Would this be lame/self centered?

J&K10910 · May 2011

I LOVE the photo from the wedding with my 3 BMs and I in the friendship gazebo (if anyone remembers it). They have all told me that they love it too. The three of them became fairly close through the planning, parties, etc. I got them gifts already, but I was thinking I could order that print for all of us, and put 3 in cute frames and send one to each BM. But then I thought that since I'm the bride and kind of the "point" of the picture, that maybe it's lame to send that picture to them? Like they might think I'm sending it because of ME, not because I think it's a great representation of how close we became (one of them hadn't even met the other two before my shower) and because they all love the photo.

Am I overthinking this, or would it be lame to send them the picture?

TheCranberry · May 2011

I think it's nice. I was a BM in a wedding, and the bride sent me a picture of me, her and her MOH (who I didn't know before the wedding), and I appreciated it. It was a nice picture of all of us. I didn't think she was self-centered haha.

ZombieNates · May 2011

No and I think this would be a picture I'd actually want to get. I hate those TY cards with the little photo inserts of the B&G that then you *have* to put up. At least with this picture, they're in it and it's a nice memory for them. Also, include a little note about how happy you are that they became friends.

pixiedust84 · May 2011

I've been a bridesmaid lots of times and I would have loved it.

If they think it's lame then they don't have to display it! But I don't think they will think it is lame.

[Deleted User] · May 2011

I think it's a great gift, especially since you're all close now. Go for it!

J&K10910 · May 2011

Ok, awesome! I got all excited about it, then I was like, wait.....maybe this is lame. I'm glad it's not!

anna.oskar · May 2011

i like it and think I totally would if I was a BM. I think you should do it.

pixiedust84 · May 2011

Hey JK while you're here - You used hair extensions right? What kind did you use? Did you like them? I need to volume up my hair for the wedding for sure.

Thanks! That's all - I won't threadjack anymore!

J&K10910 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-this-lameself-centered?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:67e128a1-114b-4fca-b8ce-6f74f3acdcf5Post:231343b2-434e-4dda-9ac5-6276c0ff5924">Re: Would this be lame/self centered?</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey JK while you're here - You used hair extensions right? What kind did you use? Did you like them? I need to volume up my hair for the wedding for sure. Thanks! That's all - I won't threadjack anymore!
Posted by pixiedust84[/QUOTE]

I don't mind! I used Euronext Remy premium extensions. They're 100% human hair and they were awesome. I'd definitely suggest a trial with them, or at least clipping them in yourself a few times--I noticed that when we clipped them towards the top of my scalp they HURT, so on the day off we kept them mostly to the bottom half of my head and I had no problems at all with them.

pixiedust84 · May 2011

Thank you! I was just looking at that exact kind online. I think it's a sign :-) I have a hair trial in two weeks so I'd definitely try them before using them!

Thanks lovely!! We can go back to talking about you now - it's definitely not lame and your girls will love it. Hey are you honeymooning? Does it feel weird being married?

J&K10910 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-this-lameself-centered?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:67e128a1-114b-4fca-b8ce-6f74f3acdcf5Post:58b26eff-2d73-462a-a654-999afb2443ae">Re: Would this be lame/self centered?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you! I was just looking at that exact kind online. I think it's a sign :-) I have a hair trial in two weeks so I'd definitely try them before using them! Thanks lovely!! We can go back to talking about you now - it's definitely not lame and your girls will love it. Hey are you honeymooning? Does it feel weird being married?
Posted by pixiedust84[/QUOTE]

We're "honeymooning" in June after we move! It feels...mostly the same, but a little cooler :)

amy7177 · May 2011

you are overthinking it. it sounds like a wonderful idea. if i was your friends/bridesmaids, i would enjoy having a memory of that day.

JenGin74 · May 2011

I think it's a great idea, especially if you added a card expressing the feelings regarding the photo that you've expressed here. I think it's a very thoughtful gift.

Steph0871 · May 2011

I'm late, but I agree. Totally not lame. Whenever I get around to actually printing pictures, I'll probably do the same thing

As long as you're not sending them massive pictures of just you, I don't think it's lame.

Bkseller13 · May 2011

It's a brilliant idea! I think they'll love it.

J&K10910 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-this-lameself-centered?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:67e128a1-114b-4fca-b8ce-6f74f3acdcf5Post:25538f69-3170-4179-bf04-11999acf4950">Re: Would this be lame/self centered?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm late, but I agree. Totally not lame. Whenever I get around to actually printing pictures, I'll probably do the same thing :) As long as you're not sending them massive pictures of just you, I don't think it's lame.
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

So what you're saying is I shouldn't stick a copy of the picture in my sig in there too? Well....crap.

missy68 · May 2011

I think it's a great idea.

My friend gave us (I assume she gave it to all of us) a photo of her with her bridesmaids - I want to say there were 8 of us (this was in the early 90s). I loved it. Plus, it was one of the best pictures existing of me. I kept it framed for a long, long time.

kd.joseph · May 2011

I think its a great idea! And I agree with Jen, just add a card with the sentiment you posted.

noodle_oo · May 2011

I love pics like these too! Especially when they are professional photos, they tend to be way better pics than you normally get with your friends. For our wedding, I had our photographer take an individual photo with each of my BMs for this exact purpose, to frame and give as a gift after the wedding. I didn’t want to do a big photo of all of us because my friends aren’t really friends with each other, so it wasn’t something I think they’d display having the other girls in it. I gave the first one to one of my BMs the other day and she *loved* it!

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