First wedding fight..........(sigh)

beckyh77 · November 2012

It was about the hotel block and 1 of his GM's who will be flying in from TX. We haven't decided yet where to stay on our wedding night, I kindof wanted a location separate from the guests for extra privacy, but now with this hotel yesterday we have the potential for a free night stay. Totally fine by me. FI thought it was OK to stay at the same hotel as guests because then we could hang out after the reception. Hang out? Hel-LO it is our wedding night, we will be busy all night mingling, I want to have some alone time. I've read that some couples host "after parties" but it's not really my thing. His response, "Well people probably aren't gonna want to sit in a room and drink more, they'll know we want to be by ourselves and won't know what room we're in." WTH?

Then with his GM flying in from TX. FI told me "I told John he didn't have to be there until Saturday." (day of) I flipped my lid on that one. When is he gonna get his tux? He needs to be at the rehearsal. Etc. I was sooooooo pissed. He's not sure when they're flying in yet and I get that, but I told him I didn't think he was taking this very seriously. He recanted a little saying it was kindof a joke and that John will be there when we need him.

UGH.........just a little mini vent, stupid things to fight about but I was so upset last night I tossed and turned alot and it was hard to sleep.

Winnertag1 · November 2012

I wouldnt stress about the GM not flying in till day off. You can go into a store that has chains across the country and select a Tux from there and forward the information to GM, Or even get his sizing from him and pick up the tux for him there - have it ready for him when he gets there.

FI's best man might not be able to fly in for the wedding till the day off either since he has very strict work policy about days off but we are fine with that. He really doesnt need to be at the rehearsal, it would be nice if he could be there but I am sure he can manage to figure it out once he is there.

I can understand being frustrated about wanting alone time after the receptiong. You are going to spend the entire night with guests and probably wont have much time to yourself during the reception. I just feel like guys dont think the same way we do. But to be honest, you and your FI will probably be dead tired after the reception and come the day off he probably wont want to hang out after the reception is done.

melb2013 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_first-wedding-fightsigh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:876cdc36-caa8-4970-8c08-34d424c69908Post:bce53668-07ea-490c-b66c-6c1a8aaa3388">First wedding fight..........(sigh)</a>:
[QUOTE]It was about the hotel block and 1 of his GM's who will be flying in from TX. We haven't decided yet where to stay on our wedding night, I kindof wanted a location separate from the guests for extra privacy, but now with this hotel yesterday we have the potential for a free night stay. Totally fine by me. FI thought it was OK to stay at the same hotel as guests because then we could hang out after the reception. Hang out? <strong>Hel-LO it is our wedding night, we will be busy all night mingling, I want to have some alone time</strong>. I've read that some couples host "after parties" but it's not really my thing. His response, "Well people probably aren't gonna want to sit in a room and drink more, they'll know we want to be by ourselves and won't know what room we're in." WTH? Then with his GM flying in from TX. FI told me "I told John he didn't have to be there until Saturday." (day of) I flipped my lid on that one. When is he gonna get his tux? He needs to be at the rehearsal. Etc. I was sooooooo pissed. He's not sure when they're flying in yet and I get that, but I told him I didn't think he was taking this very seriously. He recanted a little saying it was kindof a joke and that John will be there when we need him. UGH.........just a little mini vent, stupid things to fight about but I was so upset last night I tossed and turned alot and it was hard to sleep.
Posted by beckyh77[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I am 100% on board with you here. It's a long day of celebrating with everyone, after it's done, I want to be done. If the wedding was so great that the guests want to continue the party, they will find a way to do so... without you.</div><div>
</div><div>Is there any time between now and the wedding that the GM can come and get fitted in person for the tux? Then you could pick it up for him. He doesn't need to attend the rehearsal... actually... nobody really does. Rehearsals aren't super necessary as long as you get to verbally tell me people what order you would like them to walk down. You or someone else can fill him in on the day of. When I was a BM in my FSIL's wedding last week, I didn't show up until midnight the night before. You guys should let him know that you would prefer he come the day before for the rehearsal- also he should try to come the day before just in case the plane gets delayed.

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beckyh77 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_first-wedding-fightsigh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:876cdc36-caa8-4970-8c08-34d424c69908Post:0874b28f-d842-4706-83b0-d88636aa3bee">Re: First wedding fight..........(sigh)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to First wedding fight..........(sigh) : I am 100% on board with you here. It's a long day of celebrating with everyone, after it's done, I want to be done. If the wedding was so great that the guests want to continue the party, they will find a way to do so... without you. <strong>Is there any time between now and the wedding that the GM can come and get fitted in person for the tux?</strong> Then you could pick it up for him. He doesn't need to attend the rehearsal... actually... nobody really does. Rehearsals aren't super necessary as long as you get to verbally tell me people what order you would like them to walk down. You or someone else can fill him in on the day of. When I was a BM in my FSIL's wedding last week, I didn't show up until midnight the night before. You guys should let him know that you would prefer he come the day before for the rehearsal- also he should try to come the day before just in case the plane gets delayed.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

We'll be able to get him fitted beforehand no problem. In fact they are flying in from TX today to visit his parents up in Duluth so we're giving him a pre-paid postcard to our local Savvi shop where he can mail in his info. The tux shop just told us they recommend picking up the Thursday before the event in case there is a problem with one of the pieces they have to re-order. Sending someone to pick up his tux if the flight gets in late wouldn't be a big issue.....I could send my personal attendant or something to do that. I think in the heat of the moment last night I was more pissed that FI was being so casual about it like it wasn't a big deal.

pittpoint1119 · November 2012

I guess I am a little different.. Fi and I wanna stay at the same hotel and spend the night partying with everyone. We will have all the time in the world to get jiggy with it and as PP said everyone says you are soo tired by that time to do anything. We will probably drink for a little after with everyone then head back a little early. As for Groomsman I would ask about coming the day before but you need to understand maybe finanically or work he can't come till that day. Just pray he will make it on time.

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