Wedding date advice please!

ceciliarunge · June 2011

My FI and I have been searching for the perfect venue and we finally found one that we love but it is booked literally every day that we would like to get married.
What should I do?1. Extend my engagement by 4 months or so and not get married as soon as we would like. (We were thinking of getting married in May but the earliest we could get married at the venue would be Sept.)
OR
2. Have the wedding on a Sunday and hope that family and friends would be willing to take off work in order to fly out.
Is 4 months really that big of a deal? To be honest, we would have liked to have gotten married much sooner...like in 5 or 6 months from now but we're waiting until next summer because I don't want all of my family to have to brave the snow. So an extra 4 months just feels way too long.
Thoughts? This is stressing me out! Thanks

colstj1 · June 2011

Four months isn't that bad. I would either push it out or continue looking for another venue. But I am not a fan of Sunday weddings unless you want that casual feel and the risk of not as many people making it out.

KateJ10 · June 2011

That could be a tough one (hence your current position) I would say that for me personally a Sunday wedding wouldn't work for the type of wedding I want, so I would push it back the 4 months.

And by type of wedding I want I mean- I want a late party (ok, until midnight, but whatever) with drinking and dancing and having a large amount of my guest list stick around. I don't think I would have gotten that had I planned for a Sunday.

rachi1285 · June 2011

We were in the same boat. So that plus the fact that we're on a limited budget helped us decide to have a Sunday afternoon wedding. It's going to be pretty casual, but it fits us. Most of our guests don't drink and prob wouldn't dance, so we're skipping those parts and having lawn games instead.

saintpaulJess · June 2011

September usually has such great weather around here and is a beautiful month to get married. Even though it seems so far away, I would wait the extra four months and get married where you want to!

kaylas16 · June 2011

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[QUOTE]That could be a tough one (hence your current position) I would say that for me personally a Sunday wedding wouldn't work for the type of wedding I want, so I would push it back the 4 months. And by type of wedding I want I mean- I want a late party (ok, until midnight, but whatever) with drinking and dancing and having a large amount of my guest list stick around. I don't think I would have gotten that had I planned for a Sunday.
Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]

<strong><font color="#800080">This. It's exactly how I feel.

I'd say if it's more important to you to get married sooner, do the Sunday wedding. You can save some $$ that way too :) But if you are going for a party/dance atmosphere I would wait the 4 months or see if there is another venue you love.</font></strong>

wittyschaffy · June 2011

Another vote for wait the 4 months. I've been to a "traditional" wedding on a Sunday with dinner, dancing, toasts, etc. and I had to leave by 10 because I started work at 7 the next morning. If you don't want the full reception with all that jazz, you could easily get away with a Sunday but you also need to expect that some folks won't make it due to work.

Sarahsue1684 · June 2011

Another vote for waiting the 4 months. Plus you have more time to get stuff done.

graysquirrel · June 2011

We opted for the Sunday wedding and are really happy with it. True, not everyone is going to stay all night, but our venue closes at midnight, so it isn't going to be a big deal. It saved us a ton of money and we got a date that we liked. If getting married sooner is important to you, I promise that having it on a Sunday isn't going to ruin anything. People who care about you will make a point to get there.

nordke · June 2011

Agree with pp's, plan for 4 months later. And, although it may seem like it will be a long 4 months, it really won't be, and it will still be here before you know it.

FutureMrsSheeler · June 2011

It depends on the type of wedding you want.

If you want the traditional, all night wedding, you will have to wait 4 months.. what about getting married on a Friday? We opted for a Friday wedding, and are SO glad we did!

MAYA3300 · June 2011

just curious, what venue did you decide on?

maybe984 · June 2011

I had a Sunday wedding, and I absolutely loved it. I don't really get why people say that Sunday weddings have to be "casual." Really the only difference between our wedding and a Saturday wedding was that we shifted everything 2 hours earlier than we would have on a Saturday. Yeah, there were some people that didn't show up due to work concerns... but it was totally worth saving a boatload of money. Plus, if we hadn't... we would have to have waited almost a year to get a decent available date at our venue.

ceciliarunge · June 2011

The venue is Silverwood Park- the reason we like it (besides it being beautiful) is because it is 2 minutes up the road from my school and we are having the ceremony in the chapel there. We also love the venue because we are going for a rustic theme and it really fits our personalities. It's an indoor venue but it has a patio if the weather is nice.
I really appreciate all of your advice, ladies! I agree that 4 months isn't that long to wait. The date is Sept. 2, 2012 which is actually the Sunday of Labor Day weekend. I would have preferred the Saturday but it is already booked. The venue does not give any discounts for a Sunday date, unfortunately!

SuperRNluvsChef · June 2011

Coming from someone who will have been engaged 2 years and 4 months by the time she gets married....4 months is nothing!

PaddyB · June 2011

I am getting married on the Sunday of Labor day Weekend this year. I specifically picked the Sunday even though Saturday was available at my venue because I have a ton of out of town guests. This weay they can fly in any time on Saturday, and fly out Monday without missing any work.

ceciliarunge · June 2011

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[QUOTE]I am getting married on the Sunday of Labor day Weekend this year. I specifically picked the Sunday even though Saturday was available at my venue because I have a ton of out of town guests. This weay they can fly in any time on Saturday, and fly out Monday without missing any work.
Posted by PaddyB[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks for that helpful insight!</div>

MAYA3300 · June 2011

Great choice. Silverwood is a pretty park and the banquet hall looks terrific.

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