What to say when people ask how much my dress cost?

befiffick · May 2011

My friend and future sister-in-law paid $100 for her wedding dress and has been fishing for how much I am going to spend. My budget is considerably higher than that. How can I answer her without sounding like a princess or a bitch?

NOLAbridealmost · May 2011

Uh that is so rude for someone to even ask. Just say, "I got a great deal" and immediately change the subject. They'll get the point.

Meaghann17 · May 2011

I had an almost identical situation. I just said my parents surprised me and wouldn't let me see the tag.

marinabreeze · May 2011

Tell them that you're not sure yet, depends on what you find when you go shop for it. And leave it at that.

mica178 · May 2011

Just say that you're still working on your budget. Then change the topic.

Nattie24 · May 2011

One million dollars..

CLECyclist · May 2011

Eleventy-billion dollars.

kellyjellybelly · May 2011

I would say "Eff off" But, I'm eloquent like that.

ootmother2 · May 2011

Same reply I gave to anyone who asked how much the wedding cost.

"Why do you want to know?"

[Deleted User] · May 2011

Tell her none of her damn business.

em01092 · May 2011

Take your pick of what PPs said. Definitely don't tell her your budget unless you want to hear how "silly" you are.

Beverly8 · May 2011

Im going through the same thing when people ask my how much i spent on my wedding dress.

The amountspent on your dress is no ones business but your own as PP have said.

I simply say to people that it was a reasonable/decent price and I try to change the subject immediately. I do think it is slightly rude for others to ask questions about what you have spent on items for your wedding..dress included.

You'll be fine

good luck

sarabear23 · May 2011

I would let her know how disgustingly rude she is being, and not answer her.

KentuckyKate · May 2011

Gross. When people have asked us/our parents about the cost of things, we have either said, "It was very reasonable", "That's personal", or gave them a statistic about the average cost of weddings/bar/dresses/whatever they asked about, depending on who asked and how they asked. I just never talk about money or what things cost to anyone who isn't sharing that expense with me.

slynn85 · May 2011

THAT MAKES ME CRAZY!! I hate when people ask how much anything costs..and for what ever reason my wonderful fiance willingly gives this info w/o being asked (I know him well enough to know that he only talks to family about this and he is not in any way "bragging" he is just WEIRD) lol
But I like the response "eleventy billion" hahaha
FYI I paid $199.00 for mine woot woot But when people ask I think I will tell them some crazy number to give them all something to talk about haha

Brandiewine11 · May 2011

It's strange when people ask these kinds of questions. I just say "Well, why do you ask?" - they usually stop asking.

lyndausvi · May 2011

I'm not sure anyone asked me. If they did I would just tell them. I really don't care if people know and/or judge me on what I paid.

I admit resort guests ask us all the time on how much rent, housing, whatever costs. I'm kind of use to those type of questions. More than likely would have thought much about someone asking about my dress.

mkrupar · May 2011

Yeah Lynda I can see answering questions about things like rent or housing because you can give general numbers in that instance. I don't get why others ask people about things like dresses or PP cost for the reception. It's just rude and none of their business.

lyndausvi · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_say-people-ask-much-dress-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:03bc413f-e012-401d-b21d-310410a041f7Post:7bcd58f0-c8f6-4c89-9f38-247cc6bb5837">Re: What to say when people ask how much my dress cost?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah Lynda I can see answering questions about things like rent or housing because you can give general numbers in that instance. I don't get why others ask people about things like dresses or PP cost for the reception. It's just rude and none of their business.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Oh I agree, I find it all rude. Depending on who is doing the asking I do not find it that bad either. To me it's all about intent.
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</div><div>Example: We have a 'friend' (or should I say we know someone) who is all about how much things costs. She tells you the price of everything she is wearing. Which BTW 99% of what she wears in designer stuff so I can figure it out on my own. If she asked the question I would just ignore her because she is asking to be nosey.</div><div>
</div><div>Now when my friend who just got engaged asked about my dress is was to use as a guideline. She loved my dress as was looking for the same designer, but wanted to know the price range. I didn't have a problem with her asking, because it was for different reasons than the other person.</div>

Karen's MOH · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_say-people-ask-much-dress-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:03bc413f-e012-401d-b21d-310410a041f7Post:ca0a953a-9ffe-449c-be8d-5ecefafcbd94">Re: What to say when people ask how much my dress cost?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What to say when people ask how much my dress cost? : Now when my friend who just got engaged asked about my dress is was to use as a guideline. She loved my dress as was looking for the same designer, but wanted to know the price range. I didn't have a problem with her asking, because it was for different reasons than the other person.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>This. I had some good friends get enaged around the same time, so I felt fine with sharing that information since I felt like they wanted to know for the right reasons, not to judge much I did or didn't spend on something. In OP's case, I would put it of like, I'm not sure, I will see when I start looking or whatever. </div><div>
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Carlydl · May 2011

Totally agree with PPs. The only time that I wouldn't feel uncomfortable answering any questions about how much something costs for my wedding (whether it was $10 or $1,000) is when it's another bride who is looking for vendors or figuring out her budget. I don't mind my engaged friends getting the benefit of some of my wedding work.

But anyone else that asks is tacky and rude. What you spend on anything (wedding, house, car, clothes, whatever) is your business. If someone asks me, I have the perfect answer:

"Hey, carlydl, how much did your wedding dress cost?"

"Nunya."

"Nunya?"

"Nunya business."

befiffick · May 2011

Thanks for the advice ladies! I feel a lot more confident now!

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