Is it a huuuuge no-no?

ATexasBelle · March 2012

FI and I are getting married June 9. We already have our invites. Next week, we're traveling a lot and I figured we could just deliver the invitations to the people we're going to see. I know it's kind of soon, but it would save on postage since we're going to be seeing them anyway. Thoughts?

MyNameIsNot · March 2012

It's ok, but make sure you deliver them in private. If someone is around that isn't invited or isn't getting their invitation until later, it's rude. Secondly, be mindful of where you are when you deliver it. At their home or office is usually fine, but if you are out or at someone else's house, you increase the risk that they'll misplace it.

ElisabethJoanne · March 2012

Hand-delivered invitations are actually considered more polite/formal. Are you visiting these people in their homes? People raise concerns about people losing invitations if they're hand-delivered outside the home.

But you're about 6 weeks early for delivering invitations, so I'd wait and spend the...How many families are we talking about? Stamps are less than a dollar each, even for over-sized invitations.

ATexasBelle · March 2012

I'll be in there homes, yes. It's quite a lot of family that we'll be visiting.

meganpow87 · March 2012

Personally, a hand delivered invite isn't as formal as one sent through the mail. It's completely your option to hand deliver while you're traveling but keep in mind you'll be giving them out three months before your wedding date. I agree that you should deliver in private. I would be scared that the rest of my guests would find out that some guests got their invitations wayyy earlier and feel they were an afterthought. I would send them all at one time and spend the extra five or so dollars (probably less) on postage to avoid any conflicts.

jacki8788 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_is-it-a-huuuuge-no-no?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:4fa017c6-1acf-4286-ae91-253a75726007Post:5acca1ae-7c73-4a38-a5fb-76839fbebe4c">Re: Is it a huuuuge no-no?</a>:
[QUOTE]Personally, a hand delivered invite isn't as formal as one sent through the mail. It's completely your option to hand deliver while you're traveling <strong>but keep in mind you'll be giving them out three months before your wedding date</strong>. I agree that you should deliver in private. I would be scared that the rest of my guests would find out that some guests got their invitations wayyy earlier and feel they were an afterthought. I would send them all at one time and spend the extra five or so dollars (probably less) on postage to avoid any conflicts.
Posted by meganpow87[/QUOTE]

so, wait... are you saying that sending out invites 3 months before the wedding is too early? I've heard you should send them at the 3-month mark, and our wedding is June 15. I was thinking we're gonna end up sending them out a little late (a little more than 2 months in advance)--so maybe we'll actually be all set?

We were considering hand delivering some too... my friend did. I guess it's a little less formal, but ehh. We'll probably end up hand delivering at least a few.

em01092 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_is-it-a-huuuuge-no-no?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:4fa017c6-1acf-4286-ae91-253a75726007Post:3280f4f6-5a18-4b83-b6e9-222a823169a7">Re: Is it a huuuuge no-no?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is it a huuuuge no-no? :<strong> so, wait... are you saying that sending out invites 3 months before the wedding is too early? I've heard you should send them at the 3-month mark, and our wedding is June 15.</strong> I was thinking we're gonna end up sending them out a little late (a little more than 2 months in advance)--so maybe we'll actually be all set? We were considering hand delivering some too... my friend did. I guess it's a little less formal, but ehh. We'll probably end up hand delivering at least a few.
Posted by jacki8788[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes. I'm not sure why this "rule" exists. Most people now say between 6-8 weeks out, but if you're going to at 9 or 10, NBD. Maybe the 3 month rule was before people did STDs? Or before people had phone/email/text and mail took weeks to deliver? I don't know. </div>

meganpow87 · March 2012

What I meant was invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding date and 3 months is a little early (by what....um...about 4 weeks?) so it's not that big of a deal I guess.

dubird · March 2012

TK still says 3 months is your due date to sending out invites, which caused me some concern when didn't have our guest list finished by then! ^_^; Fortunatly, 2 months out was still fine, so were ok.

MiksChick23 · March 2012

From what I'm gathering, you are planning handing these invites out while "traveling." So these people would then be "traveling" to attend your wedding? I see no issue with this time table. My wedding is June 30 and my invites are going out in early April. Because the majority of my guests will need to travel atleast 4 hours and get a hotel room, I wanted to send them out a little ahead of the 8-week time frame to give them more time to prepare.

Also - a good friend of mine is getting married on the 9th and I got her invite in the mail this week. I don't think its too early at all.

Agree with PP on hand delivering in private and not somewhere where they could easily get left.

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