Wearing white to a second wedding

Re: Wearing white to a second wedding

• right1thistime member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  The etiquette is the same for a second wedding as it is for a first or twenty first.   However, a white blouse with a black skirt seems fine. 

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• Lisa50 member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Wow ... I guess mom doesn't hold second weddings in very high regard, huh? 
  
  In this instance, I would say that the etiquette for a guest's attire should be the same for any wedding -- first, third, fiftieth -- so mom should not wear a white blouse to this wedding if she would not wear it to a first one.  Of course, there's the whole other debate (wearing white to a wedding), but I'd say to dress no differently for this than the other.  Uh oh ... I'm repeating myself.  Sorry. 

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• 2dBride member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree that a second wedding should be treated like a first.  However, I'm also not into taking the prohibition on wearing white too far, for any wedding.  The idea of it is that a guest shouldn't be wearing something that causes her to be confused with the bride.  And a bride would not normally wear a white top, black skirt combination.

  
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• lindaloulubbock

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Ditto the other posters...your mom's perception makes me sad, but I think wearing a white blouse with a black skirt is fine for any wedding. If she were wearing a white cocktail dress, I'd feel differently.

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• kksmommy member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks ladies.  I agree that a second wedding should be no less important than a first.  In fact I am so happy for my cousin after the h3ll that her ex-husband put her through for years after their divorce (court battles, child support, child custody, etc) that she was lucky enough to find love and remarry and be able to have a second wedding!  Good for her!  But I'm sure I'm singing to the choir on this board!
  
  But back to my mom's white blouse, even though she defended herself & said it was no big deal, she ended up showing up to the wedding in a black dress.  She nixed the white blouse after all.  She claimed at the wedding when I commented on her outfit change, she still didn't see what the big deal was.  I pointed out that out of 86 guests, NO other woman was wearing anything white, not a dress, not even a blouse..
  
  I do agree she wouldn't have been confused as the bride in a black skirt/white blouse but I felt like it was "on the line".. maybe "ok" but still something the majority of women stay away from (judging by the guests at this wedding anyway)..
  
  Just wanted to update, thanks for your opinions!

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• [Deleted User]

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Just as long ago, the tradition was not to wear white to weddings (that was for the bride only), it was equally frowned upon to wear black.  Black, traditionally worn as a mourning color, implied you weren't very supportive of the marriage. 
  
  Personally, as a matter of principle, I tend to avoid wearing black tofunerals since I usually feel depressed enough, and wouldn't hesitate to wear white to a wedding as long as it wasn't "bridal" looking.

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• thealphabride

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I invited some distant relatives to our wedding for my mom, it was important to her to have some of her family there.
  
  My distant cousin wore a white suit, with white hose and shoes. She stuck out like a sore thumb and it bugged me.
  
  Everyone said, "oh lighten up, it's no big deal."  (That is the girlfriends I mentioned it to when we were looking at pics, not my mom or family) I'm not mad or super upset, but it did bug me to see her in that all white get up and in the pics, she's in the background with me walking down the aisle and recessing, and It just plain bugs me. A little irritation, like an itch you can't scratch. 
  
  I won't clasify it as anything big at all. But, it was my wedding and no one else wore white!!!!!
  
  PS: my gown was ivory lace over light gold...

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