13 comebacks to rude wedding questions

ashleyrene7 · May 2011

Hello, I read the 13 Q&As and I loved the advice. (I hope I'm doing this right) I was hoping to find an answer for a 'rude question' someone asked me. Not all weddings are triditional or by the book, like mine. We had a child BEFORE we got engaged and we're planning a wedding. We also haven't been together for that long but we are totally in love. Someone said we were only getting married because we had a kid. What do I say to that? Do I invite her to the wedding still?

Cynthia1207 · May 2011

I didn't vote because my answer isn't there. I would invite her and pretend like nothing happened. I wouldn't waste my saliva trying to explain why I'm getting married or that she hurt my feelings.

theluckiest555 · May 2011

I probably wouldn't uninvite someone to the wedding because of one rude comment. (If that were the case, my FMIL would have been uninvited a long time ago!

) I'm sorry she said that though. People can be so ignorant sometimes, especially when they do not agree with your choices. Just set her strait, and I hope that will be enough.

futurepivko · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_13-comebacks-rude-wedding-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:f5231055-ac58-4105-ba47-e0726def7084Post:581a0062-db84-4288-8457-171bf95d2933">Re: 13 comebacks to rude wedding questions</a>:
[QUOTE]I didn't vote because my answer isn't there. I would invite her and pretend like nothing happened. I wouldn't waste my saliva trying to explain why I'm getting married or that she hurt my feelings.
Posted by Cynthia1207[/QUOTE]

exactly what i was thinking!

Mrs.B6302007 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_13-comebacks-rude-wedding-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:f5231055-ac58-4105-ba47-e0726def7084Post:494f5cf4-b535-4768-9278-74528d250bfa">13 comebacks to rude wedding questions</a>:
[QUOTE]Hello, I read the 13 Q&As and I loved the advice. (I hope I'm doing this right) I was hoping to find an answer for a 'rude question' someone asked me. Not all weddings are triditional or by the book, like mine. We had a child BEFORE we got engaged and we're planning a wedding. We also haven't been together for that long but we are totally in love. Someone said we were only getting married because we had a kid. What do I say to that? Do I invite her to the wedding still?
Posted by ashleyrene7[/QUOTE]

Ditto the others who couldn't vote because their answer isn't there.

Polls for questions like this aren't usually accurate.

HappinessByTheKilowatt · May 2011

Depends entirely on my relationship with the person, so I didn't vote. If it was a family member and would cause more trouble than it's worth, I would probably invite them and come up with some snarky response to that question. If it is a best friend, probably the same. If it's just a friend or someone I wasn't as close to and wouldn't be sad if they weren't there, I just wouldn't invite them.

MyNameIsNot · May 2011

If this is a friend, I think you need to address it. Rather than looking for a snippy come back, it's better to be direct and ask her why she would say that. If she's a friend, her concerns, though misguided, may come from a good place.

If it's a random person on the street, a snippy comeback is better suited. But then, this person wouldn't belong on your guestlist anyway, so it doesn't matter.

breaness · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_13-comebacks-rude-wedding-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:f5231055-ac58-4105-ba47-e0726def7084Post:581a0062-db84-4288-8457-171bf95d2933">Re: 13 comebacks to rude wedding questions</a>:
[QUOTE]I didn't vote because my answer isn't there. I would invite her and pretend like nothing happened. I wouldn't waste my saliva trying to explain why I'm getting married or that she hurt my feelings.
Posted by Cynthia1207[/QUOTE]

<div>exactly.</div>

zoiesmurf · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_13-comebacks-rude-wedding-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:f5231055-ac58-4105-ba47-e0726def7084Post:a171bc6e-b755-4bd2-973a-dc0a6d8e1320">Re: 13 comebacks to rude wedding questions</a>:
[QUOTE]Start cultivating The Look. You know the one.....Cold, Icy Stare Of Death. Combine The Look with such phrases as, "Thank you for your opinion," or "I'll give that the consideration it deserves," or "Thank you so much! The loving support of family and friends means everything to Joe and I as we begin this new chapter in our lives." (Trust me....nobody can come back from THAT one without coming off as a complete ass). Best of all, The Look works great on misbehaving kids, when yours is older. :)
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

This

Amseph421 · May 2011

I would say "Yeah, 'cause respect, love, commitment, trust, friendship and teamwork (or insert your own traits here) are totally overrated in a marriage." or something like this that fits better. You can say it sarcastically or like you are kidding around. I'm not thinking straight about it right now. Maybe I'll edit it later if I can figure out what I meant to say.

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