Hi there Knotties,
I am having an issue (or maybe not so much of an issue) with one of my bridesmaids. I hope to keep this short, my fiance's brother got engaged to his fiance a month before we did. They set there date for the end of next summer (2012) and when we got engaged I set it for the beginning of June of the same year. I thought that should be appropriate since my fiance and I have been together longer. As I was thinking about my bridesmaids I thought it would be neat to include her since she'll be my brother in laws wife and I also thought that she'd play a major role in mine and my fiance's future so why not stand up there with me. I asked her to be one of my bridesmaids and she said I would be honored but I don't know if I can afford it. I said I understand but I am going to keep it cheap for all my girls, meaning they aren't paying for the shower and the only thing they'd truly be paying for is the dress and accesories for the day. So we went to go look at bridesmaids dresses and the dress that they (yes I let them pick their dress out) chose was only $99. They told me that that wasn't bad at all. I then just notified them (my bridesmaids) that I had just ordered my dress and within the next 2 weeks I'd like it if they'd ordered theirs so that way they get it in the right colors and size. It turns into a big fiasco for my bridemaid and now she doesn't want to pay for it due to things she has to do for hers. I then ask her if it would be better for them if only my fiance's brother (best man at that) were to be in the wedding and not her, if that will help them out. And I'm just trying to be nice but now she wants to start a fight with me and her main answer is "I need to discuss it with him." How can I put it to her now that I don't want her to be in the wedding or what should I do now in this situation? I will not pay for her dress because that to me means I have to pay for everyone's and that's not fair for me at all too. So where do I go from here? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!