unity candle and memorial candle

Re: unity candle and memorial candle

• [Deleted User] member

  

  April 2011

  First of all, you should check with the Catholic church where you intend to marry. A unity candle is not part of the Catholic liturgy, therefore many priests do not permit them. We were married in the Catholic church and were not allowed to have one.
  
  Secondly, why not do the memorial candles at the reception venue?
  

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• txaudrie member

  

  April 2011

   Thank you I will check with our priest to see if it is permitted. I ask my fiance about lighting the candle at the reception.. thank you for your response

  Mrs Audra Castro

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• Kate61487 member

  

  April 2011

  I'm catholic too and have always seen Unity candles - must be regional.
  
  So if I understand your post you're saying the side candles for your unity (traditionally lit by the mothers, from what I've seen) would be 'memorial candles' and you'd have aunts and uncles light them instead of your parents?  From what I'm understanding it wouldn't be any more candles than is normally involved in a unity candle ceremony. 
  
  As far as whether it's too sad - that depends on how big of a deal you make of the memorial candles.  If I was a guest I wouldn't automatically know why your aunt was lighting the candle instead of your mom; would you announce it? put it in the program?  the level of sadness is determined by how big of a deal you make of it.  If it's just a memorial candle for YOU then no it's not sad, if you make a huge deal of it, it could be too sad.

  

   
  

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• txaudrie member

  

  April 2011

  the memorial candles would be lit the my soon to be hubby and i would take the side candles and light them using the memorial candles. then light our center candle..

  Mrs Audra Castro

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