Also this is kind of a rant. My mother just yelled at me for a good five minutes. To remind y'all, I'm living at home this summer before I move into my apartment for my last year of college. She told me she booked the dj and I asked why she was going to the meeting with him after the new year with my FI and I. Then all heck broke loose. Apparently if I'm not careful, I won't have a wedding at all. Or she'll have the reception even if I'm not there. She then brought up the dress saying she never told me to buy it, and told me she couldn't help pay for it (she said the exact opposite). Also she denied yelling at me in the kitchen when I told her I was going to sell it (she did that too).
It gets better. She acted like getting my old preacher was a big thing I wanted. It wasn't. She was the only one who wanted him. I haven't been to church in 9 years and was fine with my FI's preacher. My mom started getting mad saying how she wouldn't have me married by a baptist preacher (she's presbyterian and technically I am too). It's not the bride's job to help decorate on her wedding day according to my mom, and I can't have a way that I want the barn to look because it's a barn and can only look a certain way (her way).
It's to the point now where I wish I could elope. I mentioned that and she said since she'd put down one deposit, eloping was no longer an option. Let's remember the fact that most of the funding is coming from my dad, not her. I have no idea what to do. I'm tired of arguing with her when she doesn't get her way (which is always the opposite of what I want).