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Bridemaid problems

So my SIL is driving me insane!!! When I started planning the wedding we were friends and I asked her to be one of my bridesmaids and of course she said yes. Ever since then she has driving me nuts! She doesn't like my flowers, she doesn't like anything.

When it came to my maid of honor handing out duties to the bridesmaids for the shower and the bach party, my SIL threw a fit about having to handle the shower. She is always complaining that she is being left out but I make sure everyone knows where my planning is and my wedding party is never left out. Another bridesmaid was suppose to help her plan the shower but everytime she contacted my SIL her calls and emails went unanswered. I made a call to my SIL and she said she will get back to her 2 weeks before the shower date because she refuses to plan anything until 2 weeks before, she is too busy. Excuse me? This upset my entire wedding party.

She has caused so much fighting and everyone wants me to kick her out of the wedding. Unfortunately she is family and this makes it very hard to do without causing a family feud. My maid of honor took over the shower planning to make sure it got done. Well now my SIL is throwing another fit that no one includes her and how dare anyone take it away from her.
 
I am so tired of her throwing a fit that she is left out!!! She pulled the same crap for my other SILs wedding, and her own sisters wedding! I have 2.5 months until the wedding, how do I keep my bridal party happy and keep from throwing her out? This is my wedding, not hers!!! I have just had all I can take!

Re: Bridemaid problems

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_bridemaid-problems?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:c2e06415-a9d4-4540-acef-c13e63913714Post:d0a44f44-847f-4614-952c-e4a10cf3eb42">Re: Bridemaid problems</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridemaid problems : Me too.
    Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

    Me too. Bridal showers are like hugs, they should be given randomly and sincerely.
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  • Your MOH shouldn't have been handing out duties, your SIL isn't obligated to throw you a shower, and you shouldn't be involved in the shower planning anyway.  If you don't know why she thinks she hasn't been included you should talk to her - ask her why she thinks that and what she would like to be involved in that she hasn't been.  Do not, under any circumstances, kick her out of the wedding.
    Married 10/2/10
  • Yep, I stopped reading just about when Cew did.  The reason is, you don't hand out duties to your WP, you wait for them to offer.
  • No one told her to throw the shower, she offered to but then didn't want to be bothered with it anymore. As far as my MOH, she was trying to solve all the miscommunications between the bridal party and trying to make sure everyone was involved so there wasn't anymore whining about not being included.
  • Mandigee -

    Don't exclude her from anything - invite her to be included/participate/help, but don't depend on her...

    If she's got a history of this kind of behavior, you should have been expecting it.  Take a deep breath and turn to someone with a smile on their face.

    Enjoy!  It is your day!
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