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September 2012 Weddings

Ugh...some people!!!!! (vent sorry got long)

So I've been kinda frustrated with my MOH about my bachelorette party because she wasn't making plans (she tends to make things pull thru but I like advanced planning especially when I have people flying in for this event) but I talked to her yesterday and I am no longer frustrated with her!  She did an awesome job.  But, some of my other friends are sucking!  She said every time she suggests something people b*tch about money but then suggest something that is either not what I want to do or no more reasonable price-wise.

We are having my shower before the B party so people will get free (minus a gift I guess) food and cocktails.  Then my MOH found a bar in South Beach that is open bar until midnight.  SWEET!  Then made a table reservation at a new club down there that only requires a minimum of $50 a person plus tip.  Obviously you could spend way more than that but that is in everyones control based on how much they drink.  And, if we are at an open bar before, you should just be trying to keep your buzz going at the club.  Now in some areas this may sound ridiculous but in south Florida, if you go out a beer is $10 and a mixed drink is $15 minimum (for middle shelf liquor).  So $50 for drinking isn't bad.  Plus, we won't have to wait in line (this can take 2 hours at times if it is crowded), will have a central place to meet up (you are losing people if you don't have a table since it is too crowded to stay together), and we can actually just dance around our table (instead of having the classy men of Miami grabbing your a$$ all night).  People claimed we could just get men to buy us drinks all night.  Uhh don't really want to chance that with a group of 12 girls expecting to get paid for all night.  Plus then you have to chat up guys and I'm looking to spend time with my girls, not flirt for drinks.  My MOH also booked a hostel for only $25pp.  So you can drink all night and stay for probably $100. 

Yet she said some of my friends have been giving her sooo much trouble.  Not to be mean, but if the $100 is really going to strain you, just don't come.  Don't knock down what sounds like an awesome night and is EXACTLY what I'd love to do.  If you want to drink outside of your house it is going to cost you a little bit.  I get why she was hesitant with plans now.  But, we talked and I told her to book everything and the sour pusses just won't come.  It's just frustrating because many of them are local and plan on going home so they don't even have to pay to stay out.  Yet I have 4 friends (MOH included) who are flying in for it which is above and beyond a wonderful thing (and way more expensive than $50 for drinks).  Party poopers should just stay home!

Re: Ugh...some people!!!!! (vent sorry got long)

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_ughsome-people-vent-sorry-got-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ddf91249-850d-43b5-99b5-e0809fee026dPost:8f63ae09-ac9a-4b96-b544-0611e4246b99">Ugh...some people!!!!! (vent sorry got long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]So I've been kinda frustrated with my MOH about my bachelorette party because she wasn't making plans (she tends to make things pull thru but I like advanced planning especially when I have people flying in for this event) but I talked to her yesterday and I am no longer frustrated with her!  She did an awesome job.  But, some of my other friends are sucking!  She said every time she suggests something people b*tch about money but then suggest something that is either not what I want to do or no more reasonable price-wise. We are having my shower before the B party so people will get free (minus a gift I guess) food and cocktails.  Then my MOH found a bar in South Beach that is open bar until midnight.  SWEET!  Then made a table reservation at a new club down there that only requires a minimum of $50 a person plus tip.  Obviously you could spend way more than that but that is in everyones control based on how much they drink.  And, if we are at an open bar before, you should just be trying to keep your buzz going at the club.  Now in some areas this may sound ridiculous but in south Florida, if you go out a beer is $10 and a mixed drink is $15 minimum (for middle shelf liquor).  So $50 for drinking isn't bad.  Plus, we won't have to wait in line (this can take 2 hours at times if it is crowded), will have a central place to meet up (you are losing people if you don't have a table since it is too crowded to stay together), and we can actually just dance around our table (instead of having the classy men of Miami grabbing your a$$ all night).  People claimed we could just get men to buy us drinks all night.  <strong>Uhh don't really want to chance that with a group of 12 girls expecting to get paid for all night.  Plus then you have to chat up guys and I'm looking to spend time with my girls, not flirt for drinks.</strong>  My MOH also booked a hostel for only $25pp.  So you can drink all night and stay for probably $100.  Yet she said some of my friends have been giving her sooo much trouble.  Not to be mean, but if the $100 is really going to strain you, just don't come.  Don't knock down what sounds like an awesome night and is EXACTLY what I'd love to do.  If you want to drink outside of your house it is going to cost you a little bit.  I get why she was hesitant with plans now.  But, we talked and I told her to book everything and the sour pusses just won't come.  It's just frustrating because many of them are local and plan on going home so they don't even have to pay to stay out.  Yet I have 4 friends (MOH included) who are flying in for it which is above and beyond a wonderful thing (and way more expensive than $50 for drinks).  Party poopers should just stay home!
    Posted by volleygurl0306[/QUOTE]

    HAHA this part made the think of The 40 Year Old Virgin, when they go to a bar and find the drunkest chicks in the place... a bachelorette party!!!!

    Anyway, I think you are dead right and you have a good attitude about it. That is def crappy that some people are being difficult but as you said, if they can't afford it, then they won't come. I had this talk with a friend of mine who was mad when no one would come out to her bday party on a thursday night. Duh... its a THURSDAY. People work! I simply explained to her that if people can't come out, they can't come out. That's all there is to it. I say you go on and have a good time and enjoy the company of those you have there! Don't worry about poopers!
  • It's a bummer when something we (meaning brides in general) have planned don't work out or don't measure up to our expectations. I totally get your frustration.

    However, for some people (and even myself... with a Master's degree and steady full time employment) $100 is a lot to spend for one night. I don't think it means that these girls are trying to be difficult or don't love you as a friend, for some people it just isn't in their budget. Like you said, people would most likely be providing you a gift at the shower as well.


    You're feelings are valid and I know what it's like to be dissapointed, just something to think about...

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  • I think it's always a trade off of doing exactly what you want and having fewer people, or doing what the others want and having more.  Either is completely acceptable, you just have to figure out what is most important to you!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_ughsome-people-vent-sorry-got-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ddf91249-850d-43b5-99b5-e0809fee026dPost:77a6bc6f-baac-430d-af48-444c4096e233">Re: Ugh...some people!!!!! (vent sorry got long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's a bummer when something we (meaning brides in general) have planned don't work out or don't measure up to our expectations. I totally get your frustration. However, for some people (and even myself... with a Master's degree and steady full time employment) $100 is a lot to spend for one night. I don't think it means that these girls are trying to be difficult or don't love you as a friend, for some people it just isn't in their budget. Like you said, people would most likely be providing you a gift at the shower as well. You're feelings are valid and I know what it's like to be dissapointed, just something to think about...
    Posted by AriesAngel86[/QUOTE]


    Oh I am not insensitive to money at all.  I couldn't afford to go out for that amount.  Maybe if I was a bridesmaid I'd pinch my pennies to make it work.  BUT, I wouldn't expect entire plans to change because of my financial situation, especially if I couldn't give a more affordable suggestion.  I would say "Hope you girls have fun" and maybe give someone $10 to buy the bride a drink from me.  My frustration more comes from no one offering to help my MOH (with the exception of 1 idea which won't be any cheaper and is at a club I go to basically everytime I go out so it isn't "special") but knocking down everything she says.  I also thought the fact that she found an open bar was great because someone could come hang out with us until midnight (when we leave the open bar to go to the club) and then go home if that was out of their budget. 
  • I think you're missing the bigger picture - having your bachelorette after your shower is like one giant day of spending for your guests.  They have to get you a gift, they then will have to pay for transportation to/from the Beach, then they'll have to pay "at least" $50 plus tip for the club... and then if they don't want to get stopped at drinking check points (of which there are LOTS coming off the Beach), they'll have to pay for a hostel or a hotel.  That's at least $25-50 for the shower, at least $100 for the bachelorette party, and as a 26 year old who has lived in Miami, you couldn't pay me to stay in one of those hostels downtown, so probably another $100 for the hotel minimum, maybe $50 if they're sharing.  So minimum, we're talking over $150 for the day per person.  Maximum, closer to $500-600.  That's a LOT!  Then you've got wedding presents.  And for those in the bridal party, you have dresses and shoes.  Being in a wedding adds up, very very quickly!

    I feel for your MOH because she's caught between a rock and a hard place - your expectations, and the limited budget of some of your other friends.  I hope you have a lot of fun on your bachelorette, but do keep in mind that it's a lot to ask of your friends.  They probably don't feel very comfortable saying, "Sorry, I can't afford it" if you're calling them party poopers.

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