I'm currently planning an Oct wedding. I got a lot done right away and there has been a good bit of down time in between (theres a lot of stuff that can't be done a year in advance). Well now it's time to get back in action. At this point the only thing any of my bridesmaids have done is buy their dersses, not even their shoes, just dresses! I'm very frusterated and actually kinda hurt by the laziness. Its not that i haven't let them know what i could use help with or what still needs to be done. And my own MOTHER isn't any better. The only person asking what she can help with is my mother-in-law!?!?
I could be wrong, but i always though brides had bridesmaids to help out and lighten the load. They are all of my closest friends and for the avg women my age now a days most ppl only have a hand full of women the consider friends and not just aquantiances. I don't want to hurt the friendships. How do i let them know how i feel and get them to do what there supposed to be doing anyway and help me out without hurting feelings or pushing any buttons?