Shoe color with this color?

misskassie11 · November 2012

Our colors are davids bridals malibu and canary! The girls are wearing canary dresses and we were talking about them wearing malibu shoes. There flowers will be white and blue. when clicking on the links you'll have to pick the color off to the side if will show the color on the dres and shoes.. These are links of the dress color and the shoes we are looking at:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Y-Neck-Slim-Satin-Dress-with-Ruched-Waistband-F44319_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Short-Bridesmaid-Dresses

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Satin-Peep-Toe-Platform-High-Heel-with-Bow-Maribelle_Accessories-Shoes-All-Shoes

And the guys are wearing malibu vest and if we go with blue shoes we are thinking of having the guys wear the canary napkin that comes with the tux

Here is also a picture on the davids bridal site where you can dress your wedding.

Maggie0829 · November 2012

Honestly, I think the two colors together may be a bit overwhelming. I would just let your BMs wear a neutral color shoe and keep the guys accessories to all one color. You can certainly show off the malibu blue more throughout your reception with linens and such, but to mix the two colors together in one outfit may be a bit much. Both colors are very vibrant so they may fight against each other while if you had a bright color and a more neutral color the mix would work fine.

artbyallie · November 2012

I agree that it would be too much, and honestly I dislike when the bridesmaids all wear the same shoe. Can't you just ask them to wear a color like gold or nude or something and then they can pick or may already have something?

Also, the shoes you linked look terribly uncomfortable, and I love to wear heels. I got lower heels from DB to wear for my wedding and even though I wore them a lot around the house, they hurt so bad I had to change during the reception. I will never buy shoes there again.

itzMS · November 2012

I was trying to think if something nice to say, but unfortunately, I just don't really have a favorable opinion of your color scheme.

#1, I think the canary color is incredibly unflattering
#2, If I were your BM, I would think you are crazy for making me spend $50 on a pair of "Tiffany blue" high heels, so if you are getting that specific, you need to purchase them for your bridal party.

misssunshine17 · November 2012

If you require those shoes, you need to buy them. I also don't love the look together. I think it looks a little immature. Nude would be much better.

misskassie11 · November 2012

The girls already told me they don't mind buying the $50.00 for shoes, they already said it's what i want. Because I already told them I don't want them to buy the shoes because they are expensive and I have asked them if they will ever wear them again and they said propbably not, but who wears their wedding atire again anyways. I am very grateful for my bridesmaids and don't take advantage of them and I am always asking there opinions and what they want to spend. So I am not making them spend the amount with out asking. My MOH is the one that picked out those shoes. and then one of my bridesmaids suggested the malibu color for the shoes. And I just wanted opinions on yes or no. Also the online version of canary is a little different then in person. I have two of the dresses already and I think it looks good with the malibu blue.

Maggie0829 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_shoe-color-with-this-color?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:a9d82719-369e-467b-8a58-91dfa2d578f1Post:44bb8c6d-49f2-42d7-973d-17aca8da880d">Re: Shoe color with this color?</a>:
[QUOTE]The girls already told me they don't mind buying the $50.00 for shoes, they already said it's what i want. Because I already told them I don't want them to buy the shoes because they are expensive and I have asked them if they will ever wear them again and they said propbably not, but who wears their wedding atire again anyways. I am very grateful for my bridesmaids and don't take advantage of them and I am always asking there opinions and what they want to spend. So I am not making them spend the amount with out asking. My MOH is the one that picked out those shoes. and then one of my bridesmaids suggested the malibu color for the shoes. And I just wanted opinions on yes or no. Also the online version of canary is a little different then in person. I have two of the dresses already and I think it looks good with the malibu blue.
Posted by misskassie11[/QUOTE]

If you already decided that you like it then why did you even come here for an opinion?

And many times your friends and family will tell you what you want to here rather then the truth when it comes to certain things, especially your wedding. Here you get unbiased answers to your questions.

misskassie11 · November 2012

I understand that but my girls are pretty out spoken so they would tell me if they will pay that or not! And I haven't decided yet, that's why I wanted a little more opinions.

pegasuskat · November 2012

I actually like the 2 colors together, but would go with a neutral shoe and tie your blue in with flowers, or ribbons on the bouquets. The blue shoes are to much IMO.

mcda04 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_shoe-color-with-this-color?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:a9d82719-369e-467b-8a58-91dfa2d578f1Post:f2871b1c-460c-41ee-9e78-cd139a1bbed9">Re:Shoe color with this color?</a>:
[QUOTE]I understand that but my girls are pretty out spoken so they would tell me if they will pay that or not! And I haven't decided yet, that's why I wanted a little more opinions.
Posted by misskassie11[/QUOTE]

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:9pt;line-height:115%;">It seems you’ve made up your mind about the colors but I wanted to add on to the uncomfortable shoe comment by a PP. I also purchased my shoes from DB and when I first chose the dress, I tried on those same ones. I loved them, I thought they were comfy enough and looked great. After I went back to alterations, I tried them on again since my dress needed to be hemmed, I stood for about 30 minutes and my feet were in so much pain. I wear heels for work every day and I’m always comfortable in heels, it’s just the way these are made that cause some sharp pain in your toes and the sides of your feet. Maybe they needed to be broken in but the pain was seriously really bad, one of my BM’s bought them for herself and she hated them as well. For myself, I ended up buying the Diana’s. </span></p>

misskassie11 · November 2012

Yeah thanks for everyones opinions. We also looked at the sparkly one at DB the dyeable ones. Yeah that's what I told the girls I want them to be comfy. So idk it's so hard to choose things that you can't physically see right now! If that makes sense. But I do appreciate everyone's nice comments!

Cryssteen · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_shoe-color-with-this-color?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:a9d82719-369e-467b-8a58-91dfa2d578f1Post:ce6d9755-189c-4692-ad36-f380d05749ff">Re: Shoe color with this color?</a>:
[QUOTE]#1, I think the canary color is incredibly unflattering
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm using a very similar color. It's brighter - closer to the DB Sunbeam color. Not EASY to pull off, but that's the bride's choice. And my girls all ended up loving it - or at least they said they did. Which is the same thing I said when asked to wear everyone else's bridemaids dresses. Anyway. I'm going w/ nude patent leather shoes. Told the girls to get a pair or use ones they already had. I tried a bunch of colors, but it was just too much.</div>

mtgsimpson · November 2012

I don't mind the look or colors...but it is ensuring you tie it all together from ceremony, to reception to dance...encooporate throughout

misskassie11 · November 2012

Every website I have looked at for my responsibilities, I have never once seen that I pay for anything for the bridesmaids besides a gift. All the attendees are suppose to pay for their own attire! Here is the answer I got for this site!!! Bridesmaid Dresses: Who Pays for Them? Q. Do bridesmaids have to pay for their own dresses? A. Bridesmaids are generally expected to pay for their own weddingday ensemble shoes and jewelry included. If you're a maid and you think the cost is going to be an issue, voice your concerns to the bride. Hopefully she'll choose a dress that's reasonably priced, or consider letting you choose your own. She may give you some color/style requirements e.g., black and anklelength, and then each of you would choose something that suits your standards. That way, you decide how much to spend. If your financial situation is truly traumatizing you, just be upfront with the bride about what you can and cannot afford. Everyone has to be flexible. So before you say my responsibilities are this and that, check before you say something! Because I have looked at several websites to make sure what I am and am not suppose to do! Thanks!

Fancypantsamy · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_shoe-color-with-this-color?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:a9d82719-369e-467b-8a58-91dfa2d578f1Post:610ad015-d491-46e5-a8a8-d228db3ce505">Re:Shoe color with this color?</a>:
[QUOTE]Every website I have looked at for my responsibilities, I have never once seen that I pay for anything for the bridesmaids besides a gift. All the attendees are suppose to pay for their own attire! Here is the answer I got for this site!!! Bridesmaid Dresses: Who Pays for Them? Q. Do bridesmaids have to pay for their own dresses? A. Bridesmaids are generally expected to pay for their own weddingday ensemble shoes and jewelry included. If you're a maid and you think the cost is going to be an issue, voice your concerns to the bride. Hopefully she'll choose a dress that's reasonably priced, or consider letting you choose your own. She may give you some color/style requirements e.g., black and anklelength, and then each of you would choose something that suits your standards. That way, you decide how much to spend. If your financial situation is truly traumatizing you, just be upfront with the bride about what you can and cannot afford. Everyone has to be flexible. <strong>So before you say my responsibilities are this and that, check before you say something! Because I have looked at several websites to make sure what I am and am not suppose to do! Thanks!</strong>
Posted by misskassie11[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>This is going to go over great. Ughhhh. Seriously OP, you really think that everyone who comments on this forum hasn't the dumb wedding industrial complex spewed crap that you copied and pasted before now? Have fun with the ensuing comments. </div><div>
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misssunshine17 · November 2012

OP, wedding websites make up "rules" so that you and your bridal party spend more money- because they're the ones that reap the benefits. They don't care about your BMs feelings or concerns, only that they pump tons of money out of them. It's 2012- the clone look for BMs is very 80s and unflattering on most people. Whenever I see BMs with matchy matchy everything, I assume the bride is crazy and controlling, treating BMs like props rather than friends.

And for the record, I am very outspoken but have kept my mouth shut for the sake of not ruffling feathers, so just because they say it's okay doesn't mean the actually like it.

spartybride3 · November 2012

I personally think the blue is seriously dated. It looks like you're mixing 1993 with 2011.

What about grey? Yellow & grey look great together & you can mix in navy (a more flattering blue). If you are dead set on these colors (which I would not recommend), then please have your girls wear nude shoes.

misskassie11 · November 2012

Again I never once said we were set on those shoes or blue. We are set on Malibu and canary as our colors they look great together at db. And again I'm not the one who picked these shoes out my moh picked the 50 shoes out and then one of my bm picked them to be blue. and my moh and I already agreed that nude shoes would not look good with the dresses. We were talking about silver or sparkly. And all 3 girls are paying for their dress, shoes, jewelry, hair, makeup, and anything else they may need. I already asked them before they agreed to be my Bm and they all agreed. I plan on getting them all a nice gift for being apart of my day. and like I said before I am very grateful appreciated of my girls, they have been so great! Especially my moh! and I don't care how many of you say that my friends will tell me its ok, non of you know these girls so you can't say that. Like I said they are very outspoken and have told me things they don't like or don't care too much about it so far. So I trust that they would continue to do so.

Viczaesar · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_shoe-color-with-this-color?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:a9d82719-369e-467b-8a58-91dfa2d578f1Post:6801e3a5-6df6-4cda-8743-eaa4fe0a0b8e">Re:Shoe color with this color?</a>:
[QUOTE]Again I never once said we were set on those shoes or blue. We are set on Malibu and canary as our colors they look great together at db. And again I'm not the one who picked these shoes out my moh picked the 50 shoes out and then one of my bm picked them to be blue. and my moh and I already agreed that nude shoes would not look good with the dresses. We were talking about silver or sparkly.

And all 3 girls are paying for their dress, shoes, jewelry, hair, makeup, and anything else they may need. I already asked them before they agreed to be my Bm and they all agreed. I plan on getting them all a nice gift for being apart of my day. and like I said before I am very grateful appreciated of my girls, they have been so great! Especially my moh! and I don't care how many of you say that my friends will tell me its ok, non of you know these girls so you can't say that. Like I said they are very outspoken and have told me things they don't like or don't care too much about it so far. So I trust that they would continue to do so.
Posted by misskassie11[/QUOTE]

Your expectations of your bridesmaids are inappropriate and over the top.

misskassie11 · November 2012

Not your wedding! And I really don't think I am! I'm pretty laid back with them. But thanks for your input!

misskassie11 · November 2012

No I disagree because they have already told me things they won't buy so it's not all about the wedding industrial I completely understand that they are trying to make money. But not all the girls look the same. They have different dresses and are going to look different. And I'm not going to reflect on any of the negative advice because none of you know me so you really can't say much. All I wanted was a yes or no on the shoes. I didn't ask for comments on our wedding scheme and the prices!!! I don't care what any of you say about the price of my color scheme, the only ones that matter are me, my fianc, and my girls!

Maggie0829 · November 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_shoe-color-with-this-color?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:a9d82719-369e-467b-8a58-91dfa2d578f1Post:358b9bbc-bc89-4391-8b9e-100aed16573a">Re:Shoe color with this color?</a>:
[QUOTE]No I disagree because they have already told me things they won't buy so it's not all about the wedding industrial I completely understand that they are trying to make money. But not all the girls look the same. They have different dresses and are going to look different. And I'm not going to reflect on any of the negative advice because none of you know me so you really can't say much. All I wanted was a yes or no on the shoes. I didn't ask for comments on our wedding scheme and the prices!!! I don't care what any of you say about the price of my color scheme, the only ones that matter are me, my fianc, and my girls!
Posted by misskassie11[/QUOTE]

So the thing you need to realize about public forums is that people who respond to your posts can respond any way they would like. They can make comments, state opinions, and make recommendations on anything you write about. You cannot control what people may or may not say. Yes, you asked about the shoes and you received answers about them and you also received some great advice about how to treat your bridal party from brides who have been there and done that. In the end no one will give two sh$ts what kind of shoes your BMs wear. In fact the only person who will probably even realize that they are the same or what color they are is you so that is why many of us think that it is just a lot easier to let your BMs wear a neutral color shoe that they most likely own because the shoes will not make or break your wedding.

I, in fact, answered your question about the shoes and then in a few posts down when you responded you said that you like the malibu with the yellow. So if you like the way it looks then why the heck do you care what any of us think about it? I personally hate matching shoes because invariably one or two of your BMs feet will suffer tremendously because not everyone likes to wear heels or peep-toes or whatever. If you really want the blue then just tell them to get whatever shoe is most comfortable in blue. Then each girl can buy something that they like and that is comfortable so when they are standing next to you on your big day they are focused on you getting married rather then holding back tears because their feet are throbbing.

artbyallie · November 2012

Honestly, if you don't want to listen to any suggestions, why did you even ask in the first place? If you only want people to squeal and coo over how awesome your ideas are, please go to weddingbee.

skantrowitz · November 2012

The norm these days is to pay for anything you're requiring other than the dress. I don't think you need to pay for their shoes if they can wear them again (like black, gold, silver) but if they're a "wedding color" it'd be nice to pay for them. Do they have to get hair and makeup done professionally? That gets expensive, so it would be nice if they had the option to opt in or out. One of my girls paid for her hair to get done at her normal salon, one used my hair lady at the hotel, and the other two did their own. One of my girls did my makeup and was willing to help out the others if they wanted. Everyone looked great, and spent as much as they felt comfortable spending.

misskassie11 · November 2012

I really appreciate your comment! It means a lot and I totally agree! It wasn't necessary for a coue of girls to say that. Because I have a different taste and unfortunatly the website of David's bridal doesn't do those colors justice! They are really pretty in person in my opinion of course. And they are great for a spring wedding!!

vanityink · November 2012

The colors are a little bright for my taste, but wouldn't be awful in my opinion. I would also suggest letting everyone pick their shoes though. One of my bridesmaids can't stand heels, one's really short and loves them. I personally have really sensitive feet and if forced to wear something like what you have there I'd probably not be able to wear shoes the rest of the night after standing at the alter from them throbbing too much.

If you really want Malibu-colored shoes, maybe let everyone pick a dyeable shoe and have them all dyed to match? If they aren't wearing matchy-matchy dresses, no reason for matchy-matchy shoes in my opinion.

icefog34 · November 2012

I just scrolled through somewhat quickly so I hope I'm not repeating here, but if you want your girls to have both colors on their person, have you thought about doing a malibu sash instead? Then their shoes can be neutral. Yellow is one of my least fav colors so I'm having a hard time seeing the two together, lol but it might work better that way?

I love the Malibu color though, my FI and I chose that for us too!

RamonaFlowers · November 2012

I'm okay with the color combination, but I think the identical shoes are asking too much if you're not willing to foot the bill yourself.

Would I, personally, pay $50 for Malibu colored shoes? Possibly, because I love blue shoes (It's kind of a "thing" of mine). Would I want to pay $50 for the shoes YOU picked out? Heck no. The shape of my foot makes peep-toe style look stupid, and feel ridiculously uncomfortable.

I think if you're going to insist upon a Malibu colored shoe, then you at the VERY least should let each girl pick out their own individual shoes in a style that they are comfortable in.

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