Flowergirl dress

swimmy1988 · November 2012

Just wondering what does a bride do with choosing the flowergirl dress? Do they pick it out like they do the bridesmaid dresses? Or let the flowergirl's mother pick them out?

I was in one wedding in which the flowergirl and her mother picked out her dress, and the bride was a little upset since the flowegirl's dress was white and they didn't consult the bride first. But she looked adorable at the wedding, and yet the bride was still in the spotlight.

How does this work?

MairePoppy · November 2012

Either way.

The bride should ask the fg's mother about her dress budget, if the bride is going to pick out the dress. Or she could ask the mom to choose a dress for her daughter in the wedding party colors.

erinlin25 · November 2012

You have two options really... if you want to pick it you need to at least get their budget and work around it; or if you want just tell them to pick a dress and specify if you'd prefer a white one or a color matching your colors.

bunni727 · November 2012

I just told the mom my colors and had her pick one out. I did recommed waiting until after Easter (May wedding), so she might catch some good sales. If you want to pick, make sure to ask her budget first, or offer to pay.

Kate61487 · November 2012

yup, either way is fine. If the bride picks she should consult the budget of the parents; if the parents are picking they should stick to guidelines given by the bride (which could be color, length, material, etc.)

I picked my FG dresses, b/c I had two different sets of parents involved who didn't know each other, so coordinating would have been difficult. I also wanted there to be some cohesiveness between the FG dresses and the BM dresses. I was thrilled with what I found; I felt like my BMs, jr BMs and FGs all went together really well.

ohwhynot85 · November 2012

In Response to Re:Flowergirl dress:[QUOTE]Just wondering what does a bride do with choosing the flowergirl dress? Do they pick it out like they do the bridesmaid dresses? Or let the flowergirl's mother pick them out? I was in one wedding in which the flowergirl and her mother picked out her dress, and the bride was a little upset since the flowegirl's dress was white and they didn't consult the bride first. But she looked adorable at the wedding, and yet the bride was still in the spotlight. How does this work? Posted by swimmy1988[/QUOTE]

Ummm since when are flower girl dresses not usually white? Unless you go and buy an everyday dress, all the ones I've seen are white. I think it's very immature for a bride, who we all assume is adult enough to get married, to be upset by a young child wearing a white dress when they are in the wedding. I can see how a 3 foot child may be mistaken for the bride.
::eyeroll::

ohwhynot85 · November 2012

In Response to Re:Flowergirl dress:[QUOTE]ohwhynot, I'm 48, and I've NEVER seen a white flower girl's dress. I never knew this was a "custom" in some areas until The Knot.They've always been the same color as the bridesmaids' dresses, or a coordinating color.I agree about waiting until Easter, or Christmastime.nbsp; That's when most people I know picked out their flower girl dresses because of the large selection of pretty formal gowns for little girls. Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

I've gone to weddings from here in CT, to out west and all the flower girls wore a cute little white dress. Both in my brothers wedding, and my fathers years ago, they were white. I've never seen a colored flower dress.

kmmssg · November 2012

I have seen a couple of white ones, but for the most part I've seen ones that coordinate with the bridal party.

theelusive1 · November 2012

I think anytime you are thinking of asking children to be in a wedding you need to ask the parents first. My daughter is making it very simple for the kids. She asked the parents first and said black pants and white shirt. We are supplying the ties. The little girls dresses were reasonable but we purchased those ourselves.

Sharpschruter22 · November 2012

I'm on the color train. I originally found one I loved and talked to my my FG's mom about the budget. Then I was poking around eBay, found the most amazing dress in the exact colors I wanted and just chose to buy it for them since they are traveling. PP's are right to check after Christmas or Easter if you are looking for a good deal. Flower girl dresses aren't traditionally white, they are whatever color the bride chooses. I have seen them as white dresses and I had a problem finding a colored FG dress listed as such, but search for formal little girl dresses and you will have a much better selection. Those who think it is traditional to have it be white may be thinking of miniature brides...which I think is creepy personally.

TheVirginians · November 2012

The one time I saw a non-white FG dress was at my wedding. My aunt died the white FG dress I wore when I was her FG to be pink for when her daughter was my FG. I was surprised but could not have cared less what color it was.

Kate61487 · November 2012

I've definitely seen FGs both in white and matching/coordinating with the BMs. Ours were in white, but I don't think they went into creepy mini-bride teritorry (at least I hope not :-/ They were just cute white dresses....)

I'd assume the irritated bride mentioned above wasn't upset because the FG might be mistaken for the bride, but more likely she wasn't wearing white and white didn't really go with her wedding colors. A FG in white while the bride is in ivory or eggshell or beige looks a little silly, don't you think?

swimmy1988 · November 2012

Lots of good advice, thanks everyone! I'll have a talk with my FSIL to discuss what we can get for her daughter for the wedding.
I was thinking getting an ivory dress somewhere, then getting a sash with the same colour as the bridal party for her to wear. It'd look pretty cute.

pomundson0 · November 2012

I didn't want my FG in a white dress, I wanted her to be the main color of the wedding (purple), but with striking out finding a dress I went digging on Amazon and found a white with purple accents one we all really liked. I admittedly still wasn't entirely sold until I saw it in person though

My niece played the part, since money was tight for my sister, my mom covered the cost. I'd think the bride has overall say in color or if she wants all her girls to match, to just go out and buy a dress without checking with her first on anything seems like asking to unleash a bridezilla

Soon2BeMrsTing · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_flowergirl-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:d7353393-aa52-4573-b91b-2f9e80cb649cPost:15319502-422d-4691-b425-9e53b94eb5f8">Re: Flowergirl dress</a>:
[QUOTE]Finding a white dress shouldn't be that hard. What about one of the stores that sells First Communion dresses, for instance? Try children's consignment stores as well.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Great suggesetions. My FG and her mother found a lovely Communion dress at Penney's. It did the trick for much less than they would have paid at a bridal shop.

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