Hello there my fellow brides-
I need some outsiders' advice on dealing with my mother. I am Jewish, and my fiance is not. He was raised Christian but after becoming a religious studies major in college he does not identify himself as Christian, or as any specific religion for that matter. Apparently, my parents were under the impression that he would convert once we got engaged, and my relationship with my mom has become quite strained since they found out this was not the case. Despite explaining to her that my fiance and I are quite happy, that we discuss religion/spirituality all the time, we plan to raise our children Jewish and have Judaism as the religion in our home, she continues to give me a hard time and insinuate that it's not too late for me to call things off.
It would have been foolish of me to believe that I would be the one Jewish woman in history to have her family be totally cool with their oldest daughter marrying a
"shaygitz" (I prefer to think of him as a 'righteous gentile'). That doesn't make it any easier. I'm now considering having a totally secular wedding, since I feel that proceeding with a Jewish wedding (for whom we already have rabbi to officiate) will only remind my mother that things aren't going her way. Any advice from someone who's been through this before?