seriously wtf (another RSVP vent)

bridetobe71412 · June 2012

So, I just asked a friend of mine (who I honestly didn't even want to invite but she asked me about the wedding almost DAILY for the past few months, so I felt I should just invite her) if she planned on attending the wedding. You know, since the RSVP date was June 14th.

Her response?

"Well, I saw the RSVP card and I planned on sending it back, but didn't know by the RSVP date if I could come. Can I let you know next week? Probably won't be able to attend, but I may! It sounds like a great party!"

No, you may not let me know "next week" because that's 2 weeks past the RSVP date and I'm asking you today. That's why I'm asking you. Since I need to know. Today. You've had 2 months to figure this the f*ck out. So your RSVP is no. Ok?

Maybe I'm a b*tch but seriously wtf is wrong with people? This girl is married, too, btw, so it's not like she just doesn't understand RSVP dates and counts being due to vendors.

rachael7183 · June 2012

People have no common sense...I would mark her off!
My cousin told me she didnt know if she could come because she was planning on going on vacation that week (I sent out Save the Dates in like August of 2011). Then she emailed me, "I am going to come now, I am sending my RSVP in the mail today" (that was over a month ago...) She never sent her RSVP in...do I assume she is a definite yes?!

bridetobe71412 · June 2012

Seriously, wtf! And I would call her and be like, we never received your RSVP so we marked you as "no" - Thanks!

And yeah, I actually said to her "Well, I need to know today, so I will mark you as No. We'll miss you! Thanks." and then signed off gchat.

Morons.

bells24412 · June 2012

I am waiting on about 60 people and the RSVP date is Saturday....so i totally understand you. Some people are just dumb.

butterflyjumper1 · June 2012

oh. my. god. both bridetobe's and rachael's stories got my blood boiling. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?!?

There is a date on the RSVP card for a reason.

One of my bridesmaids called yesterday and told me she wouldn't be sending in her card for awhile because she was still trying to figure out if this dude who she has had one date with will be willing to come to the wedding or not and she REALLLLY doesn't wanna be one the only "single" people at the wedding, so she is coming, but she will RSVP in a few weeks once she figured out if she will be able to force this dude to come or not. SERIOUSLY!

lvissers · June 2012

Yea that is so rude! if you can't commit, then you are a no. I'm making 1 exceptionfor one of my good guy friend's who lives in Wash. DC. He works for Dept. of Homeland Security and really honestly doesn't know his work schedule and where they are sending him until a few weeks before, so I'm giving him until July 1st.

BeachLover2885 · June 2012

I completely understand your frustration!! The whole RSVP process has made me realize just how rude people are! We received RSVPs this week and our due date was nearly 3 weeks ago. Also, a family member of FI still hasn't confirmed if she's coming or not. He has called her twice and she's been like maybe, I really hope I can come, etc. She's from Florida so IMO she should know if she's coming or not. At this point, it doesn't really matter if she shows up or not b/c we have room for her, but it's just annoying. I know FI really wants her to be there b/c she was like a sister to his late mother and it would mean a lot to him. I'm just really disappointed in people.

BmoreBride311 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_seriously-wtf-another-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:6cd76fe7-c10c-4aec-b931-7e3ded47467cPost:3e9d0b0c-df3d-4c86-96a2-bf978cdbbe94">Re: seriously wtf (another RSVP vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]Seriously, wtf! And I would call her and be like, we never received your RSVP so we marked you as "no" - Thanks! And yeah, I<strong> actually said to her "Well, I need to know today, so I will mark you as No. We'll miss you! Thanks." and then signed off gchat</strong>. Morons.
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

Haha you are my hero! I have been way too nice to ppl about this stuff.

littlemoments324 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_seriously-wtf-another-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:6cd76fe7-c10c-4aec-b931-7e3ded47467cPost:3e9d0b0c-df3d-4c86-96a2-bf978cdbbe94">Re: seriously wtf (another RSVP vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]Seriously, wtf! And I would call her and be like, we never received your RSVP so we marked you as "no" - Thanks! And yeah, I actually said to her "Well, I need to know today, so I will mark you as No. We'll miss you! Thanks." and then signed off gchat. Morons.
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

bahahahahahaha!!! <3 you!! I will so be doing this...lol

rachael7183 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_seriously-wtf-another-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:6cd76fe7-c10c-4aec-b931-7e3ded47467cPost:3e9d0b0c-df3d-4c86-96a2-bf978cdbbe94">Re: seriously wtf (another RSVP vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]Seriously, wtf! And I would call her and be like, we never received your RSVP so we marked you as "no" - Thanks! And yeah, I actually said to her "<strong>Well, I need to know today, so I will mark you as No. We'll miss you! Thanks." </strong>and then signed off gchat. Morons.
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

I love that. They are all beat!

arunkumar · June 2012

I know how you feel.

Our deadline is tomorrow and FI started reminding his absent minded friends that we still need their rsvps. His good friend, who happens to also work with FI, said he doesn't know where his invitation is. Seriously? The beautiful invitation that I spent a ton of money on that tells you where and when to show up for the wedding is LOST? FI simply told him to find it and didn't offer any alternatives.

Another one of FI's friends was invited with her bf and her daughter. Her bf can't make it so she asked if she could bring one of her girlfriends, who happens to be one of FI's exes. FI is on good terms with the ex but we only run into her a couple times a year because of their mutual friend. This is our wedding, not some backyard party where you're welcome to replace your significant other with FI's ex. FI told her no, because he knows I wouldn't go for it.

bridetobe71412 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_seriously-wtf-another-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:6cd76fe7-c10c-4aec-b931-7e3ded47467cPost:20456890-af9d-4bee-8961-e61eefaac2d9">Re: seriously wtf (another RSVP vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>His good friend, who happens to also work with FI, said he doesn't know where his invitation is. Seriously? The beautiful invitation that I spent a ton of money on that tells you where and when to show up for the wedding is LOST? </strong>FI simply told him to find it and didn't offer any alternatives. Posted by arunkumar[/QUOTE]

One of my fiance's friends told me that he probably shredded the invitation because he couldn't find it and he usually shreds things that look like junk mail.

It took all of my power not to seriously punch this guy in the face.

KatieK501 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>This girl is married, too, btw, so it's not like she just doesn't understand RSVP dates and counts being due to vendors.</strong>
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

Of all the things that we complain about with RSVPs - people not sending them in or adding more people than intended/invited or not giving straightforward answers - this is what drives me the most crazy! They know exactly what we're going through!!! But they still don't send it in?!?! Like there's a "Let's make RSVPs hard for other brides" club that you join after you're married.

MeaganR12 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_seriously-wtf-another-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:6cd76fe7-c10c-4aec-b931-7e3ded47467cPost:8b8f0ecb-2882-4680-9175-23f52dd81b49">Re: seriously wtf (another RSVP vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: seriously wtf (another RSVP vent) : One of my fiance's friends told me that he probably shredded the invitation because he couldn't find it and he usually shreds things that look like junk mail. It took all of my power not to seriously punch this guy in the face.
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

<div>OMG I would die. If people only knew. </div>

TChiumi · June 2012

I know how you feel. My RSVP date is July 1 but I haven't received one so far this week and I"m still missing like 80. Some of those include FIs and my OOT family members and some of thee bridal party. Seriously people how hard is it to mark yes or no and put the f*ucking card in the stamped envelope!

You are awesome I am definitely going to use your technique when I start calling people who STILL haven't RSVPed!

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