Help! DIY wedding..

Re: Help! DIY wedding..

• Enami member

  

  April 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_diy-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:35f67f81-d396-4da9-9173-e429f13890edPost:2e27ad41-fd4b-47e8-8b4c-b8f74a9afadc">Re: Help! DIY wedding..</a>:
  [QUOTE]Your son can't give you away, he is not in 'possession' of you like your parents are.  Why can't your son be the ring bearer?
  Posted by vicki0508[/QUOTE]
  
  Haha! Kids are more in possession of their parents than other adults are. I think its cute. If our LO were walking by the time our wedding gets here, I'd have then walk down with me or stand up front with FI. But, they will only be 9 months or so by then...

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• Enami member

  

  April 2011

  Ignore me, I thought the baby was older. Not unable to walk. We're probably just going to have our LO sit with one of the grandparents in the front.

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• gettingmarried412 member

  

  April 2011

  By "our" dance, do you mean the first dance? I've seen people do those at different times. I've seen the reception start, speeches made, and then the first dance. I've also seen the couple do their first dance immediately after being introduced into the reception.
  
  It's your wedding, you can do it however you want. I do think you need to be careful picking your words though, as saying that your son is "giving you away" is probably not the best way to do it in the cermony. I don't know what look you're going for, but could you use a little wagon? Maybe paint it the colors to match your wedding? OR just use a wood one? I also think just you carrying him would work for what you want also. Maybe your uncle can be waiting in the middle of the isle, and you walk half of it alone, grab your son, and walk to your FI? I don't know the best way, I've never seen this done.
  
  For the arch, I would either use lights like PP said, or get some cheap green vines when they're on sale and just wrap a few of them around the arch. I've also seen people use balloons and/or tulle and it looked great.

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• brittanyruben

  

  April 2011

  my kids are more in possession of me than my parents EVER were. lol i think its cute. plus since its only close family, they'll get it. AND  depending on how formal your wedding is going to be, decorate the arch w photos of you 2 on clear line....

  

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• DramaGeek member

  

  April 2011

  For the arch, you could try tulle and white Christmas lights.  Tulle is cheap, like $1-$1.50 a yard cheap, and comes in loads of colors.

  
  

  First dance - we did ours after the cake cutting.  We did our entrance, did toasts, cut the cake, then did our first dance.  Are you doing a plated dinner?  If so, I'd do dinner, cake cutting, dance.  That way people can eat cake while they watch you dance.  Otherwise it's kind of boring.  The first dance is really only interesting to the couple.

  
  

  As far as who walks you down the aisle, I agree with the others that it seems odd to have an infant carried down the aisle by his uncle so that he can "escort" his mom...and I put escort in quotes because he's really not escorting you.  What about having you, your fi, and your son all walk down the aisle together, coming to the altar as a family?

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• throoper member

  

  April 2011

  I think it's a really cute idea to have your son "give you away".  Plus it's your wedding so whatever, ignore the uptight old-fashioned people here.
  
  Re: the ORIGINAL question: this has been mentioned I believe, but what about hanging lots of long ribbons in your wedding colors from it?  Can't find pictures online of it although I know I've seen it before, but it looked really beautiful (and way cheaper than flowers)
  

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• trix1223 member

  

  April 2011

  Sorry, but I think it's silly to have a 6 month old "give you away". He lacks neither the capacity to understand that or the ability to actually do it.
  
  I'd leave that part out of the ceremony altogether.  But gosh, good luck to you.
  

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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