October 2012 Weddings

Weird question

Has anyone else been asked "Are you nervous?"

FI and myself have been asked an quite a few occassions. We were wondering if we should be nervous... Also I did have a few cousins say "next is the baby shower"....eek!

Anyone else been asked this or any other weird question?
Photobucket

Re: Weird question

  • NMINMI member
    Sixth Anniversary 100 Comments
    Until I saw my ticker display "2 months, etc.." I was okay!  I'm more nervous about the reception, and everyone having a good time.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker86 Invited image
    57 Aye!Will be in port! image
    16 Nay,be out to sea. image
    13 Are floundering! image
  • I get "are you nervous" a lot. I usually respond, "For the wedding itself, yes," which is true, but I'm a worrywart and keep thinking of new ways things can go wrong, ha. I also get a lot of "are you ready?", which I feel like is a hard one to answer. Like, yes, I am on track for where I need to be two months out, but if you were like, "Okay! Because you're getting married right now, go", I wouldn't be, you know? Like not in an emotional or mental way, that I'd be fine with, but quite literally there's still stuff to be done, ha.
    image
    Anniversary
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_weird-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8110c433-15f1-4ab5-9788-e65bf4389142Post:11dc1447-5134-4622-bf4a-786bce4ad757">Weird question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Has anyone else been asked "Are you nervous?" FI and myself have been asked an quite a few occassions. We were wondering if we should be nervous... Also I did have a few cousins say "<strong>next is the baby shower</strong>"....eek! Anyone else been asked this or any other weird question?
    Posted by nani1012[/QUOTE]

    <div>This! My Mom and I were at a friend's baby shower a few weeks ago and all of a sudden my Mom looked like she was taking mental pictures. So no less than thirty seconds later she blurts out she's making a list of ideas for my shower. One of her friends mentioned how my bridal shower was in a few weeks and my Mom interrupted her and said "yes, but I'm planning for the <em>next</em> shower!" I turned so bright red LOL!</div>
    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_weird-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8110c433-15f1-4ab5-9788-e65bf4389142Post:11dc1447-5134-4622-bf4a-786bce4ad757">Weird question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Has anyone else been asked "Are you nervous?" FI and myself have been asked an quite a few occassions. We were wondering if we should be nervous... Also I did have a few cousins say "next is the baby shower"....eek! Anyone else been asked this or any other weird question?
    Posted by nani1012[/QUOTE]

    All the time. I'm not nervous about marrying my FI, just nervous that everything will run smoothly and that everything will be done by then. I am getting the baby thing quite a bit too. At  my shower last weekend my mom and FMIL were scheming as to how they could sabotage my birth-control. YIKES! lol
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
  • I haven't been asked if I was nervous by anyone except FI.  He just asked me about a week ago.  He does not like being the center of attention and I think he was projecting outward on this one.  :)

    I also get asked, "What do you have left to do?"   That always makes me laugh, well I have XYZ to do, but do you really care??
    Photobucket
  • I get:

    "Are you getting excited or nervous?"

    "Are you ready?"

    "Is everything done?" ---- um, no!

    And then I get "you'll be next" in reference to babies b/c my cousin's wife just had another one and my sister is due with her second a few weeks before the wedding.
    172 Invited. image
    130 Accepted. image
    42 Declined. image
    0 Can't find the mailbox. imageWedding Countdown Ticker
  • I've been asked if I'm starting to get nervous, and I tell them no. I'm on top of all the wedding stuff, have no doubts about marrying my FI, and trust that the ceremony and reception will go well.
    It doesn't have to be perfect to be everything I want!
    Rings2
    143 Invited image
    88 will be there! image
    55 would rather stay home :(image
    0 Are procrastinating!image
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • Most of my friends know that I am not having kids, however, I'm 41 and look 26 and I had one of my parents friends say she was looking forward to hearing the baby news and I said "no ma'am I'm too old" and she was shocked to find out how old I was even though she knew my parents! I asked my Dad, how old does she think you are? LOL, it was pretty funny
  • I haven't gotten that, but I have gotten the "you're having a REAL wedding?"  My response...Why yes I am having a REAL wedding.  Would you like me to have a FAKE wedding?
    Anniversary imagemy read shelf:
    Cathy (CathyL7910)'s book recommendations, liked quotes, book clubs, book trivia, book lists (read shelf)
  • Yeah, I get the "Are you nervous" question as well.  I am not nervous to marry FI, just more worried that everything will run smoothly on the day of.  Why would I be nervous to marry him?  We have lived together almost 18 months and its been fine, so I don't really know what is going to change.  

    "Are you ready?"- No...I have a boatload of things left to do and my window to do them in is closing.  Not ready yet, but I'm sure I will be on the day of the wedding.  Everything will be done by then.

    I just smile with the baby comments.  I hope to God that I am next.  I told FI that the final say when we start trying is his, but he and I both want to soon.  If I am able to get pregnant quickly I'm sure FI's family will have comments about how soon we decided to have kids, etc.  Its none of their business and just because each of FI's sisters waited for 3-4 years to have babies doesn't mean we have to!
  • I haven't gotten the "Are you nervous" question yet.  But, "Are you going to have kids right away?" is nonstop!  I always say not anytime soon.  Last weekend someone responed to that with, "Welll, don't wait too long."  What?!  I'm 25!!!  We aren't even sure at this point if we want kids.  It's crazy how concerned other people are if I reproduce or not.

    Anniversary wedding-1 my read shelf:
    Heidi's book recommendations, liked quotes, book clubs, book trivia, book lists (read shelf)
  • Luckily we haven't gotten too much about the baby questions, other than a few jokes when friends of ours and FSIL just had babies, but nothing too serious. People know we plan on waiting a few years.
    image
    Anniversary
  • I met one of FI's co-worker's wives this weekend and she was like "You're getting married in less than 3 months? You're so calm!" I guess I don't really freak out unless I'm sitting at home with nothing else to do.

    The baby thing is only with our parents so far. We were talking about cake and FMIL said "maybe a baby shower cake is next" and my mom said to FI on father's day "maybe next year we'll celebrate your first father's day"
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
  • I haven't got are you nervouse yet, but I get, what else do you have to do? ALL the time. It just reminds me that I still have sooo much to do, lol.
  • I've gotten quite a bit of "are you ready" but that's more about the planning then the actual marriage.
    image
    Anniversary
  • I'm glad I'm not the only one whose female figures are being pushy about babies! We plan on waiting a few years to enjoy married time and get settled into a house. At my dad's rehearsal dinner a few weeks ago, my (at the time not quite) step-mom pointedly looked at me with her great-nephew on her lap and said something like, "He's the first of the new generation and we expect more to come soon." Then at my shower last weekend, I find out that she and my FMIL conspired to buy us all our new bedding and one of them made an amusing comment about it. It'll happen when the time is right. :)
  • First marriage to XH: I was a nervous wreck.  My parents were paying for everything and I let my mom plan most of it.  I was afraid to make any decisions and I was like a robot on my wedding day.  I still have my wedding pics and I looked shell-shocked in most of them.

    Wedding to FI: We're planning and paying for it ourselves.  This is the wedding and marriage that we truly want.  It will be close family and friends sharing our day.  Because of all that, I'm not nervous at all.  We're ready for marriage, but I am a little nervous about the baby part.
  • We don't get it that much bc we have been together for so long. We get asked if we are nervous about everything being done in time for the big day, which we def are. Even though our friends don't ask if we are nervous, I think we both are. We have been together for over 7 years now, and the commitment is just a crazy thought. ESP with some of our friends doing bad and divorcing, it's just scary to think it "could" happen. We would think not since we are past that 7 year itch, but ya never know. I hope this even counts fr the 7 year itch, and it's not 7 years after we've been married. Haha
    weddingpic
  • You ladies are lucky!! Are you nervous yet.. Is MUCH easier to address than the kind of ???'s I  get!  I WISH ppl asked me if I'm getting nervous... I'm pretty young so ppl LOVE asking me how much I'm spending on things. Which is funny to me cuz I don't even want to know how much things cost anymore!  I thought it was rude to talk about money in most situations. I'll tell you how much my flowers cost if I can send that invoice to your house!! Cool
    Why do ppl want to know how much I'm paying for things? My babe and I have been together for a few years and I come from a large family so the baby thing isn't a big deal. There's already a ton of babies, no one is rushing me for one more thank god!
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_weird-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8110c433-15f1-4ab5-9788-e65bf4389142Post:9c5f4ef0-417f-493d-b03f-c3566654008e">Re: Weird question</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Weird question : All the time. I'm not nervous about marrying my FI, just nervous that everything will run smoothly and that everything will be done by then. I am getting the baby thing quite a bit too. At  my shower last weekend my mom and FMIL were <strong>scheming as to how they could sabotage my birth-control.</strong> YIKES! lol
    Posted by fjw2012[/QUOTE]


    Luckily none of that has been said as of yet....but it was weird having them talk about the next big step. Let me get through one at a time please....
    Photobucket
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_weird-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8110c433-15f1-4ab5-9788-e65bf4389142Post:13bfe3b0-b894-4aab-a0e0-57a6300fd459">Re: Weird question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I haven't gotten the "Are you nervous" question yet.  But, "Are you going to have kids right away?" is nonstop!  I always say not anytime soon.  Last weekend someone responed to that with, <strong>"Welll, don't wait too long."  What?!  I'm 25!!! </strong> We aren't even sure at this point if we want kids.  It's crazy how concerned other people are if I reproduce or not.
    Posted by Seipel12[/QUOTE]

    Can totally relate. I am 25 now and turn 26 right before the wedding so I'm not in a rush to have kids.
    Photobucket
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards