MOB dress color

nms5097 · May 2011

Wedding colors are chocolate brown and burnt orange. My bridesmainds are wearing chocolate brown dresses. What color (or colors) are acceptable for my Mom to wear?

She loves Navy dresses; would Navy look okay?

Thanks!!

em01092 · May 2011

I say let her pick whatever she feels the most comfortable in, so yes, navy. You could politely ask her not to wear white, but most women know this is a no no.

Honestly, she will be in maybe a handful of pictures with your BMs and otherwise will not be standing by them (well, ok maybe to talk to them at the reception, but you know what I mean).

I used to think it would be a big deal, but now I don't give a hoot. My girls dresses are Petunia pink from Alfred Angelo and my grandma (MOB) got a blue dress. Wooo....

Trust me, it sounds like it will matter, but it really doesn't. Save yourself some worry and just don't care.

trix1223 · May 2011

Your mom wears whatever color she wants. She's not in the WP so she doesn't have to match or even coordinate with them.

The correct answer, if she asks what to wear, is the answer my adorable DIL and my wonderful DD gave me:

Me: What do you want me to wear for the wedding?
DIL: Whatever you feel beautiful and comfortable in.

Me: I think I found a dress for your wedding.
DD: Oh, exciting! Did you buy it?
Me: No, I thought you'd want to see it first.
DD: Mom, if you love it, then it's perfect. Go get it!

Good luck.

nms5097 · May 2011

THANKS!!!!!! I've been trying to tell her whatever she wants is fine with me as long as it doesnt mat my dress too closely.. but she wouldn't believe me and so THANK YOU so so much for being an outside person saying "yes.. wear w/e you like!"

ps.. now she wants to know if black is okay..... opinions??

covejack · May 2011

I think black is fine.

trix1223 · May 2011

Black is elegant, classy, and fine. Especially if she likes it.

em01092 · May 2011

Yep, black works. As long as she feels comfortable, that is most important. She may ask for your opinion about a dress or two, as my gmom did, which you can give if asked. You can be honest but the bottom line is she should get the final say, not you, since she will be wearing it. Even though I gave my gmom some solicited advice, I insisted that she choose what she wanted.

mandi921vh · May 2011

Black works, as long as she is comfortable and feels beautiful in it.

bstent · May 2011

My mom was looking through bridal magazines shortly after I got engaged and started to get worried after seeing the "mother of the brides" models (who, I swear, look like they are under 40 and have never carried a child, let alone 4 like my mother), and asked me what I expected her to wear. I've never seen my mom in a dress, but she is beautiful and has great style. I trust her to choose something nice, but more importantly I want her to feel comfortable on my wedding day. My FMIL also asked me what she should wear and whether she needed to coordinate with my mom after a coworker told her they had to match. Poor mama's with all this outside pressure!! I am all for them wearing whatever makes them comfortable, they're both beautiful women and I'd hate to see them tugging on an uncomfortable outfit all night.

Kniblet · May 2011

My mom and MIL both were black and they looked fantastic.

[Deleted User] · May 2011

My sister and uncle vetoed my mom wearing black... I didn't care, but they both told her it would look like she was in mourning over the wedding. While many brides don't care about MOBs wearing black, some of the guests still think black is inappropriate (I've heard whispers of it at weddings I've been to, guests judging other guests or the MOB for wearing black).

If your mom doesn't care what the other guests think, that's great and she should wear whatever she wants, but if she's self-consious (like my mom) she may want to stay away from black. I thought my mom would end up going with navy because it is still dark and didn't break my sister and uncle's no black "rule" but she ended up with a jewel tone purple!

If your mom is having trouble picking a dress, offer to go shopping with her. We are their daughters and while most of us have wanted their approval all our lives, they also want ours, especially on "our" day. I told my mom I didn't care what she wore and she shopped for 6 months and didn't find anything. I finally took her shopping one day and suddenly she found dresses that she liked. I think she just wasn't confident with anything she picked and having me there to tell her I liked the dresses made her feel better.

teryn1 · May 2011

My daughter is having a 6:00 wedding in Sept. Her colors are chocolate brown and green. Bridesmaid are wearing a taupe color. Not sure what color I shoud wear as not to clash. Any suggestions?

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