For those that have all or most of their RSVPs back...

volleygurl0306 · August 2012

What was your % accepted? I know every wedding is different depending on how many OOT guests and how big the wedding is but I'm just curious how things are shaking out in general for everyone.

Right now we have a 68% acceptance but have 96 responses (60% of our guests) outstanding so not very telling.

sbradke · August 2012

74% but still a few out there. Of the declines we've received, that number is 16%.

BTW - today is my RSVP deadline.

kmleon83 · August 2012

right now i'm at 59% accepted, but like you , have a lot of responses left to receive (92!). rsvp deadline is next friday so just hoping people get with the program and start sending them back!

calindi · August 2012

56%. We love the final number, but we'll miss the individuals who couldn't make it. While we expected around 60-70%, it makes sense - literally all of our guests need to stay at a hotel, and many would need 4+ hours of driving or train travel or even planes to be at the wedding.

agladhill · August 2012

We had about an 80% acceptance rate.

kellycatalo · August 2012

ours was about 73%, which was actually right on target to fit in our room (i invited too many people to begin with). some were surprises, but most of the no's were expected.

smartlypretty · August 2012

My deadline was tuesday. I invited 121 (mostly local) and have an 89% acceptance rate. That's 107 attending with 7 No's. I'm still missing 3 RSVP cards (which is 7 people), but I'm going to give them a few more days.

saturninus · August 2012

Probably 90%

BethSt · August 2012

I've had about a 60% acceptance rate, my rsvp date is Sept. 1st and I only have a handful of rsvp's outstandings. Everyone from my side of the list is out of town, so I was expecting a lot of no's, however there were some big surprises for me in both the no's and the yes's! Some were hurtful while others were extremely awesome (given the cost to fly out to Vermont and book a room for my wedding).

cronin85 · August 2012

130 invited only 2 declines

Kello4221 · August 2012

We had 80% if you look at individuals - but if you look at it as couples it would have been 85% (we gave a lot of +1s as a courtesy but many people are coming solo anyways!)

L&K2012 · August 2012

We have just over an 80% acceptance rate which is WAY higher than I anticipated as it is semi-destination. The closest people have to travel over 2 hours, most have to travel between 3-4 and a few have to fly (those people would have had to fly even if the wedding was in my hometown). I am very happy so many people were able to make it!!

hollyweenOR · August 2012

We sent out 132, 59 are coming, 35 aren't, haven't heard from 38, 8 days til the RSVP deadline. So I guess 62% of those who have responded are coming, and we've heard from 71% of the people we invited. All of the family lives somewhere else in the country (midwest, California, east coast), so we knew not everyone would make it, esp. since fi's mother's side of the family just had a very well-attended family reunion in July (we went too, so at least we got to see them all!).

Kinda wish it wasn't really gauche to send out some additional invitations- there were folks like co-workers we'd have liked to have invited, but family came first...but now they're not coming! And our venue had a pretty firm ceiling on # of attendees, so we couldn't really risk it. Oh well.

BethSt · August 2012

hollyween-I've asked extra people once I've found out some no's. Maybe a bit gauche (I'm lucky in that I just started a job 2 weeks ago,so I can claim that I had already sent out the invites, which is true), but we are inviting some additional friends,and they are stoked, even though they know they weren't on the original invite People understand (for the most part) that weddings are expensive and it's a big deal to be invited, so an invite at all is awesome. I recommend inviting over happy hour after a couple drinks

I've had that happen to me, and even as a "B" list guest it's great to be invited (I LOVE weddings though). People are more understanding than you think!

hollyweenOR · August 2012

BethSt, you're right. I might float a few, "Hey, we had to invite a ton of family and now they're not coming, so there's more room than we thought, and we'd love to have you" test balloons. Thanks.

Alipaps · August 2012

We invited 50 and 8 people still haven't responded. The deadline was a month ago and the wedding is in 3 weeks. I have to give a headcount to the caterer next week! At some point, do you just let people know that since you haven't heard from them, you're going to mark them as declined? My mom and I have emailed and called these 8 people repeatedly, to no avail.

Laur110 · August 2012

With all of our RSVPs back we had a 75% acceptance rate. That gives us 200 guests attending! I am very excited they can all make it, especially considering that we have so many OOTers!

calindi · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_for-those-that-have-all-or-most-of-their-rsvps-back?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:9078de82-9cf4-4be8-bda2-efd73a228b49Post:570b23f5-5c69-41a0-96fe-7b0610225c4b">Re: For those that have all or most of their RSVPs back...</a>:
[QUOTE]BethSt, you're right. I might float a few, "Hey, we had to invite a ton of family and now they're not coming, so there's more room than we thought, and we'd love to have you" test balloons. Thanks.
Posted by hollyweenOR[/QUOTE]

I think this flies a lot better than sending an invite and pretending it's A-list (especially when the RSVP date is in like a week... or has passed already - I had that happen once!).

I do think most young people tend to understand when you're straight with them - "Listen, we had a TON of family we had to invite, but a lot have said no, so now we can invite some more friends! I know it's last minute, but I'd love it if you can make it."

I also made the point to emphasize to these people that we do NOT want a gift from them - that just coming would make our day better. I think that also helped push the point that we're not just trying to maximize gifts and such.

volleygurl0306 · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_for-those-that-have-all-or-most-of-their-rsvps-back?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:9078de82-9cf4-4be8-bda2-efd73a228b49Post:5abe28a5-239a-45f7-bd3f-584b5047aec9">Re: For those that have all or most of their RSVPs back...</a>:
[QUOTE]We invited 50 and 8 people still haven't responded. The deadline was a month ago and the wedding is in 3 weeks. I have to give a headcount to the caterer next week! At some point, do you just let people know that since you haven't heard from them, you're going to mark them as declined? My mom and I have emailed and called these 8 people repeatedly, to no avail.
Posted by Alipaps[/QUOTE]

If you hit the day where you have to give a headcount and you haven't received an answer, I'd definitely count them as no's. If they are important to you (which with only 50 people I assume they are), I'd keep trying to get in touch with them, if not I'd let them call you. I think it would be fair to call them though and say "I am submitting my headcount on Wednesday (I'd prob say a day earlier than you are in case they call at 10pm on that day) so if you'll be attending I need to know by then or I'll have to mark you down as decline." This gives them another deadline. You can't wait forever for people...you have a contract to uphold so I think this is okay,

Jennybenny5785 · August 2012

I would say we had about a 90% acceptance rate with all of our RSVP"s back.

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