latched on to the fact that this poster's SN is 3Children? Maybe I found it funnier than everyone else...

sucrets4 · January 2010

You're totally right. Absolutely NOTHING should get in the way of your special day being perfect.

Can they leave them in the car? I'm sure it'll be fine if they crack the window and leave them with a few toys.

thesuninherhead · January 2010

Given the OP's sn, I'm going to have to hope that this one is MUD.

ricksang · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_babies-wedding-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:18636208-4dc9-4489-9e5b-6cc9eaa09049Post:98800815-3ec9-4605-8a3a-3c10b62d0d01">Re: babies at the wedding ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]If a guest is allowed to bring their baby to the reception, they should be able to bring them to the ceremony. Have an usher escort them outside if a baby starts fussing. <strong>What are they going to do, leave the babies in a pile by the door, next to their shoes?
</strong>Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Ha, that's funny!

ricksang · January 2010

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[QUOTE]You're totally right. Absolutely NOTHING should get in the way of your special day being perfect. Can they leave them in the car? I'm sure it'll be fine if they crack the window and leave them with a few toys.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

OMG Hahaha, you guys stop!

sucrets4 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_babies-wedding-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:18636208-4dc9-4489-9e5b-6cc9eaa09049Post:9e621c67-66d2-4867-af5d-0931c1936f57">Re: babies at the wedding ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: babies at the wedding ceremony : OMG Hahaha, you guys stop!
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

What are you talking about? I'm giving good, solid advice here.

Bubbalub · January 2010

I, too, am jumping to the conclusion that this is MUD. The screen name did it for me.

thesuninherhead · January 2010

Personally, I was thinking a baby stand out the front of the venue (much like a hat stand, but with clips for the back of the babies' shirts) would work just as well.

and arggh, someone get me away from here! My PhD is calling and I can't seem to give it attention for anything over 5 minute stretches!

anna.oskar · January 2010

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[QUOTE]Should babies be allowed in the chapel/church during the ceremony? I don't want to hear crying or fussing babies while my fiance and I are saying our vows and feel our guests who want to bring their babies can bring them to the reception after.
Posted by 3children[/QUOTE]

You can just not invite any children.

But.. if you are getting married in a church, you generally can not dictate who can or can't come. We did not invite children but there wear at least 10 at the ceremony.

sucrets4 · January 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to babies at the wedding ceremony : You can just not invite any children. But.. if you are getting married in a church, you generally can not dictate who can or can't come. We did not invite children but there wear at least 10 at the ceremony.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

Duh, anna, she can just have bouncers at the door.

terbear_86 · January 2010

Most parents have the brilliance to remove their children during instances which would quote ruin unquote a special occasion. I myself brought my child to no less than 5 weddings before he turned 2. All of them he behaved at. The only one he whimpered at, I removed him from the chapel immediately and spent the rest of the time watching from the Cry Room Nursery that was designed specifically for children to cry in and had speakers so I could hear what was going on.

These are your Friends and family ffs. They are there because they WANT to see you get married and they KNOW how special it is. Leave it up to them to parent their children and you focus on important things, like making sure not to include registry information on your invitations and the flower girl not stealing your thunder.

smokeybailey · January 2010

Someone on here had a baby cry through her vows and the child was not removed. I don't remember who it was though.

I guess that family member or friend didn't love her enough....

terbear_86 · January 2010

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[QUOTE]Someone on here had a baby cry through her vows and the child was not removed. I don't remember who it was though. I guess that family member or friend didn't love her enough....
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

We can't all be special :)

anna.oskar · January 2010

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[QUOTE]Someone on here had a baby cry through her vows and the child was not removed. I don't remember who it was though. I guess that family member or friend didn't love her enough....
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

I didn't have a crier but I had a one year old babbler

kkchisholm · January 2010

my best friend/maid of honor asked if she could bring her baby who will be 6 months at my wedding. Of course I said yes. Her husband will just step aside if the baby starts to cry to much/too loudly.

kkchisholm · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_babies-wedding-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:18636208-4dc9-4489-9e5b-6cc9eaa09049Post:8b6bd600-d397-4747-8ffd-eb77b91f397c">Re: babies at the wedding ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: babies at the wedding ceremony : What are you talking about? I'm giving good, solid advice here.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

Be careful... she might take this advice!

bel138 · January 2010

A baby cried through our vows. Know when I realized it? When I watched the video a month later. I was so caught up in the emotion, that I didn't even realize a 6 month old was wailing.

lpstl · January 2010

Here's what you do: Make sure parents of small children know where they can go if the kid gets fussy. Don't invite morons. If you have to invite morons who do not remove their fussy child, make sure your wedding party is armed with blow darts that will instantly knock out the kid. You'll want to arrange some target practice lessons prior to the wedding though. Don't want grandma getting hit by a stray dart.

danieliza1127 · January 2010

We had two babies and a couple of toddlers at our ceremony and they never made a peep.

If you invite the parents with their kids, that includes the ceremony and the reception. If you don't want kids at the wedding, don't invite them at all, including the reception.

3children · January 2010

I got a lot of nasty responses to a simple question. No one is leaving babies in cars or by the front door. I merely thought that some couples would enjoy a night out together without a fussy baby. How can they enjoy themselves with a baby on their lap during dinner, and who is going to hold this baby if they want to dance? The chapel and the reception hall are in the same building and we are exploring the option of having one of the smaller rooms turned into a nursery with a sitter and not have the children in the chapel during the ceremony.

banana468 · January 2010

Here's the thing - if you don't want children, then don't invite them.

However your question of 'should they be invited' is rather arbitrary. If you 'do' invite them, you can't tell your guests that upon their arrival their children will not be a welcome part of the celebration. Put that information in an enclosure card (stating that on-site babysitting services will be provided) up front and don't invite the children in the first place if that's what you want. However if you invite the children, it's up to the parents to do just that - parent.

sarah0725 · January 2010

Oh, I am totally going to have a baby pile at my wedding. Thanks for the idea, guys!

OP, why is your username 3children when you seem to dislike children so much? I seem to remember another post about inviting kids with your name on it a week or so ago.

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