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Asked to be in another wedding around the same time as my own..

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 Am I being super selfish by telling a friend that I don't think I should commit to being a bridesmaid in her wedding because of my own wedding? My fiance and I are paying for our entire wedding ourselves. We have kids and not much money. I feel terrible saying no... but I really do not think I should make that type of commitment when I know it will just make me anxious and unhappy. Our weddings are planned around the same time. Advice?
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Re: Asked to be in another wedding around the same time as my own..

  • 4LeafClover34LeafClover3
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You aren't being selfish. Your reason is legitimate and I think if you explain that to her she will understand. If she doesn't... well then that isn't a very good friend thing to do.
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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
    Eighth Anniversary 1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Your fine to decline. If you want to explain to her your reason I'm sure she will understand. You don't have to feel guilty in saying no.
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    You aren't being selfish, you are being prudent and polite.  Just gently decline and tell her howmuch you are looking forward to her wedding.
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  • Ljacks87Ljacks87
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    It's definitely not selfish, and I think more women should think about the decision of whether or not to accept being a BM.If you're planning your own wedding, you will be stressed, strapped for cash and may not be able to dedicate the time to the bride that you would like. I'm sure she will understand.
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  • jolla92126jolla92126 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You were asked, not summoned. Feel free to politely decline.
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  • AshleyNJustin2012AshleyNJustin2012
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    As someone who is in that situation, please decline for your own sanity and wallet.
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