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Possible work problem - HELP

There is a woman here, who is HR. When I was going on my interview process, she was awful. She called my work and basically harrassed my co workers until she was able to talk to all 5 of my references. She asked inappropriate questions to my HR person at my old job. After my second interview they showed me where I'd be sitting, and I said to myself if it's with that woman, I can't work here, luckily it wasn't.

Since then she's been awful. She inturrupts work conversations to blurt out anything that's on her mind. She's constantly texting/calling her husband/children. Her oatmeal is some special thing, and it's the only thing that makes me want to throw up. it smells like molasses. She's gone behind my back on at least two occasions to the owner here after telling me not to say something, so she  could get her word in first. She's just not a good person and I can't stand her. She walks into our office and my blood boils.

Well, they are moving the woman I work with out of my office, and it seems like this Hr woman is going to be moving into my office. I won't be able to take her,  Ican't stand her the 10 minutes a day I have to already. Her and the owner are church friends (it's how she got the job) so I don't know what to say.... How do I tell my boss that I can't work in the same office with this woman? There is no where else for me to go.... and I can't get a new job right now.

Re: Possible work problem - HELP

  • edited December 2011
    Honestly... I don't know that there's anything you can do.  Especally if this person has tried to throw you under the bus before... and she's a "friend" of the boss. 

    I would, however, start keeping track of every. little. thing. because that way if she does try to throw you under the bus for something, you have something to back yourself up. 
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  • edited December 2011
    Ugh. What a crappy situation. I'm sorry BP! I don't have any great wisdom other than to say that I guess you have to try and stick it out for the time being (I dunno?!) Sorry, hun!
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  • ButtonsPepperButtonsPepper member
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    edited December 2011
    I dont want to not sit with her for throwing me under the bus, I don't want to sit with her because I hate her, and her presence bothers the S*** out of me... and she's just a horrible horrible worker who inturrupts people all the time and i won't be able to get work done. But how do you say that..
  • edited December 2011
    I've worked with people like this. Is she the only HR person? (Meaning, if there's another, if you could go to them and let them know how unprofessional she acts, with examples)

    First off, if your work knows about your pregnancy, you can totally use that to get her to stop eating the oatmeal. At least anywhere near you. Offensive smells are usually not tolerated in a workplace.

    I would definitely document everything, just to make sure that you've got concrete proof of her unprofessionalism before you bring it to the boss.
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  • luvdelilahluvdelilah member
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    edited December 2011
    I think if you plan it out you might be able to think of some not terrible things to say about her to your boss in hopes of not sitting together.  Obviously, not "she's a horrible person!" but something along the lines of "I have reason to believe she's been telling you rumors about me/unfairly throwing me under the bus."  I feel like you should be able to talk to your boss about this since it sounds like a serious problem.  Is there anyone else you can talk to?  A higher up colleague? Another HR rep?

    If you're really not comfortable talking to anyone, like PP said, take notes about everything she does that's inappropriate.  And don't listen if she tells you not to mention something... Good luck!
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_possible-work-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:155b44f2-5ad3-4021-8cbd-772d31b0dd9ePost:2ea37114-4706-4484-a4a4-170acff98a2a">Re: Possible work problem - HELP</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've worked with people like this. Is she the only HR person? (Meaning, if there's another, if you could go to them and let them know how unprofessional she acts, with examples) First off, if your work knows about your pregnancy, you can totally use that to get her to stop eating the oatmeal. At least anywhere near you. Offensive smells are usually not tolerated in a workplace. I would definitely document everything, just to make sure that you've got concrete proof of her unprofessionalism before you bring it to the boss.
    Posted by paprika28[/QUOTE]

    Nope, she's the only one. And there are over 20 employees here, NO one knows how she still has a job. :-( I may kill something, or just curl into a ball and cry.
  • luvdelilahluvdelilah member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh and since she is the only HR person in your office, you need to get someone higher up on your side NOW.  You are going to need someone in your corner when you start talking maternity benefits/time off.
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  • ButtonsPepperButtonsPepper member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_possible-work-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:155b44f2-5ad3-4021-8cbd-772d31b0dd9ePost:e97a5c06-9a80-4ec5-baa0-decb4f908c64">Re: Possible work problem - HELP</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think if you plan it out you might be able to think of some not terrible things to say about her to your boss in hopes of not sitting together.  Obviously, not "she's a horrible person!" but something along the lines of "I have reason to believe she's been telling you rumors about me/unfairly throwing me under the bus."  I feel like you should be able to talk to your boss about this since it sounds like a serious problem.  Is there anyone else you can talk to?  A higher up colleague? Another HR rep? If you're really not comfortable talking to anyone, like PP said, take notes about everything she does that's inappropriate.  And don't listen if she tells you not to mention something... Good luck!
    Posted by luvdelilah[/QUOTE]

    I've confronted my boss IMMEDIATELY when it has happened. The main time was about overtime pay, and she royally messed up. She had said not to bother the boss, we'd all talk about it the next day. She leaves work and calls her on her cell phone (because they are friends from church)... and I get this e mail at home at 6:00. I don't deal with this BS... I just don't want to sit with this woman! *STOMPS FEET AND POUTS*
  • edited December 2011
    Speaking from personal experience:

    1. Buy headphones.  They block out the people you don't like and also deter them from interrupting/talking to you.
    2. Don't fake it like you're friends.  I'm not saying to be unprofessional and b!tchy, but don't be conversational with this person when it's convenient and then flip the switch when she annoys you.  Just be neutral with her 100% of the time.
    3. If her food really makes you nauseous, ask her nicely if she can eat elsewhere for that reason.  She shouldn't HAVE to eat at her desk right near you.  If she refuses, ask your boss to intervene.
    4. Don't run to your boss whining now because it will make it look like you have a personal bone to pick with this woman.  Let her move desks, and identify specific things/habits that are a problem (like taking personal calls) and then ask your boss to intervene.


  • ButtonsPepperButtonsPepper member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_possible-work-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:155b44f2-5ad3-4021-8cbd-772d31b0dd9ePost:54907a78-442a-4ddf-973f-7dd7183df248">Re: Possible work problem - HELP</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh and since she is the only HR person in your office, you need to get someone higher up on your side NOW.  You are going to need someone in your corner when you start talking maternity benefits/time off.
    Posted by luvdelilah[/QUOTE]

    I go strait to my boss for EVERYTHING. I don't use her/ask her questions about anything. Even time sheets we are supposed to send to HR woman, I send to my boss. We don't communicate about anything because she doesn't know how to do anything. I've already worked out all of this with my boss.

    I must note, my boss REALLY likes me, and if I found a nice way of saying all of this, I know she'd try to find another place for me, I just don't know how to go about saying all of this...
  • dibsontopdibsontop member
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    edited December 2011
    <<< 4. Don't run to your boss whining now because it will make it look like you have a personal bone to pick with this woman.  Let her move desks, and identify specific things/habits that are a problem (like taking personal calls) and then ask your boss to intervene. >>>

    Excellent advice MH.

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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_possible-work-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:155b44f2-5ad3-4021-8cbd-772d31b0dd9ePost:ba4ac4eb-53cd-4e9c-97e0-c9e66eaeabe0">Re: Possible work problem - HELP</a>:
    [QUOTE]Speaking from personal experience: 1. Buy headphones.  They block out the people you don't like and also deter them from interrupting/talking to you. 2. Don't fake it like you're friends.  I'm not saying to be unprofessional and b!tchy, but don't be conversational with this person when it's convenient and then flip the switch when she annoys you.  Just be neutral with her 100% of the time. 3. If her food really makes you nauseous, ask her nicely if she can eat elsewhere for that reason.  She shouldn't HAVE to eat at her desk right near you.  If she refuses, ask your boss to intervene. 4. Don't run to your boss whining now because it will make it look like you have a personal bone to pick with this woman.  Let her move desks, and identify specific things/habits that are a problem (like taking personal calls) and then ask your boss to intervene.
    Posted by miguelhilary2010[/QUOTE]

    I agree.  Well, I should admit I was going to say her #1 and and #3, but of course Hil covers everything.  Plus Hil is an HR person, I would totally trust her opinion.

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  • angel33284angel33284 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think a meeting with the owner is required.

    First, don't assume that the own loves this person and is best buddies with them. The Owner may be all too aware that this person is evil.

    Second, You need to explain that you can't work with them without getting into throwing them under the bus or name calling. Just explain that you have a personality conflict and you think you could be more productive if you didn't have to interact with this person. I think this will be your best bet. Everyone understands personality conflicts. There's just some people that you can't deal with their personality traits and there's no way to resolve it. See what the boss says.

    Above all, be professional about it. If there ever comes a day when the boss will have to decide between you and them, you want to be on the high road.
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