Do People assume?

SarahB0427 · February 2010

Just wondering do family members assume just because they are your family they shouldnt RSVP to the wedding? Im so confused. What do you do if someone doesnt RSVP to you designate someone to call them and ask if they are coming or not?

hischiquita! · February 2010

Yeah, it seems like the only ones I haven't gotten an RSVP from is family!!! It's so irritating!
I'm going to start calling or emailing, and hounding down these people until I get a response!

jojochanti · February 2010

It's weird how even a pre-stamped addressed RSVP isn't enough (especially in my case they had to make their food choices on the response card). I put Mom's from either family in charge.. I gave them a list and they started emailing and calling and things moved along so much faster from there.

SarahB0427 · February 2010

I should have only given people like 2 weeks to RSVP not a month. It is going to drive me crazy..because I do have some B list people I would like to invite

desi2002 · February 2010

i think the only family that can "slide" on not rsvp ing are the parents. Im thinking of doing rsvp's by website, email and phone. Why should I waste money on stamps if they aint gonna send them anyway you know?

desi2002 · February 2010

this is how im gonna word it

The honor of your response is requested by March1st, 2011

You may choose one of the following options to respond to this invitation

Online at our website
www.blahblah.com

By email
abcd@gmail.com

By phone
123.456.7890

Kasi80 · February 2010

I made my sis, who was a BM, RSVP. I told her I hadn't received it and she said she didn;t know she was supposed to send it back because she was in the wedding. I told her it didn;t matter! Use my dang pre-stampd envelope! LOL.

I had to call people until I got an answer. Some people I never got an RSVP card from I just had to take their verbal YES.

est2005 · February 2010

I was a BM in a wedding and I got guff from the bride for not RSVPing soon enough. I didn't think I had to, but I guess her Mom was helping with counting guests. I had never thought about it like that. So I now I RSVP to everything, within a day of getting it.
Which at the time I shouldn't have cared. i hate that girl more then anyone and the marriage didn't last a year. I should have RSVPed with a punch to the throat.

sv4338 · February 2010

LMAO Torr!!!!!!

goldilockslovespolkadots · February 2010

YES! THEY DO ASSUME THAT! I don't know how many birthday parties (I know it isn't the same thing but isn't it proper etiquette (ha ha, not many people know what that is anymore anyway!) to let the party hostess know if they will be there or not?

I know it is a lot of work, but I usually end up tracking everyone down and making them give me a yes or no decision:) Which was worth it one year, because I made and personalized the party favors-and ended up having 28, but in the beginning I only had 6!
Michelle:)

SarahB0427 · February 2010

A Punch in the throat...LOL...

I just think that because i took the time and the money to give everyone a pre-stamped envelope to easily just ti pop them in the mail!

ladylulu · February 2010

I guess people do "assume" that and it does always happen to be family.. I think I have it double time, since my family has never done RSVP's (we're mexican and some of my family doesnt even know what RSVP is

....) For my sisters wedding a few years back, they "assumed" everyone was coming, and didn't do the whole RSVP thing... They just bought enough food, cake, & goodies for all the invited guests, but in the end, it was a waste of space, food, cake & money! There were a few empty tables which could have made the dance floor bigger, and more comfortable... (Not to mention making the reception look ful!)...

Anywho, I sent RSVP's (pre-stamped & adressed envelopes) and I have only got a few back. I forsee a lot of texting, e-mailing & calling in my near future...

emilypeach · February 2010

ah lulu i'm so affraid of that, Leo's family is exactly like that. they still havent been able to give me peoples names! i can just imagine me in a few months when it comes to the rsvps... oh lordy!

amberg321 · February 2010

Our familes were bad about RSVP's too. We even had an aunt that would NOT even return our calls or emails and yet she showed up. WTF?! My fav thing were the people that drove the RSVP's to our house with the stamp missing. Its a freakin stamp!

ladylulu · February 2010

Emily:I hope it doesnt get to the point where I am now, where I have mailed all the invites, and mom of FI asking me if I mailed on to 'Person X'??? ....My response was , Uuuuuhhh, and you are BARELY telling me about this person that I don't know...why??? ....No, they didnt get one, no they aren't getting one if you just barely thought of their name...

Amber: I couldnt help it literally laugh out loud when I read your comment about people driving the RSVP, that tells you that they wanted to make sure it got to you... My mom said, can I just keep the RSVP as a keepsake? ...I said, "mom, thats going to be MY keepsake from you, you can keep the invitation!" lol...

amberg321 · February 2010

I think it was more about them keeping the stamp. Pretty sure they spent more on gas :P

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