wording on invitation

Re: wording on invitation

• BBear13 member

  

  March 2012

  Totally agree with both of the previous posters. One thing to be aware of, though, is that no matter how clearly you word it, some people are still going to expect to bring a guest.
  
  We decided not to include +1 for any of our single friends, since we are having a small, intimate wedding with only friends and family invited. We know every single person who is invited. Basically, there's no one on our guest list who won't know at least 10-15 other invitees, so it's not as if single guests would be alienated or uncomfortable and have no one to talk to.
  
  For both the Save-the-Dates and the invitations, we addressed the envelope only to the person, and on our response cards we had __ of 1 attending/___ of 1 declines, so there was no question of how many guests the invite extended to. (We did this on all the rsvp cards, not just the single folks)
  
  Within a week of sending the invites, we had two of our single guy friends in their mid-twenties send us messages that they are going to bring some one (on actually said "I'm bringing a girl, just not sure who, so when do I need to get you a name for that?"). So, despite all the precautions you take, just accept in advance that some people are going to try bringing a date regardless.
  
  If any of your guests do something similar, you just need to communicate with them right away that while you are glad they are able to make it, you are unfortunately not able to accommodate additional guests, and that you appreciate their understanding.
  
  While it is awkward and a little unfair that they put you in the position of having to tell them so explicitly and directly they can't bring anyone (especially if you already took steps to avoid this exact situation) remember they are your friend/family, and you still care about them and want them to attend, so be firm, but be polite.
  

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